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work life balance is something i've been
thinking about a lot lately if it's
truly a thing i've been leaning heavily
into the life part of it hence the radio
silence on my channel the past few weeks
i'm sorry but the more i've been asked
about the concept balance and the more i
thought about it myself the more i
started asking myself will we ever find
the balance we seek and what if we've
been looking at work-life balance all
wrong
this will be what we're exploring today
featuring a very eventful week in my
life starting in new york city stopping
by my home for a few days and flying
back to my motherland for the first time
in years
thank you so much to remarkable for
sponsoring this video more on this in a
little
hello friends hello potatoes i'm about
to head out to pilates class my favorite
workout class i'm very excited don't
usually do these things but i started
doing this this past month and it's been
great saturdays as you guys know are for
road days it's been nice having
something to force me to wake up in the
morning let's go
let's start breaking down work-life
balance as i make my way over to work
out shall we according to the dictionary
work-life balance means the amount of
time you spend doing your job compared
with the amount of time you spend with
your family and doing things you enjoy
it's essentially a trade-off between
your priorities and this is where the
cookie crumbles for me when we fall into
the mentality of constantly choosing
between one thing or the other we're
guilty when we're working and we're just
as guilty when we're not working i think
we've all experienced the scenario where
we're trying to have a good time with
their friends after a long day only to
be mentally hung up on our endless to
do's in the back of our minds for me
it's being out at dinner with my parents
while feeling guilty for not spending
that time editing my next video
constantly operating out of guilt is not
a healthy place to be for me it has
showed up in my life as soul-crushing
anxiety stress isolation not being able
to be fully present and even
burn out after looking to find the
perfect balance over the past few years
i'm starting to believe that maybe just
maybe this equilibrium between work and
life is indeed elusive and impossible to
reach
so if work-life balance isn't it are
there any other alternatives
what i found to be far more retainable
flexible and realistic is work life
harmony it's like that saying you can't
have it all at once but you can probably
have most of it over time as we've
talked a lot about over the past few
years it's important to embrace the
seasons of life and that there's a time
and place for everything even if i can
still hustle and grind like i used to as
i enter my 30s i no longer want to that
being said just because i no longer wish
to dedicate my existence to my work even
if it may be for a greater good i still
enjoy doing good work no great work i've
been spending more and more time on
exciting projects that i can't wait to
share with you all i've also been
posting more on instagram and asking for
feedback there on set exciting projects
this is why work life harmony speaks so
much to me it doesn't mean you need to
stop doing one thing to be successful at
the other it's about allowing yourself
to focus on a few things and doing it
well while accepting the fact that
everything else will probably be
neglected temporarily but that's okay
and that it's not going to be the end of
the world one of the ways i've been able
to stay focused think better and dream
bigger is with the remarkable two paper
tablet which is what i'm using here as
someone who thoroughly enjoyed bullet
journaling primarily because i enjoy
writing with pen and paper writing on
the remarkable 2 literally feels like
you're writing on paper i've always
believed that paper is the ultimate tool
for thinking and love a good sticky note
or napkin brainstorming sesh because
paper of any kind really just lets our
brains roam freely without restrictions
and it lets us focus without
distractions but what if paper were
given digital powers remarkable is a
firm believer that in order for a brain
to do its best work it needs the freedom
from being interrupted and this we're a
thousand percent aligned on you can take
notes read and review documents without
the presence of pop-up social media or
notifications here we're plotting out
our team schedule while i'll be in asia
and also planning out content for the
month there are many templates to choose
from including blank dotted or line
pages to checklists weekly calendars and
storyboarding with the remarkable 2 i
find myself being less distracted and
more focused spending less time
formatting documents and more time
sketching freely all my notes are
organized neatly in folders and
accessible across all my devices it's
easy to travel with perfect for on the
go and has a two week battery life if
you're interested in trying out the
remarkable two paper tablet check out
the link in my description box
so now that we're aware of work-life
harmony how do we actually apply it into
our lives let's first do some light
cleaning and finish packing before we
travel across the coast thank goodness i
started both a few days ago because i
just physically and mentally can't
handle
rushing to pack and rushing to get to
