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here.
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Me those big daddy delts alright club uncle see back in the office
and in today's video call and I for those of you who don't know Cole This is coal coal
as my brother he also has his channel I have linked below might as well stasis and quality
look like you need it be nice anyways.
Today the kings in the arena of MBT over here which is aka me and aka Cole, the kings in
the arena are going to be discussing going to be telling going to be explaining going
to be showing you exactly why the people who you either idolize the men who you wish you
could be, are not natural born alphas no matter how much you think they are.
Now.
There are so many areas that we could talk about with this.
And the reason why I think this video is ultimately important is because there's so many men locked
into the identity thinking that who they are is fixed.
So the amount of I use your big old Toby picture from 14.
I don't know that he didn't, I'm putting it up on the screen.
Okay, so this was cool.
Okay.
You need to let this sink in for a second.
Because the reason why a lot of men don't have the results with women that they want
is due to the fact that they have no dedication, and they have no sacrifice.
And I know that it's very, it's it's extremely popular right now in the manosphere.
To say, dedication can only get you so far.
And if you chase success, it ultimately makes you beta in the long run.
Or ultimately, if that's all a woman is looking for, then she's loving you for the wrong things.
I'm here to tell you that that's all bullshit.
And I'm here to tell you that there is no man on planet earth that does great with dating,
his high value is great at what he does or is ultimately loved and respected by women,
there's ultimately no man on earth, that that happened to by accident, because men are made.
Now whether he wants to publicly explain that transformative shift that he went through
whether he wants to publicly explain the journey of dedication and sacrifices that he went
through to craft himself into who he is today or not is up to him.
And most often than not men keep quiet about it.
But I'm here to tell you today that even if you look at my before picture and who I was
compared to who I am today, you can change.
And alpha is not necessarily something that men are born with alpha is ultimately something
as to who you are, who you become and what you identify as with your beliefs.
Cool has ever been a time when you when you thought that who you were was fixed?
Like maybe it maybe it was maybe it wasn't I know, ultimately, you saw me transform.
And that led you to transforming and whatnot.
But like, can you give some insight, so I'm not telling?
Oh, yeah, give me some talking time.
Yeah, get off me.
No.
So I mean, of course, I think I think every man in their life, at one point or another
thinks that this is just who I am.
Like, like you, me, and you talk about this a lot.
You know, it's fell, I've said this to you.
Like it's just who I am Casey, this is just my personality.
I'm quiet.
I'm not very charismatic.
Yeah, yada, yada, yada.
But the truth is, it can be changed.
And I've realized that over these last couple of years, yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna use a
variety of different examples for all of you here.
So if you take a guy who is who looks really good, right?
You take a guy who maybe he maybe he's chiseled to the bone, and he has great muscular development,
he has great muscular stature.
And a lot of people would look at that guy and they're like, damn, like that guy.
I'll never have genetics like that.
I'll never have delts like that, right?
I'll never have six pack abs like that.
I'll never have ABS symmetry like that.
They didn't see the four or five years of dedication that that guy had to go through
in the gym to look that way.
They didn't see the late nights when maybe everybody's out drinking alcohol and he does
intermittent fasting so he's done eating by seven o'clock and not another calorie goes
in his mouth after that.
They didn't see every single notebook session documented in the gym of progressive overload
with his lifts or who he is okay?
They didn't see that.
What they see is who the guy is now on the exterior and I want to let you in on a little
secret perception.
People will take your perception out whatever it is that you put in front of them.
Same with women.
You could get blown out on approach by 20 Women in a row in the 21st A woman is going
to think that oh, you're super charming.
They didn't see the trials and tribulations.
Okay.
So that's one example we got the fitness example.
Let's use a dating example.
Especially because Colin I don't know if you know this explain your personality versus
my personality because Colin are actually polar opposites.
Casey, Casey is a lot more talkative than I am.
Casey, he
cases a lot more talkative than I am.
He, I mean, he likes to talk.
Whereas I'm a lot more reserved for the most part.
But the thing is, like, despite the personality differences, we've both been able to find
what works for us.
You know, we both we both have been able to figure out the way to speak, right?
So it actually works really well, when it comes to dating.
Let me Let me chime in on that.
So when I, when I looked back in this video to fixed identity, who you think you are versus
who you can become, we'll use the fitness example and the trials and tribulations of
the 10,000 hours that that guy had to put in.
But let's let's not compare you and I for a second with personality.
So when it comes to game and talking to women, using our words for seduction purposes, okay,
let's just cut it out that I'm far better than you just as a natural light that clicked
for me a lot quicker than it clicked for coal.
