It’s your own conditionings that are making you unhappy,
so you have to unconditioned yourself.
It's just like, I can't fix your eating habits for you,
I can give some general guidelines, but you got to go through the hard habit-forming
of how to eat right.
But you have to believe it's possible and it is absolutely possible.
I was miserable, I'm happy as a clam.
And it's not just the money, I got there before the money.
You know, whatever you think, you believe, will very much shape your reality,
both from what risks you take and what actions you perform,
but also just everyday experience of reality.
If you're walking down the street and you're judging everyone,
you're like, “I don't like that person because of their skin color”,
“I don't like that, she's not attractive”.
“That guy is fat”.
“This person is a loser, who put this in my way”.
You know, the more you judge, the more you're going to separate yourself
and you'll feel good for an instant because you'll feel good about yourself.
“I'm better than that”.
But then you're going to feel lonely and then you're just going to see negativity
everywhere.
The world just reflects your own feelings back at you.
I also realized that, like, what you want is you want to clear mind,
you want to let go of thoughts.
Happy thoughts disappear out of the head automatically, very easy to let go of them, negative thoughts
linger.
So if you interpret the positive in everything very quickly,
you’ll let it go, you’ll let it go much faster.
Simple hacks, get more sunlight.
Learn to smile more, learn to hug more.
These things actually release serotonin in reverse,
they aren't just outward signals of being happy,
they're actually feedback loops to being happy.
Spend more time in nature, you know, these are obvious.
Watch your mind.
Watch your mind all day long.
Watch what it does, not judge it and not try to control it
but you can meditate 24/7.
Meditation is not a sit down, close your eyes activity.
Meditation is just basically watching your own thoughts,
like you would watch anything else in the outside world and say,
“why am I having that thought?”
“Does that serve me anymore?”
“Is that conditioning from when I was ten years old?”
Reality's neutral.
Reality has no judgments, to a tree there's no concept of right or wrong
or good or bad.
You're born, you have a whole set of sensory experiences
and stimulations and lights and colors and sounds and then
you die.
And how you choose to interpret that is up to you,
you do have that choice.
So this is what I meant that happiness is a choice.
If you believe it's the choice, then you can start working on it,
and I can't tell you how to find it because it’s your own conditionings that are making
you unhappy, so you have to unconditioned yourself.
It's just like, I can't fix your eating habits for you,
I can give some general guidelines, but you got to go through the hard habit-forming
of how to eat right.
But you have to believe it's possible and it is absolutely possible.
I was miserable, I'm happy as a clam.
And it's not just the money, I got there before the money.
Or another one is next time you get sick, you know, because everybody gets sick every
now and then, it's like a happy person wants ten thousand
things, a sick person just wants one thing, right?
So it's your it's your unlimited desires that are clouding your peace,
your happiness.
Have desires, you're a biological creature that stands up and says,
“I can do something”.
“I move, I resist, I live”.
But just be very careful of your desires.
This is the oldest, most trait wisdom.
Desire is suffering, that's what it means, right?
Every desire you have is an access where you will suffer.
So just don't focus on more than one desire at a time.
The universe is rigged in such a way that if you just want one thing
and you focus on that, you'll get it, but everything else you've got to let go.
Everything you're the winner at now in your life
is because you were a loser at some point.
If you had gotten all the girls, if you had all the money,
if you had everything you want, you were good looking
in junior high or high school, you wouldn't have done anything with your
life and you would have peaked early,
it's like the Bruce Springsteen’s Glory Days song, right?
You’d married your high school sweetheart, you'd be living in your hometown,
you'd be a manager at the local McDonald's, whatever that first dream job you had,
thank God we didn't all get what we wanted when we were young
or we would be trapped in that.
So you have to be able to break out of where you came from.