You have to make a decision, right now you need to decide upon something. So time is
ticking, come on have you made up your mind? It's almost over what do you think? Time's
up, what did you think, have you made a decision? Do you feel very panicked in such situations
when you have to make a decision immediately? Then I'm sorry to tell you but you are an
indecisive person. Don't worry it's not a negative word and we work over your indecision.
Don’t worry about it. Try these tips that I'm going to share with you in this session
where we are going to learn how to overcome indecision and how to be a quick decider.
A person who can quickly decide and quickly make decisions. This is Skillopedia, the place
to learn skills for the real world and I am Michelle.
It's time you stop giving yourself analysis paralysis. What is analysis paralysis? So
when you analyze a lot before taking a decision, which means you think a lot about taking a
decision. You think whether the decision is going to be good or not, whether it is the
correct decision or the wrong decision and then you finally start over thinking about
it and you think of all the possibilities that could go wrong once the decision has
been taken. This is what you call analysis paralysis and many of the business entrepreneurs
give themselves this paralysis. So you have to make sure that you do not paralyse your
thinking capacity by constantly analyzing your decision by over thinking it. Now that's
not all, what happens is sometimes people analyse a decision even after it's taken.
So once you've taken the decision it's time you forget about it. Don't worry until you
see the results. Stop over thinking it and thinking of the results because the moment
you think of the results, that's when the anxiety walks in. So make sure you do not
analyse your decisions too much.
It's usually suggested that you should sleep on an important decision. To sleep on a decision
means that you do not take the decision immediately but rather you spend long hours or a longer
time maybe a week or so to think about it and then finally give a decision. But I suggest
you do not sleep on a decision. What needs to be decided needs to be decided be it sooner
or later. So why don't we do it sooner and relieve ourselves of all the anxiety that
will be caused if we stretch the decision too long. So the correct thing to do would
be, take out some time of the day. Allot at least 3 to 4 hours to that important decision.
You take your time off, of almost everything, your phone, your social life; everything and
you sit on that decision. You don't sleep on it but you sit on it. To sit on that decision
means that you should spend time analyzing the decision but in a very positive way. Not
over thinking it but because here you are going to consider the pros and the cons. You
are going to review all the information about the decision and if it all, it's needed then
you talk it over with somebody which means that you can talk about the decision. You
can talk that whether the decision is a good one or not to someone who is close to you.
So make sure that you allot yourself some time for every decision and do not stretch
it too long, what needs to be done has to be done.
The ideal strategy to make a decision is to use the 10, 10, 10 strategy. So what is the
10, 10, 10 strategy? This means that you think about your decisions and you think that whether
you will be pleased with the decision 10 minutes later or 10 months later and what about 10
years later? Are you still going to be happy with the decision that you took then? That's
when you consider all the timeframes. The present effect of the decision, the middle
term impact of the decision and also the long term impact that the decision is going to
make in your life. This is going to help you take a very quick decision so that you don't
have to worry too much about analyzing it. You will know exactly how it's going to impact
you and this is the best way to make a quick decision. This is how I make my decisions
in fact by following the 10, 10, 10 strategy.
Did you write your problem down? That’s the first question that my mentor asks me
when I share a problem with him. When I tell him that alright I’m suffering from indecision
which means I’m not able to take a decision on a particular topic at the moment, the first
question that he asks me is, did you write the problem down? And I would be like no.
So that's not a good thing to do actually. You must not underestimate the potential of
writing down a decision or writing down a possible decision and listing all the possibilities
with that decision. This will help you understand it at a much greater level because when you
write it down, you register the decision more. You register all the possibilities and then
you can decide more effectively. It gives you time to calm down from all the anxious
thoughts that are there in your head and look at the positive side of it. You feel more
gratitude when you write it down; you understand the decision better and all the possibilities.
So as I told you in the last tip that you should write your problem down and also the
possible solution. So when you wrote down the possible solution, what exactly is it
that you should write down? So when you are making a decision you must list the pros and
the cons. So the cons is the cost that you need to pay for that decision or the cost
that you need to bear for that decision and then you have the pros which are the positive
aspects or the benefits of the decision that you are going to experience. So if you see
that the pros side is longer and heavier you know your answer. You know which decision
that you need to go ahead with. So this way you have more clarity and you can quickly
transfer all the information from your head into simple statistics. So it's give a bigger
picture and you can take the decision more quickly. So this is the tip that I have for
you. Write it down, list the pros and cons and have a bigger picture in front of you
to make the decision correctly.
So the next tip that I have for you is that it's time that you hit your history books.
Oh you don't like history? Don't worry I’m not talking about the literal history books
but I'm asking you to make a research, to get into some research about the decision
that you are making. It's obvious that someone else may have already experience the situation
that you are in because after all you are making a business decision not a personal
decision and such situations are common to all. So speak to your business owning friends,
ask them what do you think that they will suggest? Whatever they suggest based on that
you should make your decision. You should always have a second opinion and not just
your own opinion. So let's say that you want to advertise your product. How will you advertise
your product, you are confused between advertising it through social media or should you have
an event to advertise and promote your product? So the best thing would be to list the pros
and cons and at the same time talk to your experience friends, business owning friends
who can guide you correctly about this.
Phone a friend, this is the solution to almost everything. Whether you are facing something
personal or if it's about a business decision, whenever you phone a friend, you will definitely
get some solution. The major problem with business decisions is that we over think too
much and we feed our inability to think. And that's when we feel all paralysed and we are
not able to think, over thinking too much. Now in such a situation, you should refer
to somebody who is not a businessperson because in this situation that person would be able
to react in a much better way, would be able to think in a much better way because they
are not over thinking like you. So whenever I have to take a business decision, I call
my brother- in - law who is a plastic surgeon and he has no relation with business but he
has a great common sense. So I ask him my problem and I ask him for advice and he tells
me the solution and he comes to a conclusion so quickly and then I think that, Oh why couldn’t
I do it? And then I realise that just because I was over thinking I couldn't do it. So call
a friend or call a relative who is not from business and possibly they can give you a
better solution.
The final way to decide confidently is by trusting your gut feeling. Yes it's time you
start listening to what you feel not just what you think. It could be that that the
logistics, the people and all the logics could be against your decision. However if you are
feeling something and you are sure that you can achieve it, then listen to your feeling
and go for it. Don't think twice because this is exactly what is going to drive you to achieve
your aim. So don't always think too logically, follow your gut feeling. It will definitely
lead you to a better position when you are trying to decide something.
It's time that you stop thinking too much when you are taking a decision coz when you
are over thinking the tangle gets only tanglier. So don't worry clear up your minds using all
the tips that I have shared with you. Try and follow them and definitely I'm sure you
are going to have a good experience taking an instant decision or a long term decision
next time. Do leave me in the comments if you have had an experience like that and please
share with me if you follow my advice and then you had a wonderful experience. I'll
be awaiting your comments, thank you so much for watching this session. This is Michelle
signing off, thanks for being with me at Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.