Heya playa, do you and your crush share a class together and you have absolutely no
clue how to start a conversation with them?
Do you do it during class?
After class?
What do you talk to them about?
Don't worry, in this video, I'm gonna walk you through how to get a conversation going
and how to make it not awkward.
Stay tuned.
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Now that you're back in school you're probably seeing your crush every single day and that
urge to talk to them, to make something happen is growing.
Which is why I think it's so important to have that conversation with them, to at least
start having some type of interaction with them in the very very beginning of the school
year because the longer you wait to talk to them, if you wait days and weeks and months,
eventually that sinking feeling is going to creep in, that one that's telling you ahh
it's too late, you missed your chance, don't do it.
So because time is of the essence, what I want you to do is this.
After you finish watching this video, commit to talking to your crush the next time you
see them.
I know, it's a scary thought but it's something I want you to do.
If your crush is in your class there are three key moments to talk to them so let's walk
through each one.
The first one being talking to them before class begins.
This is when everyone is coming into the classroom, everyone is starting to get settled.
People are talking to each other and interacting because the teacher hasn't kinda started teaching
yet so you have that opportunity to have a very brief and small conversation with your
crush.
You don't have to have this super long outdrawn intense and romantic conversation with your
crush at the start.
Sometimes the best conversations are short and quick and about something very simple.
So let's say you walk into class and see your crush sitting there by themselves just kinda
hanging out waiting for class to begin.
You might wanna have a small brief conversation with them that might go something like this.
Hey before class begins I wanna get your opinion on something, me and my friends were having
a debate and I want to know what your perspective is on this thing, XYZ, fill in that XYZ for
yourself.
Remember that initial conversation is going to be brief because there's a lot going on
in the beginning of class.
So even if you get to talk to them for a minute at most, that's totally fine.
The whole purpose is to really break the ice, to have them recognize that you're someone
in that class and to show them that it's not awkward if the two of you interact from time
to time.
And the same sort of principles apply when you're talking to them during class.
Now look, I don't recommend talking to them while your teacher is teaching, I think you
should try your best to pay attention but if you do end up having a small conversation
with them, or you're put in a group with them or you have to talk to them, asking about
the teacher, the homework or just the class in general is a good neutral thing to talk
about because you're both gonna have opinions on it but if you want to have a more personalized
type of conversation with them, you want to ask them something where they're sharing their
opinion on definitely check out my 20 ice breakers starters guide.
I'll link it up for you over here, it's a free guide I put together with different questions
you can ask someone to learn a little bit more about their personality.
Now I would recommend using one of those ice breakers in the third stage of when you can
talk to them and that is after class ends.
Now there's a secret trick here that you can kind of implement and that's basically this.
When everyone's packing up and getting their things together to head out the door, try
to do it at the pace of your crush so that the two of you are leaving the classroom together.
Because if you're both walking towards the exit and walking down towards the hallway,
you now have a chance to kind of walk side by side with them and talk.
Sure it might not feel too natural to slowly pack up your things but your whole purpose
here isn't to rush to your next class, it's to start a conversation with your crush so
it's something I would recommend doing.
Now one key thing that people tend to overlook when it comes to their crush is not just the
fact that you two have the class, the teacher and the homework and all that in common but
the fact that you may have potential friends in common.
That bond that you share over having the same friend or the same friend group makes it a
whole lot easier for you to talk to them because you can just reference or talk to them about
something relating to your mutual friend.
Really just try to map it out in your head, which of your friends is in a class with your
crush or knows someone that knows your crush, try to think about the different types of
links you have with them because that might be an easy way to break into a conversation
by talking about someone your crush is gonna go "Oh yea, I know that person.
I'm really good friends with them".
Remember, you're not starting completely cold here.
I know it may feel that way because you only have one class with your crush, you don't
have anyone on common with them, you don't see them for the rest of the day but because
you have that class with them, you have the opportunity to form that connection s don't
throw it away simply because the rest of the day is hard.
Take advantage of the time that you do have.
Ok so let's say you've broken the ice, you've talked to them every so often, you guys are
familiar with each other so you're not complete strangers anymore, now what do you do?
Well, I think it's time to take it to the next level.
You might want to say something like "Hey you seem like a pretty cool person to talk
to, lemme get your Instagram or Snapchat so we can get to know each other better".
A simple line like that goes incredibly far because what you've done is taken things from
the pure acquaintance stage to the potential friend stage.
Now look, that word "friend" might scare you because this is your crush, you want to go
out with them but because you don't really know them that well and because you guys share
this mutual environment, you don't want to just rush into asking them out because that
is going to make things awkward.
Remember, one of the things you're trying to avoid here is being awkward around them.
If you ask them out and they turn you down, that's going to make things incredibly awkward
for you every single day in class.
That's why I think a gradual approach works best here for two reasons mainly.
One being hey, you're getting to know your crush little by little, you're working towards
those next steps of getting closer with them and two, you might not feel like you have
the confidence just yet to go forward and ask them out.
Look, you're learning how to talk to them at the start so I think that taking those
small steps is the best route for you, don't you think?
This is not always going to be easy.
There are always going to be obstacles that stand in your way, maybe your crush is always
with their friends in class or maybe they rush out of class as soon as it ends and you
miss your opportunity.
Either way, I want you to post your challenges and the things that you're facing down below
in the comments section, let's get a conversation going.
Share the things that you're struggling with and I'll do my best to help you out.
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This video is gonna teach you how to start a conversation with your crush when you're
in the hallway.
That's the next stage right?
You're in class, you're in the hallway.
I'm gonna tackle all these different kinds of points that you run into where you can
talk to your crush but you don't know how to go about it.
Stay tuned for that guys.
And on that note, I'll catch you next time, as always love and peace.