Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
and life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday. And today's question, it comes from a girl
named Alicia, and she writes:
"Hey Marie, a struggle I keep coming up against is what do you do when every option in front
of you totally sucks? You're weighing multiple options, but each and every one has some major
downsides. So rather than choosing and acting on an option, you find yourself staying stuck
in an action and beating yourself up for not moving forward. How do you suggest someone
makes a decision when each and every option you see sucks some major ass?"
Alicia, great question. At some point in life, most of us have found ourselves in a situation
where we're upset and we're frustrated and we look around and everything just seems to
be crap. I'm sure everyone in the audience can relate.
But, and this is a big but, which I like, this question is the perfect reminder for
us all to give ourselves a spiritual smackdown.
The truth is this, in any given moment you can choose to see what's right about a situation
or what's wrong about a situation. And either way, you're gonna find evidence to support
what you're looking for.
When you're in a negative state of mind and you believe that every option sucks, it's
nearly impossible to find your strength and your clarity and move ahead. Here's the deal
Alicia, and yes, it's a tweetable?
"Not having the best situation, but seeing the best in your situation is the key to happiness."
Now, I'm not sure what your sucky situations are, but I am absolutely certain that you
can find something right about them and create a positive result.
Every day you hear about people who've made the most of arguably crappy situations. And
the common thread throughout all of them is their positive attitude. Now, here's the thing,
a positive attitude is a choice, and if you make that choice enough it becomes a habit.
One woman that comes to mind is Somaly Mam, the Cambodian author and activist. At 12 years
old, she was sold into sex slavery. Then every day she was tortured and she was raped. And
one night she was forced to watch as her best friend was murdered in front of her.
Now, if that's not a crappy situation, I don't know what is. Now, Somaly escaped and she's
made it her life's mission to end sex trafficking and to empower survivors.
Or, how about this? Do a Google search for famous amputees and you're gonna find an enormous
list of extraordinary people who've accomplished incredible things either because of or in
spite of losing their limbs.
The bottom line is this, looking for what's right in a situation completely transforms
your state of mind, your ability to make decisions, and move ahead. And the best part is, it's
a habit you can build. Like Maya Angelou says, if you don't like something, change it. And
if you can't change it, change your attitude.
Speaking of change, if you've been listening to me this whole time and saying, "Marie,
yeah, yeah. But you don't get it, you don't know how crappy my situations are," here's
the deal.
There is nothing more crappy than the option you're choosing right now, which is beating
yourself up and doing nothing to move ahead.
Action is magic, and either option you choose is gonna be a huge improvement over this tortured
state of inertia that you find yourself in right now.
Alicia, that was my A to your Q, thank you so much for asking. Now I wanna hear from
you. Have you ever had a crappy situation that you turned around because you changed
your attitude? Or have you ever found yourself with two kinda crappy options but you chose
one, you moved ahead, and you discovered, "Hey, things aren't so bad."
In the comments below I wanna hear your story. Now, remember, the best stuff happens after
the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.
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