- Hi, I'm Dana.
Welcome to this week's video.
When people first find me or the Sleep Sense Program,
usually their focus is nights, right?
Oh, I'm so tired of getting up
every two hours all night long.
I need to solve this problem.
That quickly improves.
Nights get on track really quite quickly
in the big scheme of things.
Within a few nights, you're seeing progress,
things are moving in the right direction.
Awesome.
Then the tune changes quickly to naps.
All people can focus on is naps.
Why won't naps get in line like nights are?
It's a really big frustration for everyone including myself.
I wish I had a magic cure for naps.
I wish I could make them turn around as quickly as nights
but it just doesn't work that way.
So I'm gonna give you a couple of tips here today
to try if you're having some nap challenges.
There might be a few reasons why
and we'll talk about those today.
The first one is darkness.
No such thing as babies getting days and nights mixed up
once they're past the first couple of weeks of life.
That's just the body clock.
We're all designed to be alert and awake during the day
with some naps and consolidate our nights through the night.
So darkness though will play a significant role
in keeping your baby asleep.
That's usually the complaint
that the naps are only 20 or 30 minutes long
once you start the program.
So make sure and I mean dark like dark, dark, dark, right?
I don't even really want you to be able to see your hand
in front of your face kinda dark.
So doesn't have to be pretty.
Just get that dark.
Get some sheets over the window or blackout blinds,
whatever you need to do to make that dark.
Another thing would be to look at comfort level, right?
If I'm gonna take a nap,
I usually change into a pair of sweatpants, right,
and climb into my bed.
I don't usually lay down for a nap
in my work clothes for example
so you might need to change them
into some nap pants as a client once called them
or their jammies even
and get them really comfortable and cozy
so that hopefully they'll take a longer nap.
So those are two quick, easy fixes.
Another one would be to look at the timing, right?
In the Sleep Sense Program, you'll see there's a breakdown
of how much time awake a baby can handle at a certain age.
Now, those are just rough guidelines, right?
I mean, they're usually pretty accurate or close
but not always.
So maybe you're going too soon for a nap, right?
Maybe your baby actually needs two hours of time awake.
So start tinkering with the timing really gently.
Just 15 minutes of difference on either end
can make a huge impact on the quality of the nap.
So try going a little bit longer
or maybe shortening the gap a little bit.
Overtiredness is basically a baby's worst enemy
so we really wanna be avoiding it
as much as we possibly can.
So try just bringing the time up by 15 minutes
and see if that makes any difference.
One other place to look is in your routine before nap.
A common mistake that parents make
is that they're still including a feeding before a nap.
If you've read the program,
my advice is that you feed after naps instead of before
especially if feeding is your baby's
primary sleep prop, right?
If we're trying to break that connection
between eating and sleep
but we're always feeding our child when she's fatigued,
it doesn't really make a whole lot of sense
and that's gonna just contribute to this idea
that feeding helps me sleep.
So take that out, replace it with a story or a song
or a diaper change.
Definitely important to have a little bit of prep
for your child, a little bit of a routine before a nap
so she knows what's coming next
but try not to include a feed in your nap time routine.
Give those a few little,
give them a chance to work, right?
Lot of people try one thing one day, didn't work
so they abandon it and go on to something else.
My rule of thumb around any kind of little changes
that you're going to make or try
is give it about four or five days
to really evaluate is this timing change working?
Maybe I need to go a little bit longer or a little bit less
but give it time.
Bodies don't, bodies especially around sleep
don't change instantaneously.
It takes a little work but hang in there.
I'll promise you, naps come around eventually
and there will be a day
where this is all gonna click into place for you
so don't give up.
Thanks so much for watching.
Sleep well.