(phone ringing)
(women laughing quietly)
- I almost FaceTimed him.
- [Man] Hello?
(inhales sharply)
- When was the last time you thought about your first time?
Hey, I'm Alyssa, and today I brought in four
women who are going to be doing cold calls
to the guys they lost their virginity to.
We have no idea if they're going to pick up.
We're a little bit nervous, we're a little bit scared.
We're a little excited.
- Hello.
- Welcome.
Okay, we did not plan this.
(both laughing)
- Hi.
- Thanks so much for coming.
- Thanks for having me.
- Yeah.
- Tell us a little bit about the person that you
lost your virginity to.
- I lost my virginity to my boyfriend,
my school sweetheart if you will.
- Oh.
- We ended up dating for five years and
- Wow.
- Okay, so this guy, I met him literally 10 years ago.
- Oh wow.
- Yes, at a Halloween party, which is like super cliche.
- So I met him my senior year of high school.
- Okay.
- Before we even dated or anything we were just
hanging out in his friend's sister's room.
So random.
(interviewer laughs)
- So we were hanging out in her room
and we talked for like six plus hours.
He opened up to me, I opened up to him
which is weird because we didn't know each other like that.
- Yeah.
- So that's when like it all happened, like
- Oh.
- That's when we were like, okay,
maybe we could take this a step further.
- Have you ever heard of Omegle?
- It's like a video chat thing where it's like
random people come up?
- Yeah.
(interviewer gasps)
- Him and my best friend were talking,
falls in love with him.
- Oh.
- It's like, you're gonna love this dude, Bella.
- Wait, also, is this normal?
Is this how people are meeting?
Should I get on Omegle?
- This is how I remember it.
I would love to know how he remembers it because I really
- Right, so that's part of why you want to call him?
- Yes.
- Like kind of fill in the gaps.
- Exactly.
- Okay, well I think we're ready to
give him a call if you are.
- Okay, yeah.
- Yeah, let's do this.
- I'm excited to see, I hope he answers.
- Me too, I'm so nervous.
I'm really so nervous.
- I'm nervous for you.
- My hands are literally shaking.
I almost FaceTimed him.
(phones ringing)
- [Man] Hello?
(gasps loudly)
- [Man] What's popping?
(quietly laughs)
- Hey.
- [Man] Hello?
- Hi.
- This is Ava, I don't know if you remember me.
We met 10 years ago, Halloween night.
Do you remember you were dressed as ManBearPig.
I don't know if you remember this.
It was a dope costume.
- [Man] That sounds sounds like something I would do.
- Yeah, you definitely did that.
- You know, I'd love to know what you remember about it
because I feel like, you know my memory is not the best.
- [Man] Yeah, so, it was kind of awkward.
- Yeah, just a bit.
- [Man] Collectively we were kinda like, okay, this is it.
This is the day.
And then we went to the basement.
- Oh, okay, yes, no, I remember that now.
- [Man] I probably put on The Office.
- Oh yeah, there was some something playing
in the background, probably.
- I don't know if you remember, we slept together
and you asked me, you asked me at the time if, you know,
if this was my first time.
But I basically lied to you and I was like, no,
this is not my first time.
Because I wanted to save face in front of you.
- [Man] Oh no.
- But I'm calling you to tell you I have positive memories.
I really do, it was, it was a positive experience.
- [Man] I really hope so.
- It was, it was.
(phone ringing)
- [Man] I can't get to the phone right now.
Please leave a message, bye.
- Hey, it's Mylynn.
I was just kind of calling.
I wanted to see how you were doing.
Maybe we can like catch up and talk about everything.
Because I haven't heard from you in a long time.
But yeah, I hope you're doing well
and hopefully you can get back to me.
- That was good.
- He has my number, I think he just declined it
because he saw it was me.
- Really?
- Yes, oh my God.
- [altered male voice] Hey, all right.
- How are you?
- [altered male voice] I'm good, good.
This is unexpected.
- Oh really?
Why do you say so?
- [altered male voice] Because we have not spoken
in seven years.
- Has it been seven?
That's not true.
- [altered male voice] It's been six, yeah.
- Mm, let me do the math.
Oh, okay, I guess so, sure, yeah.
- Why did it end?
- We continued dating for I would say a month or something.
- Oh, okay.
- Very short time period.
You know, when you just stop liking them.
- Yeah, you get the ick.
- Yeah, I feel bad because it was really
out of the blue for him.
He was so shook.
- We started dating for a year and a half
until my sophomore year, I joined the cheer team.
That's when everything kind of went downhill
because I started hanging out with like my teammates
and other athletes and he was just not having it,
like, I'm your best friend.
Like, you need to be with me and stuff like that.
- Yeah.
- So it got to a point where I just like,
why am I staying with someone that's holding me back
from all these experiences?
- Yeah.
- I was like, okay, let's take a break.
