Love will chase you when you start to know your own worth. And when you start to see
it as natural for you to be attractive. And in this video I'm going to show you exactly
what to do to make that happen so that love or relationships chases you. Welcome back
to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in
this video I'm going to be showing you different ways that you can shift your self image. Just
start to see yourself as attractive because the way it works is the way you see yourself
is projected out to other people and other people respond to you based on that energy
you feel about yourself. And I've noticed this in my own life. I've seen other people
as well that, uh, in my life that are very attractive people, but they may not know it
themselves or think at themselves.
And therefore when they go out into the world, it's almost like they aren't able to perceive
of people being attracted to them because they're projecting out that they're not. So
it's something that the more aware we become and the more we see ourselves and really value
ourselves, the more that other people will value us as well and it has to do with that
awareness. It has to do with these little energy dynamics that I'm going to share with
you in this video that show you how to tap into your core authenticity and your core
of the owning of your own vibration, your own energy and when you do these things you'll
find that then you develop a very magnetic energy and the people start to chase you because
of what you are projecting out and it's not even really an inauthentic projection. It's
just you being an understanding of your own value, which then is something that's a contagious
type mentality.
The first part that's important to understand with this process is when it comes to being
attractive. Any time we chase, we are automatically putting that person we are chasing outside
of the realm of capability for us to really reach them or be in a way attractive to them.
And I've shared this little story before, but I remember being with an old coworker
and we were looking at one of our other friends who we worked with and she'd made a comment
to me because she noticed that anytime he would chase different woman he'd want to be
with and chase being in a relationship with them, the more he would chase them. She made
a comment and said, do you realize that when he's chasing, they're running away? So imagine
that you could be in an attractive state where other people are attracted to you, but the
moment you chase someone else in a way, then what you do is you, you know that little S
it's like almost like a carrot on a stick.
It's like you got the stick and then in a way you're putting them vibrationally away
from you. So no matter how far you walk, it's always going to be that far away from you
because vibrationally what you're saying is this isn't in my life. Now when you're chasing
it, you saying, I want that. I want to be in a relationship with that person. I want
validation from that person. And what ends up happening is vibrationally we're saying,
I don't currently have that person in my life. So we keep reaffirming that that person isn't
in our life and in my own life I've realized that whether when it comes to abundance, whether
it comes to relationships, whether it comes to me just wanting, whether it's to move into
a house or whatever it is, the more I really, really want it, the more I end up resisting
it.
So the key to that has been to know that you are good. Either way, you are good either
way. And that frame, when you have that frame going into it, it then lessens the importance
a little bit. Remember anything we make very, very important. We put on a pedestal and we
create resistance around it, but when we know, Hey, I'm good. Either way it makes it so much
easier and I understand as well that it's like when you really, really want it, it's
almost, it becomes a momentum. It's like you keep thinking about it and that momentum keeps
growing and you keep wanting it and it becomes almost like a little, a little bubble that
just keeps on growing. But the key is knowing that when we do that we end up creating resistance.
So the frame about this is about really becoming aware as well of our current self image, of
our current self image.
And for me, you know, this really changed it in my own life when I was a, uh, when I
was 15 years old, some of you know my story, but when I was 15 years old, my dad divorced
my ex step mom, my ex step mom was very controlling and physically, mentally, emotionally abusive.
We had my brother and I, no freedom whatsoever. And even in high school we weren't allowed
to have friends up until when my dad divorced her, when I was a sophomore in high school.
Now all of a sudden junior in high school, the last two years of high school, I was able
to actually have friends and look the way I wanted to because before I had to always
call my hair back, tuck in my shirt, which was embarrassing, going to school with your
shirt tucked in and I had to kind of be like a goody two shoes.
That's how I had to portray myself in order to be accepted or you know, the way I was
kind of controlled. Now the interesting thing was my brother and I, my brother was two years
younger than I. We go to high school in junior year. My brother is a freshman, I'm a junior
and we in a way weren't used to getting attention from other people because we always looked
kind of like the goody two shoes. We always had our hair tucked back in, our shirt tucked
in. So we were kind of like the nerds in a way. Now, junior year I go in and all of a
sudden I'm able to look the way I want. It doesn't mean I had like my pants sagging or
anything, but then I was able to do my hair the way I want. My brother and I actually
we had like died like a highlighted hair, you know, this is back in the day.
