- It is weird saying husband and wife.
- It's so weird
- Oh, my wife is at home, like what?
- What?
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- Hi, guys!
- Hey oh!
- Married!
- Bailey and Asa!
- 'Kay, so we're doing a married life QnA today.
There hasn't been really many updates since the wedding
about what the heck is going on, how life is.
So we're going to give that to y'all.
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- [Asa] Hello people!
Hello!
- But I am going to say this.
We have a lot of requests for a first time video and we
actually filmed it, but unfortunately,
just due to like restrictions on a lot of social media
platforms, on like what kind of content you can post...
(Asa sputters)
- We can't post it anywhere.
Like, I genuinely want to talk about that stuff.
We have no problem talking.
There are a ton of questions I saw in the questionnaire
about...
(both mouth out the word "sex")
That we cannot answer because of the content restrictions.
So unfortunately, that will not be part of this.
Oh my gosh, you guys,
we have tried to film this video like...
- It's been like four hours since we first,
first started trying and I still have a project due.
- Okay, headband is in!
(record skipping sound effect)
- I'm gonna pull up the questions that you guys asked,
"Any pet peeves of the sort that you did not know
each other, about each other until now?"
- I was actually saying one yesterday
- Is this hair weird? Where does it go?
(Asa laughs)
- That...
I actually did find one thing out about him.
Not a pet peeve, per se, but something that I'm like,
yeah, that's going to bother me, if it doesn't get fixed.
When you spit your toothpaste in the sink,
after you're done brushing your teeth and you don't like
rinse it down the sink and it dries in the sink bowl.
He does that, and the sink bowl is like
covered in white toothpaste and I'm like,
this cannot keep happening.
- Here's the thing, I do that every time,
I rinse it! I'll like put my hand in the bowl
and I'll scrape it out.
- I don't know what to tell you, I mean,
the toothpaste is drying in the sink and it wasn't doing
that when I was doing it by myself. So.
Have you discovered anything about me?
- I don't know if this is necessarily pet peeve
and I can't necessarily fault you for it
because I go to class every morning.
That also means I'm taking out the puppies at 8:00 AM.
- Yup, that's true!
- I'm running on four hours of sleep. Please help.
- "Do people treat us differently, positively or negatively,
after we went from dating, engaged, or married?"
The only thing that's really different. Like number one,
we have been getting asked about kids
non-stop!
- It's, it's immediate!
If you get married,
the day after you get married,
you're going to get asked about kids.
- So that has never been a discussion until we got married.
And now it's like the hot topic.
- Which I would say is a negative.
- Which is not fun, I do not like that.
Ah, another thing that's kind of funny is like, people,
I don't know how to describe it, like
we kind of can like get away with making jokes and stuff now
that we were not able to before.
Like, I guess maybe because we're in marriage,
we're married now that people are like, oh yeah,
that's normal. Whatever.
Nothing super noticeable.
The most noticeable change in the way people are treating us
is the questions about kids.
Like, that's one of our kids right there.
And his butt.
- He's doing a stretch for ya.
- Like I said, here's a question about kids.
Somebody is asking about kids.
We do not plan on having kids anytime soon...
- Very clear!
- At least for a few years, at a minimum, a few years.
- I'm planning on going to MBA school
in the next couple of years,
and I don't want to have kids while I'm dealing with that.
- So, we're going to wait a while.
And the number of kids,
I feel like you can't really say how many kids you want
'til you have a kid? 'Cause you don't really know,
like you could have the world's best and easiest children,
and then want a bajillion of them
But I would say the safe bet is three.
- Yeah, hard stop at four.
I don't care how good they are.
- Minds can change depending...
- That's true
Maybe two, maybe one!
- Our children should hopefully get some very pretty lashes.
- And eyes.
And maybe teeth?
- You can't see his, but they are very long.
I call them camel lashes because they stick straight out.
- Can you see 'em like this?
- (Bailey whispers) You can see 'em like that.
- We did move in together.
We're all moved into our apartment.
- We had done all the moving process
right before the wedding.
You would not want to move
after you get home from the honeymoon.
That would be horrible.
So it was super nice.
We came from home from the honeymoon
and just got to come.
- Yup! We got to move into our new house as newlyweds!
We're filming this, actually, I forgot to mention,
(in unison) Today is our one month anniversary!