And our rule was like, if we take a break,
we're gonna break up.
I actually got with someone else at the time.
- Sure.
- And because I thought we were done.
It was a one day break, I guess.
He said it was one day break, so.
- One day break!
- Yeah, so he was like, did you do anything on our break?
And I was like, no, like, no.
What are you talking about?
No, I didn't do anything, but
- Yeah.
- [Man] Thanks for coming clean
after all these years, it's just haunted me.
- I know, I just, I couldn't sleep at night.
I had to tell you, I to get this off my chest.
- [Man] How are you doing?
- I'm good, I'm honestly, I'm doing great.
Still trying to date, still trying to figure out my life.
But everything's been good.
Everything's been awesome.
How are you, how's life for you?
- [Man] I can't complain.
- Oh, good.
- [Man] I've got a girlfriend I've been with for
about six months.
- Oh wow, oh good.
- [Man] Yeah.
- I'm curious.
I'm curious, do you remember anything?
- [Man] Can you sent me a photo of you?
I'm so sorry, it's a little bit of,
I'm trying to remember it.
- No, that's okay.
You know what, I should have just given you
a picture of that night.
- [Man] Would you have one?
- I do, I straight up do.
Do you want me to send it to you?
- [Man] Yes.
- Okay.
- Oh my god, yeah, no, I remember.
- Yeah.
(laughing quietly)
- [Man] What a blast from the past.
- Just haunting you ten years later.
- Would you ever expect me to call you?
- [altered male voice] No.
- Really?
- [altered male voice] What do you mean really?
- Well, you remember when I called you the last time?
- [altered male voice] No.
- What, yes you do, we had such a long conversation.
- [altered male voice] Did we?
I'll be honest, I don't remember.
- Oh my gosh, all right, all right.
- And so you guys haven't really spoken since?
- We spoke one time.
I had just spoken up with my second boyfriend
and I thought what's the harm in calling the first one?
- Classic.
- We had a really nice, four hour conversation
which ended with him kind of trying to booty call me.
- Oh.
- So I wasn't about it for some reason.
- I just wanted him to kind of be nice
and caring in that moment.
Instead he was kinda like
(panting lightly)
- Yeah.
- You know.
- And then, so then, that was the last time you guys spoke.
- Yeah.
- Since I have you here and we're on the topic.
I know when we first dated for the first time,
we were like, pretty peachy.
Like, we would like hold hands
in the hallway and like cuddle.
But like, you know, nothing really happened.
And I remember experiencing sexual assault.
I think we were together for the first time.
- [Man] Yeah.
- And I remember like, feeling really scared,
and just like uncomfortable,
and really not knowing what to do.
And I remember like the only person
I felt comfortable telling it about was you.
And I just wanted to say that like
I really, really appreciate, you know, our relationship
and the time we spent together.
And like how like gracious you were with me,
and like how patient you were with me, because, you know
there were a lot of things I wasn't willing to do
and things that I just felt uncomfortable
with because of my past experiences.
And I feel like I never like really
got to articulate that to you.
That like, that's like so meaningful that like
I can look back on like my first time
and like my first real relationship and like,
look at it so positively and just know that like
I healed so much during those years
because of how amazing you were.
And like how special our relationship was.
And like, yeah.
I just, I just wanted to say that
because I feel like I've maybe expressed it in subtle ways
but I just wanted to like fully put it
on the table, and just like say thank you for that.
It was really meaningful to me, so yeah.
- [Man] Yeah, well that's, that means a lot to me.
I'm really glad that you could,
heal and feel comfortable.
- You know, even though we're not together
like I still really, really care
for you and like really look on those times fondly.
And I hope that you do, too.
- [Man] Yeah, I do.
- Yeah, thank you.
- [Man] You've been training for this.
- Yeah. Thank you.
- I do remember like, just feeling really comfortable even
after the experience that I had.
I, you know, for, for you
I don't know how like significant it was
but because it was quite significant for me.
So, you set a really positive tone for me.
- [Man] I'm so happy to hear that, because I had only been
with my high school girlfriend until like 2012.
- Oh wow.
- [Man] And then, I mean, I ended up joining
(beep) for my junior year.
- Yeah.
- [Man] And then I kind of started like losing track.
(women laughing)
- That's so funny because I, to be honest,
I didn't tell you the truth
because I was like, oh, he's so experienced.
Like, I need to be able to save face.
I had no idea that I was like, among the first for you.
So, that also makes me feel really good.
- Two, three months passed and he's getting to a point where
he's like calling me 24/7, like looking at my location,
- Oh no.
- if I would be sleeping and I don't
answer my phone, he would call my friends.
Like stuff like that.
- Yeah.
- So now I was like, you know what?
I think I'm done.
I gave him his promise ring, so I had a promise ring,
so that in my mind, we're done.
And I get with a different person and I don't know how,
somehow, some way he found out, he was like calling me,
he was coming to my dorm.