But most people would look at Coal and notice how when you when you said hey, I'm shy, I'm
introverted, or I'm reserved, I can't change you feel as if you're stuck, correct.
And what happens?
What happens when you actually improve those things that you didn't identify with?
Well, those things change those things change.
So who you are is not fixed.
Who you are is malleable.
That's the key to all of this.
If you look at a rich man, let's use let's use a success example.
You see that nice pressed Armani suit.
Right?
You said you see those Louis Vuitton sunglasses, whatever the dude looks like a stud.
Maybe the dude pulls up in a Lambo or the dude has a huge ass house, okay?
People will look at him and they go, Oh, he's born rich people are gonna go well, he's born
successful, he was just blessed.
Isn't that the best way he's just blessed?
Right?
He's just blessed with a with a with whatever he has.
It's absolute bullshit.
Nobody saw the 20,000 30,000 100,000 hours leading up to that.
There's people nowadays, they look at my YouTube channel with over 150,000 subs.
And they say, Casey, you got lucky with YouTube.
They say oh, you happen to pop off.
If you look back.
There's 800 videos on my channel and the first 400 videos for three years in a row.
I did not even have 1000 subscribers.
Let that sink in for a second.
There is no man that is born an alpha.
And here's why men as is are not born with any value.
You need to let that sink in.
Men will default to being beta their entire life.
Whether you want to blame societal construct, whether you want to blame how the world is
set up from it, it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what the record what what stipulations you want to put upon it because
that's the fact it is up to you to change it.
During anything you'd like to add.
Well, there's a saying that women are born and men are made.
So just to piggyback off of what you said, If a man never takes the steps actually figuring
this shit out.
Yeah, to actually become a man of value.
Yeah, he never will be a man of value.
Yeah, he'll be a man who's who stock whether he wants to believe it or not right to be
a man who maybe works a job that he hates with a girlfriend or a wife who he fucking
despises.
Now for those of you who have questions, right I have this email that I use from time to
time that I used to make other content it's ask Casey zander@gmail.com I'll put it up
on the screen right here.
One of the biggest questions that I get asked time and time again is guys guys s thinks
about like performance anxiety in the bedroom.
Or you know guy guys will compare themselves to other men who you know do great in the
sack or in the sheets, let's say like this is just a normal thing that guys go through
bought.
Let's look at this again.
There's some guys who struggle with that department and they look at guys who are good at that
done that department, they will assume that guys who are good in that department have
never had any issues before.
What's the difference?
Practice sustained success, dedication, not giving up.
This is with everything.
So any man who's great at anything you need to know this Mike Tyson was a savage, right?
But guess what he was also extremely dedicated, extremely strong, extremely able.
He believed in himself that he was the best no matter what.
And he trained like it.
I just want to say that it's dedication to I've heard so many people say that.
I'm not motivated, not motivated to go to the gym.
I'm not motivated to go talk to women.
I'm not motivated to get my ass off that Six o'clock and go work hard.
Nobody is motivated all the time.
Nobody's motivator ever.
I'm not motivated ever.
It takes dedication.
Yeah, though, the want to actually change yourself, not motivation to change yourself.
And I think the key to this too is like you have to actually set different expectations.
Like if you wake up every day, and like, my expectation is that life sucks ass.
That's my expectation.
I expect to life I expect life to completely suck ass, I expect that life is shit.
And life probably sucks every single day.
And that's just life.
So if that's your expectation, and you're okay with that, and that becomes the norm,
any small micro wind becomes better.
The problem is when your expectation is that you expect that your day should be good, you
expect that you should be happy, that is not true.
See, when you willingly accept the fact that life is suffering, and you are willingly taking
on as much dedication as much sacrifice and as much suffering as you possibly can, you
start to really see the truth.
And the truth is that there is no difference between you and the man that you actually
want to be his Akaka, beating heart or brain, two eyes and two years, just like you, the
problem is up here.
The problem is what you identify as the problem is that you think that you can't change.
You think that alphas are born.
The fact is that alphas are actually made.
Yeah.
Do you think that is cheesy when I like make these funny, Hodgetwins noises, I don't know,
ourselves seemed to like it.
They did.
They did like, ah, ah, awesome.
With all that said, here are the three things that you actually need to do.
If you're either a beta male or you think you're a beta male, and you don't know how
to change.
Let's dive into number one, the very first thing that you're going to have to do, there
is no substitute for this is you're going to have to get in the gym.
I think that this is not necessarily talked about like strength actually has a look.
Right, like part of your confidence and part of your demeanor.
