- So let's talk about masculine and feminine energy,
and specifically the feminine traits
that high-value men just love.
It just like magnets pulls them into this relationship.
Now, you probably understand about feminine energy.
You understand that feminine energy
and masculine energy are polar energies,
meaning they attract one another.
And you also know that these aren't gender specific.
So it's not like women only have feminine energy
or men only have masculine energy.
But you and me as human beings, we're dynamic.
We can contain both masculine and feminine energy.
And you and I also have sort
of a home base and energy that we live in more than others.
And often on my coaching calls
in the Manifest Your Man program, I attract a lot
of successful women, smart women who are great women,
and yet they're disappointed in who they're attracting,
'cause they want to attract a masculine man.
They want to attract a healthy masculine man,
not a toxic masculinity or anything like that,
but a man who's willing to lead, a man who's willing
to show up, because they want to be in their feminine energy
and yet they know that they're sourced or really
have a habit of coming from their masculine energy.
Today I'm gonna share
with you three feminine traits that are easy to notice
and activate and dial up.
If you want to call in a different type
of partner in your life, if you really want to,
or maybe you have a partner in your life
and you want to activate more masculine energy in him
as you step into your feminine energy more
and you activate these three traits,
it's gonna naturally draw your man into his masculine energy
because these energies are dynamic.
Let me give you a quick example of this.
One of my clients, her name is Sharon
and she's an attorney.
And when we first started working together
she described how she felt stuck in her masculine energy.
Being an attorney, she was always making decisions.
She was always creating the plan, she was leading the way.
It was very kind of masculine-dominated space.
And she found herself having a really tough time
shifting that energy when she would go on dates.
And so even if she was with a guy
who was sort of balanced in his energy
because she was so masculine, he would just lean right
into his feminine energy and she wasn't attracted to that.
And so, she would go on all these great dates
with great guys, but there would be no attraction
because she didn't want a man who was really coming
from his feminine energy.
So Sharon shifted and her results changed.
Sharon met a guy named Mark.
Sharon learned how to be in her feminine energy.
It helped Mark live into his masculine energy even more.
And the attraction between the two
was like off the charts amazing.
And at the end of this video
I'm gonna share with you a video that Sharon sent me
of Mark proposing to her.
And this is the moment that she had been dreaming of,
the moment that she had been wanting in her life.
She had been married previously before.
It was not a great marriage.
She wanted to call in the love of her life.
And so here she is
at this stage in her life actually having manifested that.
And this is the moment
and I asked her for permission to share it with you.
And she said yes.
So let me share with you the three simple concepts
or practices that can help you amplify
your feminine energy that Sharon used.
The first one is to understand that the feminine is sourced
in the heart, where the masculine is sourced in the mind.
Now, there's no right or wrong.
You and I both have masculine and feminine energy,
but just notice where do you tend to ride around
throughout most of your day?
Are you up here?
Are you an intellectual?
Are you strategizing?
Are you visioning?
Are you problem solving?
Or are you sourced and anchored
in your heart throughout your day?
Now, different people are different.
I tend to be kind of riding around
up in my mind all day long
because of the nature of the work that I do.
But if you want to be more balanced
or even if you want to amplify your feminine energy,
one of the easy ways to do that
is to just move your awareness
from your mind down into the center of your heart.
And right now, I invite you to do that with me.
Bring your awareness right now
and just put some awareness on the center of your heart.
And if you are actually focused on this in this moment
you will start to feel the energy field
in your heart begin to expand.
You can actually feel this sense of aliveness
and the swelling or surging of energy in your heart space.
And that begins to open your heart to the beauty that exists
in the world, to the presence of love that is all around us.
And that will help amplify your feminine energy.
One of the things that masculine loves
is the effect that the feminine has.
For example, you're with a masculine guy.
He's riding around in his mind most of the time
feeling a bit disconnected
from his heart and how that feels.
And so when he's with a woman
who can be so anchored in her feminine energy,
so connected to her heart that she draws him into his heart
in moments, it feels so good.
It begins to balance his energy out.
So while the first idea is to notice,
are you riding around in your mind more or are you sourced
in your heart, knowing that you can move back and forth,
but one's gonna be more masculine, one's more feminine.
The second is the feminine energy is sourced
in the present moment.
Well, the masculine energy is future moments.
And so it correlates to the heart
and the mind because masculine energy being future moments,
the mind wants to strategize.
It wants to set goals.
It wants to plan the future.
It wants to move into those moments.
When you're doing that, even if it's planning vacations,
when you step in and you plan the date
it puts you in the masculine sense
because you're leading in that moment.
You're planning.
You're visioning the way, and that's okay.
But you want to know what energy you're coming from,
where the feminine energy is about enjoying the moment.
It's about being present, being here now
and fully soaking in and experiencing
this moment to the fullest.
And you and I want a balance of actually both masculine
and feminine energy to have a full life.
How many people do you know that are just so anchored
in their masculine?
They're all about getting the goal, growing the business,
getting that million-dollar mark or that 10 or 20
or $50 million mark, publishing the book, achieving this,
getting this number of followers, and they're just, ah,
about going after the goal.
And what happens the moment they get the goal, then what?
They're onto the next goal
and then the next goal, like it's never enough.
They're never satiated.
They're never satisfied having achieved that goal.
And they never give themselves the ability
to fully enjoy and to celebrate.
If they do, it's like five minutes.
Like, hey, amazing job on that accomplishment.
They're like, yeah, okay, what's next?
And it's not that one's bad and one's good.
No.
Both are required
for being a fully activated human in this planet.
You want to be growing.
You want to be pursuing something that brings you aliveness.
It's in the growth where happiness occurs.
But part of that growth is in recognizing
and celebrating the moment that you're in.
And this is what is phenomenal about feminine energy.