He's like, I'm getting all my stuff back.
Like, I heard what you did, I called your mom.
He called my mom.
(interviewer gasps)
- I get to my dorm and he's like taking his stuff
like pulling his stuff, ripping everything.
- He's already in your room?
- Yeah.
- How did he get in?
- He called my roommate.
- How does he have all these numbers?
- No, the last thing you ever said to me,
and I remember this so distinctly,
I'm like, what are you doing, like what?
Like, you know what happened?
He's like, I know you slept with two athletes.
And I, like, me and my best friend look
at each other speechless, and he just drives off.
And like, that's the last thing I ever heard from him.
- Oh my gosh.
- Yeah.
- I can't find you on social media,
what's going on with that?
- [altered male voice] I'm a private guy.
- Oh, okay, all right.
- [altered male voice] Well, I hope you're well though.
And I'll catch you, yeah?
- Oh, okay, all right.
Well call me if you ever,
if you ever feel like it, you know, door's open.
- [altered male voice] Okay, I appreciate it.
- All right, bye.
- What's going on?
- I'm a pretty private guy.
- Yeah.
- [Man] So good to talk to you.
Yeah, we're, I actually got to get back to work
pretty soon here.
- Yeah, no problem.
- [Man] Yeah, but I mean, I've got a girlfriend now,
I'm not really on the market, but like, yeah,
it's really nice talking to you.
- You too, thank you so much for answering
and just being so cool about this.
- [Man] Yeah, of course.
- Cool, well, I'll talk to you later at some point.
- [Man] Sounds great.
- Okay cool, bye.
- [Man] Bye.
- That was literally as good as it possibly could have gone.
- That was so amazing.
- I really appreciate you talking about this.
I know it can, it's awkward to talk about and like, we went
through a lot together and I'm honestly
just really glad that I went through it with you.
- [Man] It means a lot.
- I love you.
- [Man] I love you, bro.
(both laughing)
- [Man] Go get 'em tiger.
- Okay, I'll talk to you later.
- [Man] Okay.
- Okay, bye.
- [Man] Bye.
- Oh my gosh, how does that make you feel?
- It feels like relief.
Yeah, it felt really good.
- Yeah, I'm like rooting for you guys.
(both laughing)
I'm just kidding.
Did you feel like, maybe he was like,
oh and I have a girlfriend, like, did you,
because maybe, I feel like maybe there was
like a part of him that was like,
oh are you trying to like get back together?
- Yeah, I'm like, no.
Oh my God, I don't know why I put it out there,
I was like, I'm still dating and I'm still very single.
- Yeah.
- And honestly like it just shows his character.
Like he's a good guy.
- Yeah.
- He's like up upfront like got a girlfriend,
but like, you know, we can hang out and yeah.
- Of course.
- Get lunch or whatever.
- Is there kind of like something you would want to say?
- Yeah, okay, I've thought about this for,
I've thought about this for a long time,
for literally the past two years.
I would wanna say like, thank you honestly.
Like thank you, because from that
like relationship I learned so much going forward.
- Yeah.
- I learned how I should be treated
and I don't want to make him seem
like a bad guy because we did have like, you know
our good times.
- Of course.
- But it's just like, I don't want anyone to ever be like
you have to do what I say.
Any guy to tell me what to do.
- Yeah.
- What to wear, who to hang out with, like,
- Yeah.
- Going forward like it's kinda like, it's my self worth.
I know more for myself and I want more for myself.
- I'll be honest with you, I feel quite uneasy.
I just feel just for so long I had like such
good memories of it, remembering that he is a standup guy
and he's warm and that's the reason I felt so comfortable.
- Yeah.
- In the first place.
- And maybe, all of that can still be true.
I think that is.
- That's true.
- Do you know what I mean?
Like all of that is how you felt in those moments.
I think this having an awkward phone call now
I don't think that should like, take away
from like those real memories that you had when
you were with him, you know?
- Yeah. You're right.
- I'm glad you guys found each other.
That is really sweet and special.
- Just two people who really connect and like will always be
in each other's lives.
- Yeah.
- You know even if that relationship changes over time,
you know?
- Oh, absolutely, and that, you know,
I know that's not everybody's story.
- Yeah.
- By everybody, I mean me.
I did not have like, that like nice of a relationship
with some of my exes and it does make me sad.
Especially like my first love.
I feel like, you know, I would love it if we could still
but it just didn't work out that way.
- Yeah.
- I feel like that healed me, like hearing that.
- Oh.
- You know, he's still in love with you.
(both laughing)
I'm just kidding.
Oh my gosh, that was incredible.
I am so curious to hear what you guys thought.
Comment if you think you might do this
and what that phone call would look like.
I'm definitely going to be making a couple phone calls
after this.
Just kidding, I don't have a first time.
Just kidding, I do.
Comment below if you think I'm a virgin.
(laughing)