Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. Here's the situation.
A lot of guys are getting this one mistake wrong when they're in the bedroom with
a girl. Seriously, most guys are getting this wrong. How do I know? Because I
hear from you guys all the time. I'm on coaching calls with you guys all the time.
I hear from my friends all the time. This is a big issue and I'm gonna tell
you what it is right now. You are too focused on the outcome. What else is new?
A lot of guys, a lot of people in general are always focused on the outcome. Not just
in sexual situations but basically in any situations in general. You're focused
on the end result and as the cliche goes "you're not focused on the journey".
But this is true, so true especially when you're with a girl in bed. The problem is
is that most people think sex is this journey to the climax. It's like
you are doing things to make yourself climax, to make the girl climax. Like you're
trying to get to that end result because that's what sex is. Right? No. That is
the wrong way to look at it and if you look at it like that, you're gonna get
yourself in a lot of trouble. A lot of guys have erectile dysfunction because
of this. They're so in their head that they're focused on the outcome.
A lot of guys end up not pleasing their woman as much as she would want and even
you being pleased yourself when you're focused on the climax, on the outcome.
What you need to do is get rid of the whole mindset that sex leads
somewhere and instead think of it more like an experience. You're probably
thinking "Tripp, I don't get it. What is sex if it's just the experience?
Isn't the good feeling come when you're at the part where there's an
orgasm? Isn't the point to get there? I'm saying no it isn't.
I want you to focus on you and focus on your partner or the girl that you're
with and enjoying the moment before you get to the end. A lot of that is gonna
have to do with focusing on foreplay. It's gonna have to do with going very
slow. A lot of guys do have premature
ejaculation problems. That is because they're hyper sensitive to
the situation that's going on and they're not moving slow and focusing on
the experience. You might be asking "Tripp, I don't get it. Why can't I
focus on the outcome? Why is that such a big deal?"
Like I just said, there's premature ejaculation, there's erectile dysfunction.
Things like that that you might have issues with. But also you want to be
able to have an experience that she can derive pleasure from and so if you're
just focused on the outcome, yes that feels good. The climax feels good.
But you want the experience as a whole to be memorable, to be something
that you guys look forward to and it's not just something that happens
really quickly. There's a time and a place for a quick sex and that's
fine too but creating that experience of getting to know her in the
bedroom and her getting to know you in the bedroom, creates a deeper intimacy
between the two of you. And even if it is a one-night stand or something that's
really quick, you're gonna have a better time lengthening the process
between you two and focusing on the moments between and before you guys have
that orgasm. Plus here's the big benefit. The climax, the end of the session
between you two is gonna be that much more pleasurable when you're taking your
time and when you're going slow. There's been some studies that have
shown that the average sexual experience lasts anywhere between 5 - 15
minutes. That's really short. And unless you plan on
having more sex that day, that's still a very short time. Think about going
slow, taking your time, having fun, experimenting with different things that
you might be interested in, that she's interested in. Look at it more like
something you guys are doing together that's fun, that's an activity, than
something to just get done. My tip to you is increase the length of what you
guys are doing together. Kiss for longer, do foreplay longer,
take the clothes off slower. All the parts that are happening in your
sexual experience, just make it a little bit longer. That's it, very simple.
If you're having trouble with initiating this sexual experience and getting her
turned on and making her want to be with you sexually, I have a free video for you
called Tripp's Tension Technique. You can watch that and see a live
demonstration of how to build the tension between you and a woman so she
gets turned on. Check that out, that is for free. It's down in the description below.
Watch that. I'll see you in the comments
and I'll see you on the next video.