As the feminine energy hits the pause button,
the feminine energy grabs the masculine
and says, look, look around.
Look at that sunset.
And she wraps, you'll wrap your arms around him and you say,
"Let's take in, soak in this sunset."
And he's like, "Where are we gonna park?
And where are we going?
And da da da."
And so, (laughs) you pause him
and he takes a moment and he takes a deep breath in
and he has gratitude for this moment,
and he just soaks it in and it feels so life-giving
and it feels so good to him.
And he's like, wow.
And then the value that that feminine presence is
for a masculine that drives, that plans, that strategizes,
it's always on the go.
It's so much value.
You watch people when they eat.
Are they just about getting the meal done? (muttering)
Like they're trying to finish it, or are they gonna stop
and enjoy and soak it in and like, wow, we're live,
we're in the dream right now.
You and I are above ground this day.
You and I have been gifted this beautiful day of life.
We are here.
Like, we're living this dream together.
You are on a growth path today.
That is beautiful, that is amazing.
And the more we can stop, access this present moment
right here and right now and soak that in,
the more you are amplifying that beautiful, radiant,
amazing feminine energy,
and the more your masculine man is going to value
and just appreciate that moment
that you've helped him enjoy.
And the third feminine quality that's really easy
to understand and practical to apply is feminine energy
is inviting energy,
while masculine energy is pursuing.
The feminine energy will draw
unto itself, where the masculine chases, pursues,
and tries to get what it is that it desires.
There is a false myth out there that feminine energy
is passive, inactive, or weak or submissive or any of that.
No, those are myths.
That's not at all what feminine energy is.
Feminine energy is incredibly powerful
and can be incredibly proactive.
You think about if you wanna talk to somebody
and you're either gonna pursue or you're gonna pull,
one of those two ways of having someone come up to you,
you can call someone over to you with a look
or with a smile or by waving them over to you,
but it's whether you're pulling
or pushing this masculine or feminine,
you can be massively proactive in your feminine energy.
And so one of the things
that the masculine loves is when the feminine,
one of the ways it invites is by stating a want
or a desire or a standard.
It's an invitation.
You know, you're texting a guy
and the difference is you saying,
"Hey, we should go out on Friday night.
We should go out this weekend.
Why don't we go out to this place?
I know of a great place."
Right?
That's more pushing energy versus pulling.
It's the same action, but masculine, versus you saying,
"Hey, if you asked me out for a date on Friday night,
I wouldn't say no."
And you're making a request.
Or, "Hey, I would really love to go out this weekend.
Would you take me?"
Same, being proactive, but just one
with a feminine approach versus a masculine approach.
There's 100 different ways to be pilling
in a proactive way.
And what it does is it creates an invitation,
it creates an opening, and actually it's almost
like a challenge to the masculine energy.
It says, "Hey, I would love this thing.
Can you provide this?
Can you live up to this?
I would love for you to take me out
this weekend and go on a date.
Or I would love to go on this hike together,
or I would love to get some sushi together.
Can you provide this?"
My wife did this.
One of the ways you can be pulling is simply
sharing your standards and your boundaries on a date.
On our first date, my wife and I,
I went in for a kiss and she was like, "Yo, big guy.
I don't think so."
And there's a particular way I've shared
in other videos that you can actually speak this
without rejecting him.
But ultimately what she said to me was,
"I don't kiss on the first date and I'm really looking
for someone that I can be in a committed relationship with.
And I don't know if that's you.
I don't know if you want that, but I'm looking
for someone that, and we'll see where this goes."
I remember looking at her and at that point, I was right
at a moment in my love life where I was dating casually.
I had been doing that for a while.
I was enjoying that process, but long term
I wanted to find the love of my life.
And I was right at that moment where I'm like,
"Hmm, maybe now could be the time.
Maybe I could be that guy for you.
Maybe I could give you what you wanted."
And so she laid out her standard like,
"I'm not gonna kiss on the first date,
but I wanted to grow something special with somebody."
And I thought to myself, "Maybe I could be that guy.
Maybe I could step into that."
And we started dating and connecting and fell in love.
And ultimately we became that for each other.
And so as you share your standards and boundaries
it's incredibly powerful.
And that's exactly what Sharon did with Mark.
Sharon began to move from her head into her heart.
Sharon began to experience the present moment.
Sharon made invitations to Mark in a beautiful feminine way.
No pressure, no nagging, just feminine.
Like, "Hey, this is what I would love."
And Mark, woo, he leapt at it.
He jumped in and he started seizing the moments with Sharon
and they created a beautiful romance that ultimately
very recently culminated in this moment right here.
Check this out.
- [Mark] Look at it.
(Sharon laughs) (Mark talks off-mic)
- [Sharon] I am going to die.
(Sharon screams)
(crowd screaming and clapping)
- [Woman] Wow, that was fast.
Oh my God!
Oh my God.
That was so cool.
Oh my God.
(crowd cheering)
- It's beautiful, thank you.
(crowd cheering and clapping)
Oh my God.
Is someone getting that?
- [Woman] Yes.
Oh my gosh.
Wow.
- [Mark] Once again, you taught me.
- Now let me remind you, that is with a woman
who thought she would never find the love
of her life, who felt
like her standards were too high, she was too masculine.
She was never gonna create that result.
And here she is living her dream.
And that same thing is possible for you as well.
I call these the three feminine amplifiers, is to move
from your head down into your heart, take a deep breath in,
and just feel the present moment,
and then make your request.
Speak what it is that you would want.
And the masculine energy is gonna gravitate towards that.
And your amazing masculine man is gonna be drawn to you.
So my question for you is, what have you found
as a really great practice to amplify your feminine energy?
Go ahead and post that comment below.
I believe in you.
Thanks for watching.
And I'll see you soon.
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