Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on
how to stop being shy and awkward forever. I get so many questions from you
guys asking "okay so what do I do if I'm shy?
Can I ever get a girlfriend if I'm shy?" And the answer is
absolutely. Here's something that you really need to be aware of:
so many people are more shy than we think they are.
So often we think well we're the only ones who struggle with this. When in
reality if you could sit down and talk to
most people they would tell you that yeah they know what it feels like to be
shy. It actually surprises a lot of people to know that I can actually be
shy. The truth is this is a very very common
thing and you are not alone in feeling shy or in feeling awkward.
Here's what the secret is: the secret is to know how to handle that
shyness. When you know how to handle the shyness
the awkwardness is non-existent. So yeah there are a lot of people who
know what it feels like and to feel shy but they know what to do about it. And so
there are certain skills that once you know those skills
and you have those skills you don't have to worry about being shy
anymore and you certainly don't have to worry about being
awkward anymore. So I will be sharing with you five of those skills today
so that you know how to stop being shy and awkward
forever. Well before we dive in if this is your first time watching my name is
Melannie. Welcome to my channel! I'm a Christian
dating coach for men. I teach you how to stop wasting your time and your money on
dead-end relationships by learning the skills you need to get
the girl. So make sure you subscribe, ring that
notification bell, and give me a big thumbs up. With that let's dive into the
five skills you have to know to understand how to stop
being shy and awkward forever. Skill number one is confidence. Now I
want to take a second and explain this because so many people
have been taught the wrong definition of what confidence really is. So many
people think confidence is just "oh manning up and making it happen."
And the truth is that's not confidence, that's just aggression.
And the truth is that will make women run away from you like crazy.
That is not real confidence. Confidence comes from competence. I want you to
think for a second about the first time you got behind the wheel and started
learning how to drive a car. Did you feel super confident? For the
most part most of us didn't. [laughter] And if we did feel confident at first
after we drove around for 15 minutes we quickly
lost that confidence, right? But when you get behind the wheel and
you start driving a car now, you're confident at it, right? You just
know what to do. You know how soon you need to hit the brake, you know
how far to turn the steering wheel, you know how to merge, all of these
things are now natural to you. Why? Because you
are competent at it. This is how you have gained the
confidence. Is this making sense? So the key to being
a confident person is to be competent at what you are
trying to do. So one of the best ways to stop being
shy and to never have to worry about being
awkward ever again is to be very very competent at
relationships, at talking to women, interacting with women, and asking women
out. The more competent you are the more confident you will be. If you
are not feeling confident it is because you just need to
increase your competence. Otherwise you would be feeling confident in that
area. I go into confidence a little bit more in
this video. There's a link in the description below, make sure you give
that one a watch as well. Skill number two you need to know to
understand how to stop being shy and awkward forever
is you need to have a game plan. If you know how to handle any given
situation it's not going to make you feel awkward
and it's not going to make you feel like you need to retreat. Maybe
you've heard the saying "if you are prepared you will not fear."
This is so important to remember when it comes to relationships, when it comes to
talking to women, when it really just comes
to life in general, and interacting with people in general.
When you have a game plan then you don't need to feel awkward and you don't need
to be nervous because you know exactly what to do. For instance, if you're
standing in front of a gorgeous woman and you want to talk to her
but you have no idea what to say and you don't know how to say it and you don't
know what she's thinking and you don't know how to handle it
yeah you're going to freeze up, you're going to feel terribly shy, and you're
going to feel terribly awkward. And the truth is this is probably going
to cause you to say the wrong thing and it's going to be more awkward. So
having that game plan is critical. Now when I say game plan I
do not mean a word for word script. I know that
that's very very popular on the internet but the truth is guys that actually
doesn't work because it's not your words. And what if
she says something that's not on the script? Okay now what do you say?
It's again, like we talked about for skill number one, it's about becoming
competent. So once you you are competent at those things
just kind of have a game plan and know some specific things to do, some specific
ways to handle that situation. Now I know creating a
game plan can feel really overwhelming and the truth is there's a lot of room
for error. It's easy to mess this up. So I actually created a free master
class for you where I teach you that solid game plan. It's actually the
same five step method I teach my paid clients to get their ideal
girlfriends. So be sure to take advantage of that. I've
prepared the game plan for you. So there's a link in the description
below and I will put a link in the pinned comments.
