In this video I'm going to be talking to you about building blocks of a healthy
relationship and in particular communication. I will dive into why
communication is an essential element component to any healthy relationship so
let's get started.
The truth of the matter is that all relationships - healthy relationships - are
built on strong communication between two people because truth be told we're
not mind reader's and you can't truly understand what is going through your
partner's head and similarly it's not reasonable to expect your partner to
always be in a position to meet your unspoken needs. And how are you going to
be able to grow and to learn what the other person is going through if you
don't take time to truly communicate about your fears, your insecurities, your
desires, your struggles, but also to take the time to celebrate your victories
together. That is how you can strengthen your bond. It's essential to communicate
effectively in order to empty your emotional bucket along the way. When
we're in committed relationships after a while we're bound to get on each other's
nervesThe little stuff become big stuff, we tend to forget about the good stuff,
and we get so caught up in our day-to-day and if you don't communicate
your emotional bucket will continue to take on water and frustration and after
a while you will lash out at your partner. And often that's when the
biggest mistakes happen. You say things you don't mean, you basically push your
partner away in a moment of frustration just because you've held up to
resentment from months, if not years ago. And I know that a lot of you know what
I'm talking about. That's when you were your significant other in the course of
a discussion or argument all of a sudden bring up an unresolved
issue from way back when simply because you had tried to suppress
it, you had not communicated what your frustrations, your fears, and your pain
was. And you thought you were doing the right thing, you thought you were
preserving your marriage or your relationship, but that's not true. That's
not the way to go. You need to learn through your mistakes as a couple
and you can't do that if you don't communicate effectively.
Communication also helps fix the small stuff quickly. The small issues should be
resolved as quickly as possible. And again
you and your partner cannot understand what a small issue is if there isn't a
basis for trusts, if you don't feel comfortable enough telling your partner
how you feel about a given situation. Of course that doesn't mean complaining
every day, it doesn't mean berating your partner or
always be in a negative mindset. No you have to watch your tone of voice, you
have to pick your moments, and you can't blame them for the issue that you are
raising. You need to be able to include them in the solution process. They need
to feel that they are just as part of - they need to feel that the issue is not
theirs to fix but yours as a couple. And when you get into the habit of
criticizing your partner over and over again, they can get defensive and they
can stop putting in work because it's not encouraging. And it is your
responsibility to communicate in an effective way in order to address the
small stuff. Unfortunately the couples that are unable to do so start to live
separate lives. And you have different interests, you then may start to confide
in other people that are outside of your marriage,
and that's when relationships start to become vulnerable. They become vulnerable
because you're not leaning on your partner, on the person that is on this
journey with you to fulfill most of your needs and that's when cheating occurs.
At HAPPILY COMMITTED we are really striving to make sure that we provide
you with tools and techniques to prevent breakups because truth be told my
partner, Coach Nat, and I have worked many, many years trying to repair broken
relationships and it's not easy. It takes a tremendous emotional burden on most
people and that's why we've made it our mission to try to get in front of the
8-ball and to help people all over the world learn basic
tools to help them feel accomplished in their relationships. Communication will
also help you build a common life project together. It is through
communication and healthy communication that you can start to plan for the
future. And sharing future goals, having things that you both are looking forward
to can help consolidate the bond and pull in the same direction. To learn more
about how to communicate with your partner effectively and to have support
along the way go to our website, check out our programs, check out our blog
articles, and seek support. This is our mission to give you the love education
that you never had. Join the movement of happy couples committed to one another
fulfilling each other's love destiny each and every day. Like this video if
you've enjoyed it, leave me your thoughts, share other communication tools that
you've learned to empower other people around the world to live out their most
fulfilling relationship and to create the relationship they want. As always
thank you for tuning in and see you soon