What would be your best advice for getting rid of nerves at an interview okay so i i get rid of
nerves a couple different ways so number one your whole mindset about the interaction let's
let's let's go let's go let's go really extreme let's go really extreme here have you ever choked
Kwabena not necessarily you just anybody you ever choke right you missed the putt you tripped before
you hit the finish line whatever it might be you know you just laid a total egg usually when you
choke and you get nervous what what you're doing at that moment is you're thinking about something
other than what you're doing okay so so you know the golfer that's got the final putt soda
metaphorically to win the tournament is thinking about what it's going to be like to be hoisting
the trophy and not thinking about making the putt okay we we think the world is bigger than we are
or we start to imagine something else or we're thinking about something else or we're distracted
that makes us choke when we're nervous it's the same thing we're thinking about uh oh
what happens if i don't perform well what happens if i don't look smart what happens if they don't
love me what like okay you are going into a future and you are paying a debt that you do not have to
pay at this moment okay if you are concentrated on what it is you're doing and just enjoying the
moment literally you have nothing to lose you have nothing to lose you don't have the job yet right
so you can't lose something that you technically don't have so what i do is i think about anything
that i'm about to do i number one am completely focused on what it is that i'm doing i'm not
worried about fumbling up my answer i'm just having a conversation with you right it's you and
me and all the other people but i'm not worried about them right now i'm just worried about you
queben right so i'm thinking about you i'm focused on the moment the other thing is i know let's say
i gotta go give a speech there's all those people there's all these people here on on the show i'm
not worried about how many people are listening to me i'm focused on you i'm focused on serving when
you go on a job interview you're actually serving them right you are you are presenting yourself as
an opportunity to go there and help them okay i think about that and then the other thing is
i'm damn ready all the time okay now i don't know what questions you're gonna ask me but i know my
stuff right kind of thing if you're going into a job interview you know your stuff you do you know
your stuff you've know what you know what you've done i've given you instruction on how to package
it i've even shot a video for you on how to build your confidence in a job interview maybe stacy can
drop that in the chat i would highly recommend watching that and then the other thing is i
would prepare for the most common job interview questions that book right there that interview
intervention bo i always muck this up because right that interview intervention book right
there that's sitting right in front of my watchful eye that that blesses me every minute every day um
is i ship that to you anywhere in the world for a couple of bucks you get the ebook right away
i would grab that thing if you don't have it and i would look through that so when you think about
focusing you think about serving you think about i know my stuff you make sure you do your homework
that calms my nerves down so those are the things now i could go all into how to focus better and
all that stuff that's in my leadership program by the way um but i i i hope i hope that helps
that is a damn fine question it really is and uh i know stacey's gonna be happy because i i know
we have a number of variations of this question but the nerves part is really really key here i
know a lot of people get nervous and and that's my three or four part recipe for never being nervous
in a job interview hey andy any advice or videos to watch on bringing anxiety levels down during
online interviews and increasing confidence elena let's get this one up here i do i have
a whole bunch i have a whole bunch a couple things what everybody what brings down anxiety
two things right two two things i don't care i don't care what happens that's one way of looking
at it right i don't care can you get there so i want you to be diligent and ready but
if you're panicked about the outcome that creates anxiety so i always like to say it's in this book
this book's free too this is my goal setting book okay it's a motivational and inspirational book on
how to get everything you want out of life and have fun doing it and the quote in this book is
my mind is open to any possibility but my heart is attached to no outcome i will not
give in okay i will not give in and and let let an outcome that i have no control over control me
okay now that's one way you got to practice it okay now to help you get over your anxiety
and fears i do have a video about how to overcome your fears maybe stacy could pop that
in the in the chat that's the first one that's just for anxiety i have a confidence video how
how to be confident in a job interview how to get confidence in a job interview if you go to
my youtube channel and you type the word confident in the video is going to pop right up okay watch
that one now the other thing proficiency there is two types of proficiencies you have to have in an
online interview what are they well you got to be you want to be good and comfortable with the
mechanics of the camera the audio right the setup okay well that takes a little practice so i had
a coaching session i actually have four coaching sessions on monday i think i told this to everyone
probably almost every one of them about when you have a video interview of which we're doing a
ton of these now right so this woman uh out of new york area she had a a video uh interview um
later this week so maybe acts like it was yesterday and i said to her okay it was monday
well get the camera you know you kind of prepped for your interview you've got your interview
responses just you know in the morning just talk to the through the camera for five minutes just
get comfortable so that you remember the high points of what you want to say and you feel
comfortable looking at the camera then you know then at lunch time to spend five minutes or three
minutes and then you know at dinner time just do another and tomorrow tuesday do the same
thing time wednesday rolls around this will be like nothing okay you'll be totally comfortable
that gives you a look of confidence and you are not worried about oh my god is something you know
how's this look and all that crap okay that's one thing then there's the confidence related to your
content knowledge right understanding what it is that you do and and how you want to convey what
you do i mean i just got done telling you none of you suck right you're all good at what you do i
believe that i do believe that okay i especially believe the fact that because you're here with me
you're the kind of person who wants to get better and you're the kind of person that believes that
i hope you do believe that so it's a matter of okay well now look at what it is that i do
what is it that i'm expected likely to be asked this book will tell you i have a chapter in here
about the 14 most effective job interview questions that an employer can ask you and in
that chapter are 43 variations of those questions trust me it's covered okay yes there are going
to be some uh what we call domain specific or technical specific questions related to what it
is you do specifically right the mechanic has to know how to put the engine together kind of thing
but for you i would make sure that i knew the stories i was going to tell related to those
questions i am likely going to be asked and the more comfortable you feel
with that the more confident you'll be so there's the mechanics it's like a speaker
right when i go on the stage right do i feel like i'm in total command and and i have that presence
and i'm not worried about remembering what i need to say and all that good stuff because
it's practiced so much that it's totally natural when you do it and you deliver it okay right
when when when when when you and i are talking this is an online interview you all are online
interviewing me right now you do it every thursday and then some right except i have to do this on
the fly right i have so but i don't worry about it because of a number of things number one i
think about you not me because i'm trying to help you the other thing you can think about
in your online interview is this company would be lucky to have me not i don't mean that in a in an
obnoxious way i'm just saying hey i'm offering my services and i'm really good at what i do
to help this organization i say the same thing when i think about you guys hey you know what give
them your best right care about them i do care about you i care about your your results but most
importantly i care about giving you the confidence to go out into this world and to try things you
might not otherwise try or to things that you were going to try anyway to try them with more vigor
okay so when you start thinking about the other party that also cools you down all right and then
the fact matter is you just know your stuff you know your stuff don't worry about it you ain't
gonna forget you won't and if you need to one of the one of the one of the things that i one
of the things that i i mentioned to one of my my coaching clients you got you got a notepad
right you got a you got your job description you got your resume maybe you got some notes
when you're in an online interview if i'm looking down on my notes you could be referencing whatever
okay you could be looking down you know and then you might have like the five points
that you want to say on that question great don't forget to thumb this this this and this
right same thing hey you know i'm just looking at the job description when you're looking at
the answer or whatever right you could do that so i mean whatever you got to do to feel comfortable
okay i hope that helps that's that's a great question that's just a damn good question
you