i was introduced to your teachings by a friend of mine about seven years ago read the book
i think it was asking it is given handed it back
that was that and then about four years later four years ago i started listening intently again and
from where i was to where i am now is astounding to me
five and a half years ago use the word impressive
it's impressive it's impressive to me what i've accomplished not surprising not astounding not
astonishing not freakishly weird no but impressive impressive yes yes that is more accurate yes
about five and a half years ago i'm impressed with my ability to focus i'm impressed with
the power of my own mind i'm impressed with the consistency of the laws of the universe
and i adore my own guidance system i'm impressed with me i'm impressed with my attention
i'm impressed with the consistency of the laws of the universe yes yeah
thank you
so i divorced my ex-husband five and a half years ago and
i got into a relationship with a man
that has confounded me i'm no longer with him but the relationship continues to
confound me and i remember listening to you on youtube and you saying we're all
something about how we're so confounded by the reality here what we perceive to be reality and
i mean it gets easier it gets less confusing once you understand the laws of the universe
and once you are aware of the thoughts you think and the way they feel and so forth that's why
we're sort of emphasizing that part first before you stepped into this part of your conversation
because we want you to realize that nothing needs to surprise you when your own guidance system is
active and you have some sense of awareness but it's not an unusual thing for people to move
from place to place or face to face or person to person and have things still remaining pretty much
the same different in some ways but the same in other ways because your habits of thought or your
beliefs don't change quickly they could change more quickly but they often don't so from where
you now stand what do you now want as far as the relationship as far as anything that matters to
you it sounds like that's the topic what i want is to feel good and joy that is what i want the most
and so is there a condition that you believe is preventing you from that because we just had a
conversation about how impressed we all are with your ability to focus can you still focus could
you focus yourself into feeling good or is there a condition that's got your undivided attention
i believe that the condition that the relationship that i had with this man while i was divorcing
and after my divorce has yes i believe that it has dom my desire for him has what has
preoccupied me to the point where i felt that that is what i needed to feel good and i know
that that is not true i understand that it can never be a condition i understand that
better than i ever have in my life so with that understanding how does one go about focusing on
something other than a dominant condition it's not the easiest thing but can it be done yes
so what do you recommend how do you suggest i was kind of hoping you could help me with that
because i've been trying for five years tell us some of the things you've tried not thinking
about him but you can't just not think about something you have to think about something
telling myself this man brought me to understand so much more clearly what i want in a partner
yes yet he did not fulfill that but that's like saying to life in general to any contrast you
should have been different yes i know you should have been different esther and her
sister have something fun that they often say if that person were different they'd be perfect
yes if you've just done those few things and of course they're having fun about it because
they know that it's not someone else's job to be the way you need them to be so again it's about
this focus that we were talking about so when you say i'm not going to think about that thing
i'm thinking about you're thinking about that thing that you're thinking about and so what
kinds of things hooked you in in other words what is it that keeps you thinking about this person
his demeanor his way there's something about him that he's still in your life
not intimately i still see him so his demeanor is he here
he's not in the room no oh he's not on the ship no and yet his behavior his demeanor is still
occupying your mind yes and i don't know well it's law of attraction law of attraction is
just giving you the things that you commonly think about but as you get a little distance
between you so that the condition is not so active where you almost can't avoid it you could start
thinking about some other things and as you think about some other things they can become
more dominant you only have so many hours in a day so much broadcasting on so many subjects so
is it possible for you to find other things other than that to think about yes and i do so
much more than i used to i used to obsess so what do you think the hooks are what are the hooks all
about well sex was a big part of it it was in in my marriage my marriage was pretty much void of
sex and i was in it for 16 and a half years so when i left my ex-husband and i met him he was
the first partner i had and i just felt i don't think that was the only thing but i think that was
a huge part of it so are you telling us that this is a relationship that you want to return to or
this is a relationship that you're happy to be rid of you know that's kind of the thing i feel as if
that relationship has brought me more clarity about the type of man i would like to be with and
there's many aspects of him that i enjoyed so we talked about this vortex this vibrational reality
does it feel to you that any one person or specifically this person
is the path of least resistance for your desires to be fulfilled through
i'm not quite sure does it feel to you that of all of the things that this relationship
has caused you to desire does it feel like moving back into that relationship is the path of least
resistance to fulfilling all of those desires no you feel sure about that we can feel that
from you and you said something earlier that lets us know that too so what do you think it
is that causes you to keep looking back we'll tell you what it is okay great
and you're not alone in this almost everybody does something like this but it's that
the manifestations seems more is more real because there's more to see and more to hear and more to
taste and smell and touch in other words the physical reality feels dominant to you that's
why we spend so much time wanting to convince you that the physical reality is not dominant
the non-physical reality is dominant and that if you can get your attention there that it will
morph into an improved physical reality you just can't get there from there you cannot look at a
segment of life whether it's a personality of someone or whether it's a relationship that
you had you can't spend your time looking at the specifics of that and at the same time harmonizing
with the expansion that you've made because of that and that's why the hooking in is so strong
because the very person hear this this is really a powerful and important thing to understand
the very person that has given you the balance that has caused the expansion that has contributed
so mightily to this new you to this new vortex to this powerful evolved you is also the person
that's keeping you from moving to exactly yes yes and so if you could be a better selective sifter
and we're not putting you down for how you're doing because everyone sort of observes but
if you could be a better selective sifter if you could look into the details of that relationship
and just remember the parts you really liked then those parts that active vibration could then
move you more quickly into a place where this vortex is manifesting into something else that
is pleasing but because there's both wanted and unwanted in that vibration when you go there for
the good stuff you often find the not good stuff too and we want to say it again it is so natural
and normal that the very person that caused you to take the bounce would be someplace that you
want to keep looking but it is counterproductive so this is where what we have to say to you can
really be of benefit if you can hear us when we say in a very general sense appreciate this
person for the new relationship he helped you to create and just leave it at that i'm trying
that's what i've been trying to do i've heard this from you i have heard this i have thought this and
what's new in the conversations that we're having over these recent days is this reality the person
the sex the memory of that is more tangible and therefore temporarily more appealing to you
than the dream than the essence than the emotion but this is what we want all of you to get
over because your what is is keeping you from your what can be again you have to let go of the past
and we want to call present manifestation the past in order to move to what you have already become
you want us to tell you the name and address of your new partner yes could you do that
and in doing so we would only be providing another condition for you to fixate on
we want you to find the feeling of that and feel such satisfaction in the current
uncondition of that that you allow yourself the delicious really glorious experience
of being in a vibrational place where an impulse or a thought occurs to you that leads you to what
you are wanting and this time unlike the last time what you will be led to will be pleasing
in all of those ways not just in some ways do you see them clearly not the old guy the new guy
well we are good at ignoring your vibrations so we're not seeing the old guy
oh either one of them we're seeing the new yes that's who i'm really interested in
thankfully and i want to get rid of the but you see your focus contradicts that statement i know
because if that were true you'd be looking more here and less there yeah and so there's
this human thing about justifying this by bashing that i deserve something better than that but the
whole time you're doing that you're getting that you're holding yourself there so it helps to feel
appreciation and you said the words you helped me to know more clearly what i do want you help me to
know more clearly and now i know more clearly so let's turn this into an unconditional conversation
for just a little while tell us what it feels like to be in this relationship that you prefer
what would that feel like what does that feel like what does it feel like when you go there