Hey guys,
my top three
secrets to get her to change
how she feels about you
are going to feel
really counter-intuitive
and uncomfortable
for you especially if you are a nice guy.
But these are the three most important things
you must do if you want to get
and keep your Ashley.
Welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
Here's what happens
maybe you can relate.
Tim meets Ashley
and she seems like everything
he's ever wanted in a girl.
She's fun, she's funny, she's easy going,
she's sexy, she's beautiful,
and she makes him feel
good when he's with her.
She laughs at his jokes,
quickly replies to all his texts,
and is anxious to spend time with him.
But almost suddenly
her demeanor starts to change.
You've probably experienced this haven't you?
If you have already
write it in the comments below.
She starts to become less talkative
and is a bit more quiet
when she's around Tim.
She doesn't reply quite as quickly
and it even seems like her humor
is starting to get a little bit sarcastic
or mean-spirited.
what's up with that?
So, because she's so amazing
and he for sure
thought this was going to be the one
panic starts to sink in
and Tim feels Ashley pulling away
and he doesn't know what to do about it.
He doesn't know what he's done wrong.
They seemed to agree on everything,
he was messaging her
good morning beautiful every day,
he always replied to her messages right away,
and he was always up
for getting together whenever she wanted to.
So, of course none of this makes sense
and he just wants to know
what he did wrong so he asks her
did I do something wrong?
Wrong answer.
But you'll see why in a minute
and I know it seems like
well what is the right answer?
Well, I’m going to give it to you.
I'm not going to give it to you,
I’m going to give it to you
but then
he doesn't hear from her for a day.
So, what does he do?
He's like well maybe she didn't get it
or maybe she was busy or who knows what.
So, he sends another message
pretending like nothing's wrong
he says hey what's up?
She replies
oh, just busy lately, talk soon.
Oh, what's going on?
There's no happy face emojis
or hearts or butterflies
or any other emojis women.
And sometimes men often
exchange when they're in the heat of passion.
Well, maybe not a heat of passion
but when they're enamored with each other.
So, here's what happened,
Tim emotionally over invested in Ashley
and he did it way
too soon in the relationship.
This is super common
especially at the beginning
when there is interest coming back towards you,
when you're both in lust with each other,
and can't get enough of each other.
So, how to change how she feels about you
starts with not overly investing
from the very beginning
and this means you're going to have
to pull way back
to get her back.
In fact, you shouldn't ever
over invest in a woman
of course, that's not to say you don't invest at all
because relationships do require emotional investment.
There's a difference between healthy investment
and unhealthy over investment
because here's what can happen.
If you put too much
emotional investment in a woman
too early on
she's going to quickly start to feel smothered.
Key point,
a woman needs to feel like she is choosing you,
which means
if a woman starts to feel
like she is relenting
to your needy attachment to her
it won't feel like a choice to her because
this is another key point.
When a man acts needy,
desperate, or overly attached ever
but especially too soon
she feels he's not choosing her
who she really is.
But he's just choosing
whoever shows up to take him
without really investigating
if she's worthy of him.
To avoid her feeling this way
and to change her feeling this way
if it hasn't gotten too far already
you need to do three things.
One, disagree with her.
What?
Two, initiate communication
less often and three,
be less available.
But Anna those feel like
manipulative bad boy tactics.
I'm not into games I’m out.
Wait hold on
hear me out.
If you can relate to Tim
you really need to hear this so stick with me.
Remember, I told you they're going to seem counter-intuitive
but they're going to make sense in a minute.
So, let's go through disagree with her.
When you meet someone
and it seems like you have so much in common,
you have everything in common, your opinions,
your beliefs, your philosophies,
your ideas, it can feel like
you've met your soul mate.
However, women know
you're not always going to agree on everything
that would be really boring.
Would women need stimulation?
But I talked about that in another video.
But generally she knows
at some point, you're going to disagree on something
and it might be something important
and subconsciously
she needs to know
how you're going to handle that.
So, if you don't show
any signs of disagreement
she doesn't know
how you're going to handle that
and even more important key point.
If she feels like
you don't have your own
opinions, beliefs, philosophies, ideas
then she's going to have
to lead the relationship.
Even if you want an alpha woman
she wants to know
you have an opinion that she can consider.
But there's also another reason
why you should disagree with her
and in fact
it's a thread that runs through all three of these.
So, I'll save it for the end
and I've actually already kind of mentioned it
so if you think you know what it is
write it in a comment.
Number two, initiate less.
What's the wingmam motto?
If you've been here for a while you know
the wingmam motto is
always leave them wanting more.
In order for them to want more
you have to of course give them enough
but you can't give it all to them.
Not in that sense.
You just want to give them
enough to whet their appetite.
And some other parts.
Anyway, moving on
remember, women are more attracted to men
whose feelings about them are unclear.
Why?
They want to be the one to choose,
they want to be the one to chase,
they want to be the one to get you,
which means you need to let her
chase you
more than you pursue her.
And yes, there's a difference between chasing and pursuing
and I'll put that video at the end.
And again, this ties into the thread
that runs through all three of these strategies
to change how she feels about you
in a positive way.
Of course, if Ashley
is really attracted to Tim
she's going to love those good morning texts
but not if Tim
always initiates
all other communication as well.
You got to let her initiate sometimes.
In fact, especially at the beginning
probably two out of three times
if you're in a solid frame of mind
this is going to come naturally.
But if you tend to get overly attached
or excited or enthusiastic about a girl early on
then use the one out of three times rule of thumb.
And of course along the lines
leave her wanting more
is to be less available.
If you are always available
whenever she wants
or in all of your spare time
trying to get together with her
she's going to feel like she holds
all the power in the relationship
because she does.
And by default key point,
if you're always available for her
then it shows you don't have a life.
And if you don't have a life
you're not at risk
to any other woman trying to get Chad.
There's no competition.
If there's no competition
and she doesn't have to work to get you
is she really choosing you?
Or is she just
taking the free grocery bag?
Okay, bad analogy but you get my point.
If you do have value to her
and she is interested
she'll pay more attention to you,
she'll initiate more.
If she knows you're out in the world
being exposed
to other potential viable mates.
Not only that
but if you don't have a life
she's going to have to be your life
that's a burden.
So, there's no competition and she feels smothered.
What's the wingmam motto?
Do you remember write it in the comments below.
Okay, now here's where we tie it all together.
What happens when you work hard for something?
When you finally get it
you appreciate it all the more.
And key point,
the more you work toward it
the more effort it requires to get it
the more you feel like it was your choice
to go for it.
The more Ashley needs to work to get you
the more effort it takes for her to get you
the more she feels like
she's the one choosing you.
Well, I know I told you counter-intuitive
so in order for her to feel like
she's won the prize
you have to feel like you are the prize
and you just have to give her
just enough
for her to know
what she will win
when she does get that prize you.
Now if you are that guy
who went all in too soon
then you'll definitely want to watch my video
on should you ignore a woman.
I think you'll be surprised
by what I have to say in it.
Thanks for being here, God bless.
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