Have you got a clear understanding of what your values are because if you
don't you could be missing out on more happiness more fulfillment and more
success in your life so in this video we're going to go through what days are
why they're important to you and how you can determine what your own personal
values are in your life. Stick around. Before we dive in we have a brand new
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description below. So I want to talk about values right why our value is
important and what are they. So essentially values your core values
our beliefs, are your principles are your things that are important to you things
that you hope valuable in your life. Right and it's important to know what
these are because they are the things that can bring you more happiness more
fulfillment more purpose more meaning in your life so you can make decisions on
the back of your values then you're going to get those outcomes more often
than not. You're going to make better decisions.
So you really have alignment with your values. For example, let's just say
you've got a job offer and it's going to pay a lot more money at first you're
like yes great I'm going to go through the job is going to pay more now if you
knew your values were family and happiness and a few other things but
going that job meant that you're not gonna see your family as much because
you actually want to work 13 14 hours a day then you might not take the job
because your core fundamental highest values family. Now
let's just say the job is you don't see anyone and you're one of your core
values is relationships is connection then you're not going to be happy.
So making decisions just based on in the moment attraction or emotion like
the money it may not be the best decision but the point is you know what
your values are so you can make the right decisions that are aligned to the
happiness, thefulfillment, the meaning, the purpose the joy and all those things. Okay so
how do we actually determine what our values are? For this part I'm going to
dive into my computer, let's go. So what we want to do is reflect on moments in
our life when we were most happy when we're most proud when were most grateful
when we had more joy when we we had some in was fulfilled so what would reflect
on the most happiest moment of your life alright so just if you do that right now
think about the happiest moment of your life how did you feel in that moment
really be in that moment and once you get that you want to ask yourself what
were the values that were present in that moment. What values were being
upheld in that moment so for example let's just if I say my happiest moment
in my life was my wedding so if I think about the values that were being upheld
for me I would think love, I would think commitment
I would think family, right, trust and you would put down all the values that you
feel really everyone's different so whatever it is for you. You could be your
most happiest moment might have been winning a football tournament or event
or medal so for you the most happy moment you like there might be teamwork
and the values there it might be achievement success right camaraderie
I don't know how to spell comradery so I'm not gonna write it. Friendship. So you can see
you your reflect in the moment and think about it so let's just say it's
fulfilled okay so what most fulfilling moment for me is when I'm coaching. When
I'm actually coaching people and changing their lives I've got one in
mind we're a really good client story where you completely you know change
their their life for the better and for me the the values that are being upheld
then are of service, impact, value - bringing value so you go through that
process then once you've done that you can then also try and flip flip it and
this will help you brainstorm to squeeze out any other values that might be there
so let's just say you think of the most moment in life when you're most not
proud okay and you just ask so okay well what would the values that were missing
what those were are not honoring in that situation so you might be something that
you in your life when you're really not proud about... What values how did that
make you feel and what days were not being upheld and you'd feel that out.
I've just fast forward it to here so you can see now that I've started to really
fill this out now we can move on to the next step. For the second step this is
just going extend the brainstorming and this is what I like to use the SEARCH
system which system I've got I'll take that through
you right now, let's go. Okay so you can see here this is the acronym SEARCH so
its skills, express, activities, research, consider and history so I'll just go
through what these are. Okay so if we look at it like this right so this is
the search so when you're thinking about what skills you have right so you want
to just list those consider what you know a lot about and what are your
talents. Okay so you'd list those out so mine would be...
so mine would be say coaching, communication and so on right. Then the
next one would be what do you love to express so also consider what you love
to talk about, what do you like to teach people, what are the things that you like
to say with your mouth and really think about that and then you can write out
what you want to express and then next you've got activities so what activities
you love to do. So let me just fast forward for you. Okay so I'm just filling
this out for you so you can see here I like to talk a lot about personal
development, I like to talk about mindset and goals again activities like to
do that I've got them here but you could literally be like anything that relates
anything that's for you like you like to look you like to look up how to be a
better parent right so it could be parenting and then from that you want to
look at what are the values that are being what the values that are present
in this situation. What what does it mean for me? So parenting could fall
into family, right? So you're kind of just listing them out for now and once you've
done that you can do step three which step three is to consolidate it is to
consolidate all this so we've got them into into different groups. What you
do is you just grab all of these and you'd grab these and you put
them into value groups. I'm just grabbing these for you and for now we're
just going to put them over here okay.
All right so we've got him over here and what we want to try and do is look for
some trends in these so what what are things that go together so we can get
him into groups okay and you just start putting them into groups so you can see
what I'm doing here. Okay I've just fast forwarded so I've
got them into groups now so you can see here I've got family staff I've got the
commune relaxation the leadership first of all I'm success so I've got them in
those groups so now I'm just gonna bring these up to here and I've labeled them
already into you want to title the group or pick one out that you think it really
resonates with you so this is what I've got
I've got service my inner circles what I've called this I'm actually going to leave
that one out Group three. I've got fun, work, personal development
and success. So these are my core values that I'm going with. I value my work I
could probably actually put this stuff with service because it really is about
service for me right bringing value brings service. So I've got fun.
I've got personal development is one of my values so life improvement and
success definitely being the best I can possibly be so success is definitely
important to me and I can I know what that encompasses that is involved in
that as well. So that's what I'm finishing up with so let's move on to
the next step. All right so number four we want to confirm at these values and
actually ones that we're gonna use that we've got them right so we want to we
want to test these out and really think about okay the best way I do it is think
of say if someone was going to read out at your funeral what you said what you
stood for. Like if they had like I had self development, or if I had a family, if
I hand trust, if I had loyalty, love, whatever
they are right if they want to read out yours would you be proud of those. Would
you be happy with those would you be like yeah, hell yeah, yeah that was me.
So you want that kind of feeling right so you look at them if they're not then
just look at the list and just revise how you label it or what is most
important. Right? Another thing you can do is then think about decisions that you
currently got in your life right now all right some decisions that can't be got
in your life right now or decisions that you have just made and think about those
values and think okay is that actually aligned to personal development is that
aligned to like growth or success was one of mine so if I'm making this a a
decision around business and it's it's I'm thinking about service and success
right so I'm drawing upon those values then I will know yep if that's the
outcomes going to give those two things I'm giving service and I'm getting
success from it whatever yours are we can make it more educated decision on it.
So you want to then use those and test them out okay so if you then feel
like you're not feeling it then you can kind of revise it and move it around so
it can definitely be something that you can work on but that process is going to
get used you lock down some values and start making some better decisions in
your life that they are lead to more happiness the filming and success. So
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