Hey there, Adam LoDolce with sexyconfidence.com, where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
In this video right now, I'm going to be talking about the five situations when you should
never, ever, ever text a guy.
Keep watching.
Now texting become both an incredible solution and incredible problem in our lovelife.
There was once a time when if you started dating a guy, he would have to call you, and
if you weren't there, he would have to leave a voicemail.
Then you have to get home from whatever it is that you're doing, and listen to that voice
mail.
Then, when you call him back, chances are, he wasn't there either.
Then, he'd have to go and find a pay phone and even try calling you by a pay phone.
If you finally reach each other, it would be this magical moment.
"Oh my God, yes."
"Oh my God."
"Yes, yes.
Oh my God, yes.
Finally getting to talk to you."
"Oh, yes.
Oh wow."
You would be psyched, and then the conversation would go from there to real life.
Perfect.
But now with texting, we're in touch with anyone, anywhere, at any time.
To some people out there, they think that this gives them permission to text at times
when it is totally inappropriate or completely unnecessary.
Don't be that person, make sure you never text in any of these five scenarios.
Situation number one is you need to have a serious emotional conversation.
Now I get it, real deal conversations are scary and they are especially more scary when
you have to do it in real life, but you have to do it.
You have to push for those moments where you're a little bit nervous, and rather than taking
the "easy way out" and talking about your feelings and your emotions by text, you got
to do that in person because so much of communication is lost when it's over text.
Because all it is is just text message and usually it's shorter than what it is you're
trying to actually communicate to the person.
So much of what you're saying is through your body language, and it's really how you say
it.
I mean you can show sincerity when you really mean it and not come off as brash.
You can show that you're really listening to them rather than the fact that it takes
you like seven seconds to respond, right?
It's so important to just be there in real life, and when there's something that's happening
between the two of you, that's really important to just kind of like talk it out and just
let it go.
Wait until real life, don't take the easy road out.
Scenario number two is when you're really, really drunk.
Now back when I was single, drunk texting was actually one of my favorite past times.
"Hey baby, why don't you just come over and I'll caress you until the break of dawn?"
But then I'd wake up the next morning and read the texts that I sent that night and
it just says, "Want to get nasty?"
Not hot, didn't work.
Now obviously, if you're in a committed relationship or you're not together, you're going to drunk
text, that's natural, right?
But if you're single and you're drinking, use that time to go out and meet new people
while you're out rather than texting with some dude from Bumble or Tinder that you messaged
earlier that day or you met earlier that week.
Use this time to meet other people, okay?
Now obviously, the only caveat is if you're just trying to meet up and all you're doing
is texting logistically, but beyond that, avoid the drunk texting, it only ends with
sadness and awkward morning texts that you got to read.
Three, when you have nothing really that you want to say and you're really only looking
for validation from a guy.
Now us guys, we have Spidey senses about when a woman texts us only looking for attention.
If there's literally no purpose to your text whatsoever and you're always initiating these
kind of purposeless texts, then you may want to go back out there and get a life in the
real world.
Number four, when you're in a fight.
Now, as the internet age has progressed, I've noticed one thing about human nature.
We are way meaner by text than we'd ever be in real life.
Now if you're in a fight with someone and he keeps texting you, just answer with, "Look,
how about we grab a cup of coffee later and just work this out?"
What you're doing is transitioning the fight from text to the real life.
It sounds really simple and it is, but a lot of us are guilty of just laying into someone
and really diving into the fight even further.
The best thing to do, nip in the bud and go meet that person in real life and work it
out in real life.
Finally, number five, you've already texted him today and he hasn't responded yet.
Do you want to know the easiest way to turn a guy off even if he's hundreds of miles away
from you?
Texting him multiple times during the day.
Look, sometimes guys just are really busy as are you and as you should be, and if someone
hasn't responded yet, there is a reason.
If it's gotten multiple days and they still haven't responded yet, unless you're worried
that something might seriously have happened to them, there's no reason to do anything
except maybe call if you're actually concerned.
Don't do the multiple texting, okay?
He's seen your text.
He's read it, he knows that it exists in the world, he just hasn't a chance to respond
to it.
Please don't be the double texter.
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Bye-bye.