I wouldn't do that now, but it was kind of it. We ended up looking the way that we wanted.
We ended up starting to develop a style and the more we started to value the way that
we looked and the way that we were, it was like then all of a sudden my brother and I
were like to talk between a of the girls at school because we were like the, we looked
completely different and then people were starting to talk about it. It's like, Oh,
they actually look pretty cool. And then my brother and I started getting different intention
and the funny thing was is the more we were like, Oh, we weren't used to that. We weren't
used to people treating us that way. We were always kind of like the nerds. The more we
recognize that it was like the more our own self image change.
Not that our own self image should be changed by outer circumstance, but this is before
I knew about all this awareness information and stuff. This was a, you know, I was just
kinda looking. I was like, Oh, I guess my brother and I are able to get more attention
when before we, I also have braces and there was just, it was, it was something, it was
going about it the opposite way. I was younger, but it was going out from the outside in rather
than the inside out. But the more I recognized and started to value myself because I was
being validated with other people, the more attractive I then became to other people.
It was an interesting thing and I wasn't used to it at all. I wasn't used to it and it was
like really weird for me to get attention. However, that's what I noticed is as my self
image changed, the way that I viewed myself, the more that those perspectives and what
I was in a way projecting that energy out, that awareness out and the more of the value
I felt there, the more that it then made people in a way chase me.
I remember I had one of my first girlfriends after that, you know, 15, like maybe 16 years
old and I had a girlfriend that I really liked and she didn't necessarily treat me the best
way and she got kind of flack for it from that. She was kind of controlling in some
ways and she kinda got flack from other of uh, friends and stuff for certain things that,
that happen. Certain ways that she would talk to me and stuff. But I really liked her. And
then what happened is I started to become friends with a new group in high school. And
as I became friends with that new group, there was a girl in that group that I started to
talk to and started to like. And then that other girl that wasn't treating me well, plus
we broke up, but it was like I still really liked her.
All of a sudden once the energy shifts and I start being in this other group and I didn't
have other options in a way and I'm attracted to someone else, she kind of feels that energetic
pool and then starts calling me and for a couple of weeks was trying to get me back
because the energy dynamic changed. I started to realize my own value and I started to realize
in a way there was, I was more in abundance mentality and then she felt that energetic
pool and was trying to give back. So when you change this energy dynamic and you start
to see yourself as attractive, other people will start to see you that way as well. Other
people will then in a way chase you. But the key to this is first off, becoming aware of
your own energy and then seeing how you are projecting yourself out.
And I think of it like this as well, the more love you can feel within your own energetic
field. If you could feel love and value yourself by noticing the positives you have in yourself
by recognizing your own worth, your own value. When you're doing your passion as well, this
energetic field is much more electric and what happens is that energy goes out and other
people can feel it. Now think of it like this. The world is mirroring back. This is a mere
right year. The world is mirroring back the energy that you feel about yourself. Now some
people, they will rely on external stimulus in order to know how they feel. Now the key
is feeling that self love. Now knowing your projecting that out in the world, it's a Amir
and these other people can feel that, but remember if you're chasing them, you're putting
them on that stick with the carrot on a stick and you are chasing them, but they're always
going to be a little bit further away.
The key is to this is seeing it as natural for you to be valued and for you to be in
that feeling of self love. Now one of the main parts of this process that's important
is understanding how to change your self image. Now changing your self image has to do with
first off becoming aware of what your current self image is. Now when you look at a mirror,
the key to this as well is not needing the mirror reflection in reality to change before
you change. The way this works is when you're focused and you're looking at yourself in
the mirror, how are you seeing yourself and understand that then how you see yourself
is also what is projected out. Now the key is being aware that there is a difference
between the image you see in the screen and the way that you view yourself and you project
out your own energy out when you go out into the world.