the airport and just being a super tense
ball of stress
packed and ready to go it was the first
time i wasn't rushing and packing and
waiting until the last minute
i'm proud of myself
work life harmony
so how do we go about integrating
work-life harmony into our lives the
first as always is to be present enough
so that we can ask ourselves the
important questions according to stuart
friedman he is a u-pen wharton professor
the starting point to living a richer
life is to rethink how we define success
if our self-worth revolves around the
status paycheck and prestige associated
with our work we're headed for trouble a
richer life also takes into account the
quality of our relationships our
engagement in the community and our
physical emotional and spiritual
well-being whether it's defining what
success means to us or being clear on
our priorities this will help give us a
blueprint for what we should focus on
during this particular season in our
lives in my early 20s between family
friendship work physical and mental
health my priority was work because it
was the only value that i felt like i've
been slacking on fast forward a few
years to my mid-20s when i reconnected
with my spirituality my priorities
became spirituality work and family in
that order these days being in my late
20s and now the beginning of my 30s my
actions show that my priorities are my
spirituality relationships and personal
well-being
amazing for my mental health but not the
best for making videos but i promise i
have some very exciting videos coming up
in any case all of that was just to
illustrate that when our priorities are
clear knowing that they can and will
change it helps alleviate that feeling
of guilt when we're spending more time
in one area of our life because it's
something we proactively chose
for ourselves once our priorities are
clear the next step is to focus on the
task at hand when we're at work work
deeply when we're playing or resting
play and rest deeply if you guys are
interested in the concept of deep work
and deep rest i'll link a video here and
down below
for ya it sounds simple yes but it truly
is simple we as human beings i really
just think we over complicate a lot of
things in our pretty little big heads
just putting into practice these three
steps of being present setting
priorities and staying focused at the
task at hand be it work play rest
spending time with loved ones or
anything has been immensely rewarding
and this is something worth frequently
revisiting since the previous day was
spent on frolicking team meetings and
traveling i dedicated my first day home
in los angeles to a day of working
deeply
good morning
good morning good morning
it's a beautiful day in los angeles
looking for affirmation you're doing
great
yesterday we got some deep work in today
i am going to have a very unrolling and
like day where i'll be out for the whole
day catching up with friends going to an
event having some errands with jams um
let's just see uh
this is just uh
this is just the
work life harmony baby
nailed it
all right first stop
is catching up with remy at veggie kids
matcha queen
hopefully i don't spill
looks good
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i'm getting anxious
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i'm going to
get some
to see work-life harmony in practice
here's a little snapshot for the weekend
i spent friday morning on work halls and
took the afternoon to explore it's been
a long time since i've thrifted let
alone thrifting in la so i took myself
to three different stores spread across
town and although i was disappointed in
the selection hence i took zero footage
and actually enjoyed spending more time
at the bookstore at chester pond next
door while waiting for my uber this is
actually why i love thrifting if i
didn't go out and look i never would
have known whether they had a good
selection or not and it's very symbolic
of life too
you'll never know if you never try i
spent the whole weekend offline
something you'd hardly ever find me
doing pre-2022 i attended a friend's
wedding with jams and spent my last
evening hosting a barbecue with my
cousins doing what we love spending
quality time catching up and conversing
i'm just filming man
thank you thank you that's very good
footage
thank you
for any of you guys who are currently
feeling stress overwhelmed or just
worried that you're not getting
everything in life you want done
trust me i've been there i'm still there
sometimes it can and will get better and
it is within our power to
really shift our mentality from balance
to harmony which i think it's so much
more fluid and ever-changing and it's
kind of like yin and yang you can have
one without the other and it just
beautifully
works in harmony to allow us i'm losing
my voice to allow us to exist in peace
and coexistence with all the things that
are most important to us and with that
thank you guys so much for joining me
it's been such a long time i've honestly
missed creating videos and i missed you
guys and
i really am excited for the content to
come yes i'll see you guys hopefully
next week for another video i'll feature
my first week out and about in taipei
and i'm gonna be dropping
some wisdom like even for me i'm like
mind blown about this topic that i'm
gonna talk about next week okay and with
that
goodbye
boys
i don't know how people do those