- (Bailey sings) We've been married for one month!
- Y'all. This video.
The card just told us it was full.
This video does not want to be filmed. It just really said,
no thanks. Not interested.
Back to the conversation at hand,
"What is the hardest thing about being married?"
- Hmm.
Shopping for two.
- Shopping for two, he is not wrong!
Like just the groceries and stuff. Like I'm not,
I'm not used to it.
- Yeah, we feel like we spend so much money on
food all the time.
- Which really all we did was just
combine our groceries, but...
It is a struggle.
- Another thing that is particularly hard is
balancing, for me, balancing school
and making sure I'm giving her enough time
and attention. Its, you have to balance.
- I think just balancing life in general, which
but that was the same way with dating.
- That's true, and it doesn't really change too much.
- "Do you guys cuddle when you go to sleep
or do you like your own space?"
We're cuddlers!
- Cuddle!
- We're big time cuddlers.
- Yeah, we, we like it a lot.
- I get sad if I wake up in the middle of the night
and he's not cuddling me, I'm like,
(in edited high-pitched voice) what is going on, what?
Something that no one told me that I did not know
until I shared like a bed with Asa.
Men are like furnaces.
He like radiates heat at night.
- Listen, I didn't ever think I slept hot
until we slept together.
- I'm not even kidding you.
Turn the temperature down because...
- You will wake up in a puddle of sweat.
- "Are we planning on staying in Texas or moving?"
- Staying!
- We're going to stay, we love Texas.
We actually really like it here.
I've lived in a couple of states and this is my
favorite so far. Also my family lives here.
- Oh, hi, Jack-Jack
- Oh, Jack. Jack's making his appearance again.
- Lay down, puppy. You lay down?
Oh, lay down.
- Oh, oh.
What was I saying? Oh, my family's here,
and his family lives like six hours away.
So we're in a pretty good spot,
yeah, we're in a pretty good place.
- And we like it.
- "Are we afraid to poop in front of each other?"
- She is definitely not.
- But I grew up with like sisters and we're all up
in each others' business all the time.
But he's like poop shy.
- No, I do not like it, I'm like...
- I'm not even paying, I'm like
literally could care less. I'm just like brushing my teeth.
- Today might be the first day I've ever
pooped in front of you.
- That's true. One month, guys,
and he finally pooped in front of me.
"How do you work through a disagreement?
Do you ever go to bed upset?"
That's kinda something we try not to.
- That's kind of a rule is to not go to bed
upset at each other.
- Even if you are like super angry at each other
for the entire day, it only lets the problem live,
like in that day.
- And it makes it feel,
even though you might have to deal with more tomorrow,
you don't wake up feeling gross.
You don't wake up feeling like uncomfortable or
still upset with each other.
- It's just like, it's better to put like
a rule in place where you just
don't go to bed upset. So that way,
most of the time they're resolved within that day.
(whimsical flute music)
(couch thumps)
(Bailey laughs)
- Jack-Jack save us.
- This is a koala.
- What in the world?
- Ooh!
No, no!
"How did we know each other was the one?"
That's a good question.
I know like the moment I realized he was the one.
I knew, like starting our relationship,
that he was husband material.
Like obviously I was with him for a very long time.
I knew he was husband material.
I finished up high school and was heading to college,
and we were about two years into dating.
- One and a half.
- And everyone was like, oh,
you're going to high school or you're going to college.
He's in high school still like your relationship
probably isn't going to work out.
You're going to be all these nice guys in college
and not think he's interesting anymore,
whatever, blah, blah, blah.
So I went into college like maybe they're right?
- Yeah. We kind of had an open mindset of
she might find somebody.
- I really like you, but what if this happens
and I do meet somebody else?
I went into college and about three weeks into college,
I called him one night and I was like,
so not to like scare you or anything,
but I know you're the one.
- Yeah, she basically said,
I'm ready to get married, and I'm like, no!
- Not ready, I know I'm going to marry you,
that's what I said.
- For me first day I met her,
I knew I wanted to be around her for the rest of my life,
whether that was married or just best friends.
'Cause senior year,
I was visiting her here at Baylor
and getting to meet some of her friends.
I was meeting other girls, the entire time
I just wanted to be with her.
- "What do we do on a daily basis with each other?"