So the reason I show this as a mirror is because it's a mere reflection and this reflection
will not change until I change. Sometimes what people do is the wait for the mere reflection
of change and they'll end up waiting and waiting and waiting. And that's what I did for a long
time until I became aware that I have to not need the mirror to change prior, but the key
to this is first off, becoming aware of what that reflection is. Become aware of what your
self images, how are you seeing yourself. There was an interesting book called a psycho
cybernetics and there was a a, it's written by a plastic surgeon who noticed that when
people would get plastic surgery, what would happen is it would take about 21 days. That's
why a lot of people say 21 days to really make a powerful change, which is that three
weeks and it would take them about 21 days until they changed their own self image.
Even if they had like a nose job or some, you know, facial reconstruction. If they didn't
change their self image then they wouldn't actually feel changed. The key to this is
changing your own self image and if you see yourself as unattractive, if you see yourself
as below other people, then that energy is projected out and other people are responding
based to it. The first step to this process is first off, become aware. I'm going to put
the text right here. Become aware of yourself. Image that is the first step, what and how
do you see yourself? Then the second step is as you become aware of it, then what you
can do is start to identify the new self image. How would you prefer to be that second step?
You'll see right there with the text. I'm also saying that because the, the uh, Daniel,
the editor, he knows exactly where to put that.
So the third step. So the second step is identifying what you'd like your preferred self image
to be. And then thirdly, it's about just deciding that's who you are now. And don't think about
this as taking it till you make it or being someone that you're not. Realize that the
way that we've been seeing ourselves may not be actually value in ourselves. That's not
who we are anyways. So the key to this is first off, identifying our current self image.
Secondly, identifying the way we prefer to be and how we'd love to value ourselves. And
then thirdly, deciding like right now we are going to be that. Now what can you do to bridge
those two self images? What can you do to bridge to the be that version of you you prefer
to be? It may require you doing things that show you your own self love.
It may mean require that you do things because you enjoy doing it, that you do in read books
that you're passionate about. You know, certain areas of our life will link into other areas
of our life. So if we are focused on that of uh, you know, if we're not doing our passion,
for example, we may not feel as confident if we were to do our passion. That's saying
I am worth it and one of the most common beliefs or are out there is I am not enough. And I
felt like I wasn't enough for a long time because of what I went through growing up.
And even after being in relationships, I would keep playing out that pattern. But the key
was for me was reframing a lot of things that happened in the past and understanding our
own vision of love and what it takes for us to be loved.
What are our rules for love? And my old rules were, you know, in order for me to feel love,
I have to be getting approval from other people. I was kind of a people pleaser because the
way that I was modeled love as a kid, as I had to be a certain way, have my hair combed
and had to uh, project myself and in a certain way, you know, my dad's a firefighter. So
there's a certain way that in a way I was meant to kind of reflect onto him. And because
of that, that ended up making me kind of a rebel as well. That changed my self image
too when I became a rebel because then I see myself as a, as somebody that kind of pushes
against rather than just goes along with the flow. And, and the key to this though is becoming
aware of your own sense of what it takes for you to be loved.
Because the more love you can feel inside. Now the more you project that out and the
more that other people can then feel that from you. But the key to this is seeing that
as natural seen as natural for you to feel that love within. See it as natural for you
to focus on your positive qualities. So you net as natural for you to go for your own
passion, becoming aware of your old self image. Then deciding who do you really prefer to
be and who are you really because the old self image is based on prior past agreements
that may no longer serve. So the key to this is really changing that self image. And if
you haven't seen that attracting love meditation I have, it's the most powerful meditation
on my YouTube channel and it I read the comments are so many people that say they attracted
love from listening to that meditation for 21 days. So click just to read the comments.
That'll increase the belief that you can do it as well. And then listen to that for 21
days and watch what happens. You'll begin to feel that worthiness, that self love within,
which then will begin to change the outer reality as well. So would that be, it said,
I hope you enjoyed this video, and as always, I'll see you on the next one. Peace much love
and not stay.