I've talked a lot about flirting on the Tripp Advice channel.
But sometimes I really feel like I need to come back to it for guys who are still new,
who are still finding this channel and just give you an overall idea of how it works.
Consider this like a mini guide to what flirting is and the why, when and the how.
Let's get into it.
Why flirting?
Why even think about doing this in an interaction with a woman?
First of all, you shouldn't just be doing it when you first meet her.
Flirting happens throughout the entire course of a relationship.
If you're looking to meet a girl and get into relationship, flirting starts from the moment
you meet her, all the way to the point where you guys are in a relationship and then out
of a relationship.
Flirting never stops.
Why?
Because flirting is the thing that makes things exciting between you two which creates attraction,
it creates it creates sexual tension between the two of you.
That's something that should start from the very second you meet her all the way to when
you guys are in a relationship.
And probably even more important when you guys are in a relationship because that's
a common time where sexual tension seems to die.
Flirting is important for those reasons.
You're giving a woman a chance to become attracted to you when you're flirting.
What is flirting exactly?
A lot of people think flirting is just things you say, but it's not.
It's broken down actually into a few different categories, which we'll go into in just a
second.
Flirting is a mating dance.
It's the thing that creates the tension between you two.
If there's no tension and things are very bland, it can just turn into a friendship.
Sure, you can be physically attracted to someone and that can be halfway there but you still
need that flirting aspect.
I promise you, if you met a girl who was very physically attractive but you went over there
and you started talking to her and she was completely boring and she wasn't flirting
with you in any way whatsoever, your attraction would start to die.
Sure, maybe you'd still want to sleep with her because you're physically attracted to
her.
But it wouldn't go much past that even get to that point.
On the other hand, if you met a girl who was just somewhat attractive to you physically
and she was flirting with you and she was giving you those butterflies and creating
that sexual tension, you'd be more interested.
This is the same thing for how it works with women except it's even more powerful because
women are more attracted to your personality and the way you're communicating with her
versus your looks.
That's why it's so important.
How do you do it?
I break it down into 3 different categories.
There is verbal flirting, there's physical flirting and then there's flirting through
your body language, which is in a way physical, but I put it in a different category because
I think it's a little bit separate because it's something that you're doing.
I'll explain in just a second.
Verbal, physical, body language.
These are the 3 ways that you can flirt with a girl.
Again when you first meet her all the way through the point where you guys are in a
relationship.
What is verbal flirting?
That's the things that you're saying.
Those are the things that are coming out of your mouth, things like teasing her, calling
her a dork, calling her a nerd, saying something about her taste.
Maybe she tells me that she likes a certain kind of music and you say we would never get
along.
That's the worst music ever.
You're kind of teasing her a little bit.
Compliments but very, very seldom.
If you do it too much then it seems like you're seeking validation and it makes you look weak
because it seems like you're just giving her a compliment because you just want her to
feel nice.
So it's not so genuine.
A compliment every once in a while saying that she's adorable.
That's my favorite one.
I say that on a lot of videos.
That's verbal flirting, a compliment every once in a while, teasing every once in a while.
Disagreeing with her is actually flirting.
If she says one thing and you don't agree with it, in a playful way you're saying no,
that's not true.
Uh-uh, no way.
There's no way.
Whatever she's saying, that's what you're gonna say to her.
There's no way.
No, I don't agree with that.
Nope.
It's just kind of this push pull mentality.
You're pushing her away verbally by saying no, I don't think so.
No, that's not something I believe in.
No, I can give you examples.
But it's really not going to matter.
Because you should understand the concept behind it doesn't matter what it is, but you're
just disagreeing with her.
And by the way, don't just do this to flirt with her.
Actually, if you just say it if you actually disagree.
Look out for the things that you're talking about in an interaction and then if you do
disagree, disagree.
A lot of guys will be the people pleaser nice guy and just agree with everything she says.
Oh, you like that?
I like that too.
Oh, yeah totally.
Oh my god.
We're like the same person.
Women don't want to be with the same person.
They want to be with someone who is a little bit different and has their own personality.
Let's keep moving.
So that's verbal.
Let's go to physical.
Physical flirting is going to be more so you touching her.
That's what physical flirting is.
Very light touches.
A nice seductive handshake very quickly when you first meet her.
Maybe when you agree with something you lightly touch her elbow, her arm, maybe her stomach.
I have a lot of videos on this channel that show you how to touch a girl physically when
you're flirting with her.
Maybe pulling her in for a hug when you agree with something that she says.
At least giving her a hug goodbye when you first meet her.
Going for the kiss when you guys are making a really good connection when you first meet
her or after a first date.
These are things that also build tension, that's physical flirting.
There's also body language flirting.
That's going to be you being very confident in your body language that also builds tension.
One example of that is eye contact.
Eye contact is a great way to flirt with a girl making sure you're giving her piercing
eye contact when you're talking to her.
Smiling and not being completely monotone and just straight face the whole time.
Smile every once in a while, while looking her in the eye.
This is your body language.
The way you're talking to her in more of a commanding tone like the way I'm talking to
you in a downward inflection.
Again, eye contact, the way that you're talking to her with your voice and smiling every once
in a while.
Make sure that's a little checklist when you're talking to her and facing her in conversation.
A lot of guys will turn away from her and kind of look her in the eye.
No, face her shoulder to shoulder and mirror her when you're talking to her.
This is your body language.
There you go, breaking it down verbal, physical.
body language, that is how you do it.
And I already answered this question, but when do you do it?
You do it the minute you start talking to her, all the way through the interaction,
all the way through the dates, all the way through the relationship to the marriage,
to the point where you guys are not seeing each other anymore.
Flirting is the blood and the gasoline that lights the fire of the interaction of attraction
of the relationship.
It's the main component that you really need so make sure you're doing it.
If you have trouble with this, my Hooked program at www.getherhooked.com has a section in there,
a video called Effortless Flirting.
It's an hour long video where I dive super deep into more aspects of flirting, how to
do it, how to be able to use it in your interactions and breaking it down to a more specific and
scientific level to help you.
It's called Effortless Flirting.
It's in the Hooked program as a bonus.
Check it out, go to www.getherhooked.com.
Get your hands on it today.
Thousands of guys already have it and they email me all the time telling me how much
it helps.
Check it out if you want to learn flirting and understand it better.
I'll see you on the next video.