Hello and welcome to another video
We always say that we shouldn’t judge people base on how they look, but unfortunately,
we do that all the time!
In fact, in the first 10 to 15 seconds, the person we are dealing with decides whether
he or she likes us or trust us.
the first impression that you give in your job interview for example will probably decide
whether you will get the job or not.
Don’t believe me?
Have every judged the book by its cover? of course, and thats what we do with people?
if they look nice and attractive, we assume that they are good honest people.
Ideally thats not right, but there is nothing much you can do about it, so why not take
advantage out of it!
whether you want to impress someone or make a deal, you can gain their trust by simply
giving them a great first impression about yourself!
so lets take a look at 5 ways to do that!
Pay Attention
We all have been in that situation where we were talking to someone but he or she wasn’t
really listening to us.
They either were busy with their phones or simply thinking about something else.
The question I want to ask you is that, how did that make you feel?I am sure that you
felt like punching him on his face and telling him, Listen, I am freaking talking to you!
No matter how smart he was looking, for you he seemed like a douchebag.
A lot of people either luck eye contact or simply are not engaged in the conversation
and that makes them look like that they are not paying attention, which is a horrible
mistake to make especially when you meet someone for the first time.
If you give someone a negative opinion about yourself, its really hard to change that later
on, so why not just make right from the first time
Self-Confidence
When we talk to people, we usually focus on what we say but statistically, our words only
account for 7 percent of what say, the other 93% is all about your body language.
You can sound as smart as you can, but if you look nervous, standing there with your
arms crossed and a serious face, you are more likely to show a different image of yourself.
Make sure that you smile to certain extend.
Don’t cross your arms and let your chest be open.
Your body language is very critical when it comes to the frist impression that you are
giving.
Keep your hands out of your pocket, stand straight with your head up, that will make
you seem confident, respectful and attractive.
Set The limits
A lot of times when we talk to people, they might use a bad language with us, something
that we are not comfortable with.
Or when we tell our names, some people might just related it to something familiar to them
and mispronounce it.
Most people usually lough or smile and just let go, which is a horrible mistake.
of course you want to seem like a nice person, but you have to let the other person know
that there are limits that they cannot cross.
Otherwise you are giving an impression about yourself that you don’t mind to be be disrespected.
you don’t have to be aggressive, punch them on the face and tell them to never call you
like that again.
But rather, simply tell them with a serious, I don’t like to be called like that so please
spell my name correctly.
That will send a direct message that you don’t tolerate disrespect and they will keep respecting
you in the future.
And if you don’t do that, you are opening the door for them to disrespect you even more
in the future and it will be way much harder to change then.
and the next tip is - Get rid of um
Imagine if I will be saying ,after each phrase, you probably would have already switched to
another video.
Because that just sounds boring.
Little bit of that is not a big problem, but if you um a lot, you might seem little nervous
and not confident.
A simple way to stop that, is to simply say nothing.
if there is nothing you want to say or you are struggling to remember something.
Just think without uming, without opening your mouth.
Or you can simply fill your sentences with meaningless words, so that you say something
instead of just uming.
Politicians do that all the time, since they have to give a lot of speeches, they just
fill their speeches with meaningless phrases just to seem professional and likeable.
And the last one is appearance.
Remember that the first thing that people see in you, is how you look, how you are dressed.
It has little to do with being attractive or wearing expensive clothes.
What matters is to look clean and nice.
make sure your clothes fits you and doesn't seem like you borrowed it from someone who
is twice the size of you.
woman for instance, usually judge how clean are you based on how clean your shoes are.
You don’t have be in a suit 24 hours in order to give a great first impression.
what you should be doing instead is to know your audience first.
The clothes that you would wear for a job interview would be different than the ones
you would wear going to a party to your friends house.
Coming to a part where everyone is dressed casually, it would be weird if you are dressed
super formal.
here you go, with these 5 tips, you will certainly make a great first impression.
Let me know in the comments below which one you think is the most important and if I missed
any important point.