Hello and welcome! My name is Heather, I'm a Registered Professional Counsellor and a certified
life coach and today I'm going to be analyzing Love Quinn from the Netflix series YOU. Before
we get started make sure to subscribe to support this channel and to get more analysis videos like
this. Love Quinn is introduced to us in season 2 as a pastry chef from Los Angeles who works at her
family-owned, high-end grocery store named Anavrin as a produce manager and chef. She is fiercely
independent, speaks her mind, and is protective of her twin brother Forty. Love soon gets in a
relationship with Joe and becomes pregnant with his child. They get married and move to the
suburbs to start their family and a new life. We learn over season 3 that Love is deeply unhappy,
even though it seems that she has the perfect life, a loving husband, an adorable baby, a
beautiful house in a safe neighborhood, and a new bakery. Who is your favorite character from the
show? Let me know in the comments below! In season 3 of YOU, we gain a deeper understanding of Love.
Love has always despised her parents for being too self-absorbed. Raised by an over-critical mother
and a distant father, she's learned at a young age to look out for herself and her brother Forty.
"He could pretend to care, like if he wanted to." There's a high chance that they experienced
childhood emotional neglect, as this is common for rich and privileged families. Emotional neglect
often goes unnoticed or unreported which may be due to a bias against well-to-do privileged people
or a tendency to blame parents for spoiling or indulging their children. In Love's case, no one
cared to take her feelings into account. Rather, her parents forced her to be Forty's caregiver
to make up for their absence and lack of parental involvement. Love took on the maternal role, thus
putting a lot of pressure on her as a child as she tried to protect Forty, something her parents
sorely failed at. Her relationship with her parents may contribute to Love having an insecure
attachment style. She deeply desires to feel loved and accepted and we see this in her relationship
with Joe and also her friendships. When she feels Joe's love slip away, she desperately
does whatever she can to save their relationship. Love's need to protect her family is heightened
since she feels that her parents weren't there to protect her and Forty, leaving Love to do
whatever is necessary - including murder. Despite her vibrant, affectionate exterior,
she strategically hides parts of herself. It is possible that the emotional neglect
in her childhood helped her develop the ability to embody different personas as a coping mechanism.
We see her struggle with her mother's approval and acceptance and that Dottie is only interested in
a superficial relationship with Love. Dottie is more concerned with how their relationship
looks like on social media as opposed to really getting to know Love and being there for her.
Love suffers both from emotional and physical abuse from Dottie. She continues to seek her
mother's approval and acceptance. "All you ever have to do is keep your brother safe. You failed.
You disgust me." Dottie's inconsistencies from being abusive to being supportive can contribute
to Love's insecure attachment style. To understand Love, we need to understand her relationship with
her twin brother. Love murdered their families au pair named Sophia when she was only 13 because she
was sexually abusing Forty. To cover up her act, she framed Forty and the Quinn family made it
look like Sophia died from suicide. After she saw how easy it was for her parents to cover it up,
Love has learned that getting away with murder can be easy. Love has learned that violence is a means
to an end if her loved ones are being threatened. It's possible that Love killed Sophia not only to
protect her brother, but also to make him rely on her. "Do you think I'm talented?
Of course I do. That's why I push you."
This type of relationship can be defined as codependent.
Forty relies on Love for attention and for her emotional support; thus, enabling Love to feel
needed. She's assumed the caretaker role for quite sometime and carries the responsibility to ensure
her brother sobriety. While Forty continue to battle with drug addiction. Love stood by his side
and took care of him. In addition to having a twin connection, Forty and Love clung to each other
for support throughout childhood and well into adulthood. When Forty dies, Love blames herself
for not being able to protect him. She was given the difficult choice of protecting Forty or Joe.
When we finally get a chance to hear Love's inner monologue in season 3, it's revealed that she's
texting her dead brother and is still seeking that sense of comfort she would have gotten from him
if he was still alive. It's clear that she's still grieving over his death and this may contribute to
her feelings of unhappiness as she's lost her main support system and now also struggles with
her identity as she's no longer Forty's caregiver. She feels alone and resentful that she is left to
deal with her mother. Even though her relationship with Forty may be flawed, it was rooted in trust
and mutual understanding. Throughout this episode, Love continues to send Forty anxiety-ridden texts
trying to figure out where it all went wrong and to understand why she cheated on Joe with a
teenage neighbor. It's possible that Theo reminds Love of Forty, as she sees him as another broken
character she has the chance to fix and protect. Under the influence of alcohol, she hallucinates
Forty in her bathtub. They spend a lot of time discussing how she needs to try to make her life
work with Joe, even though she doesn't like him anymore. "I don't even like him anymore. I mean,
he makes me feel bad for being me." Theo needs Love, whereas Joe she admits makes her feel bad
for being herself. This can be another reason why she's attracted to Theo. "That kid is pretty cool.
Kind of reminds me of me." Love has been taught by both society and her family that it is her fault
when a relationship isn't going right. This leads to feelings of enormous pressure in order to make
sure her life is perfect and feelings of guilt when they aren't perfect. Instead of ending her
relationship with Joe, she does whatever she can to make it work, such as trying to be the
perfect wife, wanting to have a second child, and by having an open marriage as an attempt to
save their intimacy. Love is very similar to Joe in that she believes that she needs to inflict
violence in order to protect the one she loves. She killed Sophia for sexually assaulting Forty,
she killed Delilah, Joe's neighbor when she realized that Delilah was the reason Joe was
leaving LA, she killed Joe's ex-girlfriend Candace in order to protect Joe from getting arrested,
she killed Natalie to save her marriage with Joe, attacked Gill the non-vaxxer who exposed Henry to
measles, attempted to kill Theo fearing that he would expose her and Joe. Love is able to justify
her killings and attacks and her motives behind them are consistent. Love's motive
to kill is to protect her family. "What are you fighting to protect? My family. Why specifically
family? Because that's what you do." She fears abandonment like Joe. "Because of anyone sees how
ugly I can be. They'd go away for good." With Forty being her only close relationship growing up
it would make sense as to why she becomes overprotective of her close relationships.
She becomes obsessed when she feels like she's found the right partner and who she can fantasize
a future with. She has similar manipulation tendencies as Joe and a similar thought process in
order to make them fall in love with her. In her efforts, Love tries to recreate a perfect family,
one that she wished she had growing up. Love's history with emotional abandonment
leaves her to desperately connect with Joe through intimacy. Similar to Joe,
she kills the one she loves if they try to leave her, triggering her abandonment issues
and attachment injuries as she realizes that they cannot fulfill her fantasy of a perfect family.
It was revealed that she accidentally killed her previous husband, James, when he didn't want
to have a baby with her and wanted to leave her and when she attempted to kill Joe after he said
that he wanted a divorce. The main difference between Joe and Love is that Love is impulsive
with her kills and is often emotionally driven. As mentioned in my previous analysis video of Joe,
he would be considered an organized killer and plans his murders meticulously; whereas,
Love's murders are often emotionally driven and unexpected. According to the Crime Classification
Manual, Love would be considered a disorganized killer. Disorganized crimes are not planned and
the criminals typically leave evidence, such as fingerprints or blood at the scene of the murder.
The disorganized offender is likely to come from an unstable or dysfunctional family.
Upon realizing that Joe doesn't appreciate her and that he was a problem the marriage didn't work,
she attempts to kill him, only to have Joe kill Love, stage his own death, have Love take the
fall for all the murders and Mandre Linda, and set the house on fire. If you like this video,
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