gentleman's game here charisma it's something that most of us wish we had
more of you've probably had an experience where you are able to come
off as very charismatic maybe for a whole day maybe just for a single
interaction these qualities of self-confidence high energy contentment
these are things that most people lack so when they're around someone who
radiates those charismatic traits they get drawn in they get excited
charismatic people can sometimes seem supernatural and extraordinary almost
like stars and the truth is anyone can learn to cultivate charisma by
practicing their presence they can learn to attract attention whenever they walk
into a room charisma is also highly seductive it's hard to resist a man with
charisma so today I'm gonna go over seven ways you can increase your
charisma and become the eighth type of seducer in Robert Greene's novel the art
of seduction the charismatic by the way if you haven't checked out my artist
seduction series yet make sure to do so right here so number one purpose the
charismatic seducer understands that if people believe he has a plan that he
knows where he's going they'll follow him instinctively and honestly it
doesn't even matter that much whether or not you're right you just need to pick a
cause or an ideal something you're passionate about then communicate a
vision of how you plan on getting there as a man it's doubly important to have a
sense of purpose girls want to feel like you have a direction in your life that
you're working towards they don't want to be the ones making the plans in order
to have purpose you have to ask yourself what are your life goals what do you
want to work towards we all have a finite amount of time on this earth what
do you really care about spending it on is it helping stop homelessness or using
yoga to help people become healthier or building a successful business whatever
it is you have to commit to it and then you will have a strong sense of purpose
having purpose and vision is even more important during times of crisis since
most people hesitate before taking action whenever they're in trouble if
you could show single-minded purpose and self-assurance you'll be irresistible
people will believe you simply from the force of your character charismatic
people oftentimes thrive under pressure a crisis lets them show
strengths and enhances their aura of charisma JFK for example came to life
when he had to deal with the Cuban Missile Crisis
number two mystery mystery is one of the most charismatic traits you can have but
when I say mystery I mean a specific kind of mystery it's a type of mystery
caused by contradiction for example Peter the Great was both
cruel and kind Sigmund Freud was intimate and distance so on and so forth
you see most people are predictable they're set in their personalities and
their behaviors are mostly based on patterns they're easy to categorize so
when you have contradictory qualities it's an extremely mysterious charismatic
trait to have it makes you hard to fathom hard to understand it adds a
layer of richness and complexity to your personality to the point where it'll
make people want to talk about you the way you want to do this is by revealing
your contradictions slowly and subtly over time if you just come right out and
start contradicting yourself throwing them out right on top of the other
people might think you have a weird erratic personality but if you show your
mysteriousness gradually people will pick up on it much more naturally and
effectively word will spread and soon you'll have the reputation of a
fascinating walking contradiction in order to do this effectively you're
gonna want to keep people at an emotional arm's length to keep them from
figuring you out another aspect of mystery is a hint of the uncanny
basically it's something that seems realistic yet almost a bit unreal like a
waking dream for example I know this guy Randy who for some weird reason always
seems to predict things accurately I remember he predicted that Bitcoin was
gonna blow up years ago for instance and made some money from that I remember he
predicted that I was gonna end up as a youtuber and lo and behold I guess he
was right he's gotten some stuff wrong from time to time but his seemingly
uncanny ability to always have a good instinct about the future gives him a
bit of mystery and it makes him much more charismatic as a result number
three eloquence a charismatic person relies on the power of words pretty
simple to understand why since words are the quickest way to create some sort of
a mo no disruption you can use words to
uplift someone to elevate them stir anger without referring to anything real
using a wide range of vocabulary definitely helps with eloquence but the
main important thing is that they have to be emotionally charged the opposite
of charisma is boring so you want to hit people in their emotional core to do
this it helps if you're as emotional as caught up in the words as the audience
or the person you're talking to is for example during the Spanish Civil War
Dolores Gomez gave pro-communist speeches that were so emotionally
powerful that it determined several key moments in the war he did this by using
certain speaking devices catch words slogans rhythmic repetitions phrases
that the audience could repeat these are all tools that you can incorporate in
your own speech to come off as more eloquent and charismatic the thing is
two people with completely different personalities and ideals can cause
eloquence to be more charismatic for example take JFK and Hitler John F
Kennedy was a freedom-loving man who won over his crowds with eloquence and by
being able to portray a vision Hitler on the other hand was unfortunately equally
charismatic using eloquence to gain more and more power even though his aims were
pretty evil number for uninhibited thing is most people are repressed and they
have little access or awareness for how they subconsciously feel they live
according to the norms of society they don't want to rock the boat and get some
sort of negative public feedback the charismatic person knows that this is
actually an opportunity for him to stand out almost like a screen on which other
people project their secret fantasy of doing whatever they want you see you