Be sure to click on that and join me for this totally free masterclass
so you can have a game plan. Skill number three
is to believe in yourself. Now this kind of goes hand in hand with confidence but
we've already discussed how confidence is about being
competent. Believing in yourself is really about
having self-respect and a healthy self love and a
healthy feeling of self worth. If you believe in yourself then
you can do this. And you're not going to feel awkward and
you're not going to feel shy, you're going to feel empowered which is
ultimately how you deserve to feel. If you feel like a boss and if you treat
yourself that way, if you see yourself that way,
that's how others are going to see you too. And so that shyness
dissolves, it doesn't matter anymore, and the awkwardness is gone forever.
When you don't believe in yourself and when you
feel awkward then it just makes it a million times worse.
You end up tripping over what you say and
the situation escalates quickly. Whereas instead
when you honestly just believe in yourself and you have that healthy
feeling of self-respect and self-worth then
like I said shyness is gone, awkwardness is gone. Quick question before we move on
to number four. Are you guys enjoying this video?
Would you like more videos on how to not be shy and how to not be
awkward and everything that goes along with that?
If you would be sure to comment yes in the comments below so I know to make
that for you asap. The fourth skill you need to learn
to know how to stop being shy and awkward forever is body language.
You really need to learn how to utilize your body language
effectively. If you've been watching my channel for a while you know that I
teach you a lot of ways to read women's body
language. And that's crazy helpful, but knowing what to do with your own
body language is equally as important. Now here's something
interesting about body language. Science tells us that when
we feel a certain emotion it's portrayed in our
bodies. So if for instance you feel awkward and you feel nervous
people are going to see it in your body language. But in addition to
that when you put yourself in a certain position you tend to feel
that emotion. This is actually something actors will do a lot.
If they put themselves in a certain position they feel that emotion
and they are better at portraying that role. So you can
actually use this to your advantage. When you put yourself in the right body
language then you come across as attractive and
masculine and confident. And that is going to
impress her, it's going to attract her, but it's also going to make you
feel amazing. And again that shyness completely dissolves and the awkwardness
is just banished, it's gone, it's non-existent. And we are to our fifth
skill you need to know to know how to stop
being shy and awkward forever. And that is to practice alone. So
I've already mentioned that it's critical that you have a game plan,
critical that you have that healthy belief in yourself, that healthy feeling
of self-worth, and that you have the right body
language. It's important that all of these things,
that you are practicing them when you're alone
instead of just winging it when you're in front of her. This is how you make it
automatic. You're not going to feel awkward, you're not going to feel shy,
because you just know exactly what to do. And then it's very
natural and it's very simple and it's very easy. This is why I spend so much
time teaching my clients how to turn things
into habits. So that it is easy it is natural it is
automatic. So make sure that you practice these
things when no one is around so that it just becomes a habit for you
and becomes very very easy. And with that let's do a quick
recap. The five skills you need to learn to know how to stop being shy and
awkward forever are one, confidence. And remember confidence comes
from competence. Skill number two is a game
plan. When you are prepared you don't need to be afraid because you
just know what to do. Skill number three is to believe in yourself
and have those healthy feelings of self-worth and self-respect.
Skill number four is body language. When you present yourself as
shy and awkward you're going to feel shy and awkward. So instead you gotta rock it.
And skill number five is to make sure you're practicing these things when no
one's around so that they become automatic and
natural. Now as I mentioned earlier if you would like
my help knowing exactly how to get your ideal girlfriend
make sure you come join me in my free masterclass. There's a link in the
description and a link in the pinned comment.
This is where you will learn why you're not getting your ideal girlfriend and
what to do instead as well as the five step framework I
teach my paid clients to get their ideal girlfriends.
So make sure you join me over there, click the link in the description or in
the pinned comment right now. Thank you so much for watching
my wonderful friend! If you have any comments
be sure to leave them in the comments below. And if you
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Thank you so much again my amazing friends
and have an amazing day. [blooper beep] Hello my wonderful friend!
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I'm not gonna do it but that would be funny.
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