And part of like the way you talk the way you can communicate the way you carry yourself.
As a man, if you want, like adaptive, charismatic, confident behaviors, it's going to have to
be backed up by looking like the part because you are the part.
If you're strong and able and powerful, that's going to show up in your demeanor.
What the stems into is congruent if there's an incongruence if there's a guy who was are
loud, rambunctious like that are not even necessarily loud.
But just he appears extremely confident.
Oftentimes there's a miss a mismatch, because he doesn't necessarily look like he is what
he says he is.
That's number one.
Okay?
If you got get big round shoulders, big chest, if you look good, if you died, if you take
care of yourself, that's one piece of the equation, a woman at face value then can look
at you and she can make this foot decision.
Either thing, yes, I want or No, I wouldn't.
And it's a hell of a lot easier when you actually like what it is or when you like what you
see in the mirror.
And when she likes what she actually sees by looking at you.
Like you want to build the big old Jack daddy biceps, there ain't no way around that.
The second thing I think we need to talk about is that charisma, charisma and charm.
Communication is something that takes practice and something that's mastered.
And I think you're a testament to that you should dive in on that one.
So charisma, I'll just I'll just go out in front and say I'm still not the most charismatic
guy.
I still probably have a lot of the same struggles that a lot about a lot of you guys do with
women.
But the thing is, instead of letting that that fear and that lack of charisma overtake
me, I'd, I took the bull by the horns essentially.
And I, I tried to change.
So I'm improving on my charisma now.
I'm, I'm approaching more women.
It's his 10,000 hours, I'm getting bitten the ass over and over.
So that way, I don't have to deal with this shit, five or 10 years from now, right?
I mean, this goes back to what what Casey was saying about how men are malleable at
the end of the day, or our identity is malleable.
It's not fixed.
I thought for so many years that I was just who I am.
And that's how it was.
I really did.
I was never very charismatic guy.
I did not understand seduction.
I didn't understand the game.
But I started working with him more and more.
You know, I started asking him questions.
I started trying to figure it out myself and I started getting bitten the ass through approaching
women and you know, talking with him about how that approach when I wouldn't say
9999 90% of the population has desire 1% of people are actually willing to act on those
desires and figure out how to get it.
That's the difference between being a 99% or a one percenter.
The very third thing is you have to master a income producing skill.
You don't have to master every income producing skill.
But I would rather become a millionaire for sure than try 20 different things and become
a millionaire.
Hopefully, you have to master a specific skill.
If you can master a specific skill, you'll be able to keep a roof over your head running
water, money in the bank and low anxiety and low stress because once you have ownership
like what like for example, a house like once you have raw ownership, like raw land acquisition
power, that can't be stripped away from you.
Those are things that every single man wants.
And if you have an inability to provide your lack of creativity to provide or your Nyah
tivity to how important you think money actually is, you are sorely mistaken.
Your inability to provide either for yourself or potentially for loved ones or for a family
one day there will always feel like there's part of something missing within yourself
and within your masculinity.
I just want to say that ever since I've learned how to sell there's always been a peace of
mind to me.
Like I know I'll never go hungry.
I know I'm hoping for the rest of my life.
Like even if even if I didn't sharpen my skills.
I would never go hungry.
I would never run out of money.
Yeah, you know, it gives yourself gives you a peace of mind.
It's like it gives you an inner peace just knowing that you're really goddamn good at
something.
Yeah, it does.
So with that said, let's let's now take a look and recap.
Does any of this sound like fun?
It's not you all want to be an alpha male or you want to have abundance of women or
you want to have abundance of money does any of the shit that I just talked about sound
like fun, because let's think about it.
Like let's think about the actual life of a thoroughbred Alfa.
So you woke up You probably trained hard for two hours in the gym camp.
After you train hard for two hours in the gym, you had to prep all your food or hire
someone to prep it for you.
And then you had to eat stuff that doesn't taste necessarily the best all day.
Then on top of that, you have to spend eight to 12 hours per day mastering your craft to
get rich and to provide income for yourself.
And then hopefully, you have enough time seven, eight hours to actually get some sleep.
So those of you thinking that these big playboys out there can just racking the chicks and
all of a sudden they ain't got to do nothing.
There is no hustle, there's no dedication to it.
You're sorely mistaken.
What you're seeing is highlight reels from guys at the top.
Because if they didn't document their journey have their own 10,000 hours their own 20,000
hours zero and $100,000.
I'm gonna tell you this right now, being an alpha male is not a fun life, but you're reaping
the rewards of what 99% of men will never have because they're just too goddamn soft.
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