Pretty much everything. We wake up, we get ready together.
He takes the dogs out. He goes to class.
I work, he comes back.
We eat lunch together. We cook dinner together.
We go do nightly activities like with our friends,
game nights, whatever, and then...
- Netflix.
- Watch our shows or whatever and go to bed.
It's the best life! It's the good life!
We love it! I love it!
And we have our two puppies now, too.
So it's kind of like a family, kind of a busy house.
- We try to teach him tricks every day
or do things like that.
- Someone asked, "Did you take Asa's last name?
If so, what was that process like?"
So interestingly enough,
Asa and I actually took each other's last names.
So now we are both McKnight dash Howard.
I didn't want to give up my last name. I didn't,
I never really understood why,
like a woman would just like give up her last name.
At least for me. That's my,
and he felt the same way about his name.
So we just were like, let's combine them.
We can both keep them. And to be honest,
we haven't even started the process of like getting new IDs
and passports yet.
So that's a next week problem.
Someone says, "Is it weird living together now?"
Not really. But you wanna know what is weird?
Like going to my parents' house
and staying in the same room.
That's strange.
- Someone said,
"What are some underrated things about marriage that
you don't think about that you maybe wouldn't expect?"
I think it's just the little things like getting to
cook together. Getting, get a back massage.
Or like just going on a walk or teaching the puppies.
Like those are the things that are so like meaningful.
- For me. It's like when you're dating somebody, yes,
they're going to have your back because they're your
significant other,
but it feels different when you're married.
Like it feels like I, everything I go through,
I'm going through with somebody else.
Dating, I feel like you kind of are more in that,
"Oh, if you want to," but then marriage,
it's like, "No, I have your back.
You have my back. No questions asked, done."
- True. It feels like now we are connected on another level.
- "What does our future look like at the moment?"
Right now we're in Waco.
Whenever Asa graduates college in May
we're hoping to move back to the Dallas area so I can work
like from my office in Dallas
and he's gonna try and get a job there.
And then we'll live there for a little while
and then he will hopefully get into MBA school in Dallas.
And then once that's through...
- Who knows?
- Somebody else says, "Over or under on toilet paper?"
I don't have a preference.
- Over.
- ... because he's passionately about over.
- I mean, I don't know how you don't have a preference.
- I'll like just stick a new one on there
and he always goes in there and
adjusts it to where he wants it.
- The funny thing is
almost every time you stick it on there,
she does it under.
- He cares a lot!
Over toilet paper. Over.
- It is weird saying husband and wife.
- It's so weird.
- It's weird to talk about each other
in third person like, oh, my wife is at home, like what?
- What?
"Do you feel like you're getting judged
for getting married young?"
We did get those comments when we got engaged,
just cause we were both 21. Having dated for a long time,
that's kind of helped combat it a little bit.
Like we dated for five years almost.
I'm just kinda like who cares? I did what I wanted to do,
which was graduate college before I got married.
So I had a degree. I have a job.
There was really no reason not to get married.
And we knew we were the one for each other.
So goodbye haters. That's all I have to say.
I'm seeing a lot of questions about the honeymoon.
(in unison) All we can say is...
- Epic!
- Two thumbs up to that part of our marriage.
"Do I miss living with Brooklyn sometimes?"
All the time I miss living with Brooklyn all the time.
Maybe not specifically like living with her,
but just having her around all the time.
- I think for the future,
it'd be nice having her like next door.
I don't think you're going to miss having her
in the house.
- I don't miss sharing a room, if that's what you're asking.
I don't miss sharing a room with her by definitely miss
like her being here with me.
Someone said, "How was the process of
merging two families?"
For us, it was pretty smooth because again,
we dated for a long time.
So our families really got to know each other before we even
entered into engagement.
- I highly encourage that.
- I would definitely recommend dating your significant other
for a good amount of time before you just
jump into marriage. If you know, you know,
but it does make it easier
transitioning families together, lives together,
All like talking 'bout future plans, all that stuff.
Just makes it a thousand times...
Okay, hopefully y'all enjoyed that little,
I don't know what you'd call it, update?
- Life. Marriage life.
- Marriage life with the McKnight-Howards?
(in unison) That's so weird!
- From your favorite married couple ever,
we love you guys so much and we'll see y'all next week. Bye!
- See ya!
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