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The INFP personality type is probably one of the most,
if not the most, unique, the uniquest if you will,
of the 16 personalities.
INFPs are individualistic, they're creative.
They do their own thang.
So when it comes to relationships,
an INFP needs to find a partner
who has a few particular characteristics.
It can't just be anyone off the street, all right?
They've gotta be able to handle an INFP.
Not everybody is up to the task.
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The first thing an INFP needs in a partner
is someone who will respect their feelings.
INFP are deeply emotional
but the irony is they don't often show it.
And lots of times they don't even like talking about it.
Their emotions are like an iceberg.
You might see a little bit above the surface
but there's so much more going on beneath the surface.
An INFP needs to have a partner who understands this
and who realizes that they're going to be be times
where you are feeling things
and they're not really gonna understand it,
and that you just have to feel it.
INFPs don't react well to people who are like,
get over it or tell you that
you shouldn't feel a certain way.
An ideal partner for an INFP will be able
to be by their side when they are up,
and when they are down without questioning the validity
of their emotions.
Next, INFPs needs someone who can keep them grounded.
Someone who has a bit practical.
INFPs have wild imaginations.
I think INFPs would often rather just spend time
in their imaginations than in the real world.
The downside of this of course is that
if you are stuck in your imagination,
you're not really living life
and you can let the practical day to day things pile up
until you're overwhelmed.
INFPs need a partner who can appreciate
their deep imaginations but also be like,
"Hey, ground control to Major Tom."
Let's take your protein pills and put your helmet on, okay?
Relationships are about balance.
I'll probably say it several more times
throughout this video.
So an INFP needs someone who is well grounded in reality,
and is practical to balance out the INFP.
This next one is another quality
that will balance out an INFP
because an INFP needs someone
who will help them be more social.
Now I know a lot of the INFPs watching now are like,
no man, I don't need no help being social.
My dream partner is someone who'll stay at home with me
and we'll never have to go out ever again, but hear me out.
This doesn't mean you need to find a partner
who's like a party animal or someone
who likes to go out all the time.
In fact, believe it or not, many extroverts I've met
considered themselves to be homebodies.
But the difference is when they're around people,
they like to engage with them.
INFPs on the other hand, like to stick to themselves.
I think it's fair to say that they'd really
just prefer not to interact with anyone most of the time.
But a lot of that I think comes from a fear of judgment.
INFPs really care about what everyone else thinks
about them, more so than is typical,
and not like in a neutral, oh, I wonder what they think.
But more like, "Oh, my gosh, my world is ending,"
because of what they think, kind of way.
You know like, your circuit's dead
there's something wrong kind of way.
So having a partner who likes talking to people
someone who can serve as a social buffer is great for INFPs
because their partner can help them be more social
while taking away some of the fear that comes
from being solo in a social situation.
And that's good.
Socializing helps you grow as a person
and ultimately will help you feel more connected with others
and get over some of that fear of judgment
which really holds INFPs back.
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Now, after your partner has dragged you around to a couple
of social events, you'll probably be pretty drained.
INFPs need a partner who understands
that sometimes you need space and who can respect that.
Some people get nervous.
They freak the F out when an INFP shuts down
because to them being quiet, being closed off
keeping to themselves is something that they would only do
if they were very upset.
But to an INFP that's just something you have to do
every once in a while.
You gotta process all the crap going on in your brain,
or maybe you just wanna play around in your imagination
for a little while and escape from the real world.
INFPs need a partner who will realize
oh, okay, you need to recharge, that's okay.
I'm gonna do my own for a while too.
When you have a partner who can respect your alone time
it will make that time so much more refreshing for you
so that you can engage again even sooner with your partner
and the rest of the world.
Now I've already mentioned that INFPs
have crazy imaginations.
You know, they're out there floating in a most peculiar way.
And that's because INFPs love to explore.
They are naturally adventurous, even if just in their mind.
So they need a partner who will go along with that
and help the INFP explore.
Because INFP is having imagination that is focused
on the possibilities of the outside world,
they need to keep feeding it.
They need a partner who will be there for that
whether that's in conversation, exploring new ideas
or actually going out into the real world on adventures.
Without someone who can explore with them,
an INFP will get bored, and feel trapped,
which is not exactly something you want in a relationship.
Next, this might seem obvious,
but INFPs needs someone with whom
they can foster a deep connection.
INFPs take everything very personally.
They feel like their connection with, you know,
the barista at Starbucks is special.
So in a relationship they need someone who will also treat
the connection as a very special personal thing.
And not everyone is like that.
I mean, there are lots of people,
even in a loving, healthy relationship
who view the connection with their partner
in a less intense deep way.
And to INFPs, that's extremely off-putting.
INFPs want the kind of intense relationship where
if the INFP has said to someone,
tell my wife, I love her very much.
The other person would just reply, she knows.
Lastly, INFPs need someone who can challenge them to grow.
Specifically, the place where INFPs need to grow the most
is in learning how to get out of their own head a bit more
and rely on their own feelings a bit less.
INFPs have such a strong inner compass
about what they like and don't like,
what they think is good and bad
and how they feel about everything,
that it can lead them to act kind of selfish
and forget about everyone else.
The INFP's biggest challenge in life
is going to be opening themselves up to realizing
that other people's judgments
are just as valid as their own.
The INFP's super power is that they know who they are
and they have a vision, and they're very sure of it.
But the cost of letting that go unchecked is that
everyone else might think that you only care about yourself.
A good partner will help the INFP realize
that they can better achieve their dreams,
if they can challenge themselves in this way to think,
what do other people think?
How can I work with others and not just go off on my own
and do my own thing as I'm floating 'round my tin can.
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