have to show that you're more uninhibited than others people might
even get the sense that you have no fear of death or you're completely
spontaneous and do whatever you want as long as it doesn't hurt other people
even just the hints of these qualities will instantly make you seem more
powerful and charismatic I especially noticed this to be true during times
when I've gone traveling for example in some Eastern European countries where
people are more conservative and reserved showing uninhibited necessity
charisma since most people in these cultures are
so used to being conscience of what their family friends neighbors and other
people in the community think of them when they encounter someone who's
completely uninhibited it's like a breath of fresh air
you'll be someone that makes them feel excited like they're temporarily
rebelling against something by living vicariously through you the cool thing
is that since you're from a different background they'll automatically excuse
most of your outlandish behaviors and will a lot of the times even find them
charming endearing and charismatic the key to being uninhibited is to express
yourself without any restraints chances are you have good intentions you
probably don't want to hurt people you probably like to make people laugh hone
in on these universally appealing emotions and then let yourself go
socially don't be afraid of what people think of you an example of a charismatic
person is the 1950s American actress Adam mentioned she took the world by
storm through her unbridled sexual energy and her fearlessness she would
appear on the stage half-naked performing death-defying acts few women
would dare do such things in the Victorian period as a result a rather
mediocre actress became an international cult figure number five vulnerability
one thing that charismatic people know how to do is to selectively display a
need or want for love and affection they're open to whoever they're talking
to in fact they feed off the energy of
their audience who then in turn gets electrified by the charismatic the
reason showing vulnerability is so charismatic is because when you show
confidence and only confidence and never any weakness it's almost inhuman people
won't be able to relate to you and they'll be less inspired than someone
who can be confident when he wants to but also isn't afraid to make himself
vulnerable it's humanizing and makes you less
intimidating and frightening since charisma involves strong positive
feelings that almost resemble love you should in turn show your love and
appreciation to people by making yourself vulnerable and giving them
space to give the same love back a good example of this is Marilyn Monroe who
was able to radiate confidence and charisma in front of the camera she
wrote in her diary I knew I belonged to the
public and to the world not because I was talented or even beautiful but
because I had never belonged to anything or anyone else the public was the only
family the only Prince Charming and the only
home I had ever dreamed of in front of the camera Munro suddenly came to life
flirting with and exciting her unseen audience
you see people should get the sense from you that you care about them enough to
at least desire their affection in a non needy and non manipulative way remember
people and especially girls desire to be desired and if you can trigger this
feeling in them by being vulnerable from time to time it'll come off as very
charismatic number six adventurousness this one ties with being uninhibited
charismatic individuals are unconventional they have an essence that
screams adventure and risk it attracts others around them since most people are
bored spontaneity is an extremely attractive and charismatic trade since
it shows you have a fun-loving spirit and go out of your way to suck people
into your adventures if you can get people to do stuff they normally
wouldn't do out of their comfort zone and give them long lasting memories
they'll be addicted to you better yet if you can be courageous and exude that non
given F attitude by taking risks for the good of others you will instantly be
seen as someone with leadership qualities an example of this was
Napoleon who made sure his soldiers always saw him manning the cannons
during battles or Lenin who walked openly on the streets despite all the
death threats he received a great way to show adventurousness is to spontaneously
invite people to last-minute plans that you make it doesn't even have to be all
that special a hike a night out with friends the fact that you came up with
it spontaneously will make you seem adventurous and charismatic and finally
number 7 magnetism if there's one single attribute that's crucial in seduction
it's the eyes charismatic people tend to master the language of eye contact in
order to get others to like them you see eyes reveal excitements tension
detachment without a single word being spoken in direct communication is
absolutely crucial in seduction and also in charisma someone with lots of
charisma might have a calm and poised demeanor but their eyes are magnetic
they have a piercing gaze that disturbs their targets emotions exerting force
with no word said and no actions taken for example Fidel Castro had this
aggressive gaze which would reduce his opponents to silence Roosevelt would
apparently dilate his pupils at will making his stare both hypnotic and
intimidating president Sukarno of Indonesia had a gaze that seemed as if
it could read thoughts the charismatic seducer has eyes that rarely shows fear
or nerves thing is this is something that's actually acquirable in fact I
knew someone who wanted to improve his eye contact by spending an hour a day in
front of a mirror trying to make his gaze look like some famous movie star
not saying you have to do that but a little bit of practice goes a long way
the key is self-control the look doesn't necessarily have to be aggressive it can
show contentment remember your eyes can either show charisma or it can give you
away as a fake so don't leave such a thing to chance practice the effect you
want to produce so those are seven ways to becoming more charismatic which are
again purpose mystery eloquence uninhibited natee adventurousness and
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