Hi everybody! It's Gary. And Dain.
Nice to be with you again, on the Creative Edge of Consciousness.
Yes. What's our subject today, my friend?
Our subject today is: "How is how you go about creating relationships?"
Good subject, a few people want that in information.
One of the things we've realized that what people do,
is they have this point of connection.
So they'll create a point of connection here,
and a point of connection here.
Then we have this vibrational wave length,
that goes back and forth between the two,
as though that's how you create a relationship.
And you say "I feel so connected to you".
I love it when people walk up to me and say:
"I feel so connected you.
I know we've had many lifetimes together".
That's nice... Great, what about this one?
And the point is? Uh-huh!
Yeah, that was then, this is now
and I don't see that connection.
So what happens is those points of connection that you make,
they create this line between those two points.
People go: "Wow I'm connected to based on this".
Like the story Gary tells about the lady who was like:
"You like silver pens and El Caminos and I like silver pens and El Caminos ...
Therefore we are destined to be together".
WTF? What the fuck are you talking about?
That's enough for a relationship?
We both like El Caminos and we both like pens?
But then you look at the world and you're like:
some relationships have been created on less...
Yeah good point. You know?
What you got to do instead of creating from the point of connection,
and when people do connection
- one of the things I said in a class recently is:
If you feel that you feel that this person makes you feel good... run!
Because if they feel good,
then you have decided the connection you have is feeling good.
The moment you don't feel good, the connection is gone.
You've got to get clear
there's a different way of creating a relationship.
Which is exactly what these points of connection create
it's the on again, off again.
I totally love you!
Oh my god you're such a bitch, I can't believe I loved you.
Yes. I can't believe you're so judgmental of me.
Yeah, it's this amazing thing,
where rather than actually being present with the person,
what you're looking for is those connection points
that you have with them and that they have with you.
That's what you believe,
and that's what we've been taught and told
actually creates a great relationship.
It's what destroys the possibility for a truly great relationship.
A truly great relationship can occur,
if you're willing to have the points of creation.
What points of creation can we begin from?
Because it's about the thing of beginning a relationship
from your creative capacities of what you can create together,
not what your " connection" is.
If you get the distinction in that;
It's not based on your connection,
it's based on your capacity for creation.
What happens is: "What point of creation can we have together?"
And some of the people that we know
- you can see it working, can't you? You see that happening?
My brain is working, my brain is working.
I love it, because I can feel it. I'm like Oh it's happening
When we get to this, it's like there's something
he's looking at in the world, where he is going energy, energy stuck
... unstuck stuck, how to unstick what was stuck,
put it into words... miracle, hello! Thank you very much!
New process. You know? Got a new process.
The thing is, what he doesn't do, when he's looking at the energy
- hold on, hold on -
what he doesn't do, is he doesn't look at how we can connect to it.
He looks around it.
Not from connection, but how to dismantle the solidity.
So it's not trying to connect.
A lot of people, when they try to create processes go:
"Let me connect to the energy, to get what it is" .
You want to be aware of the energy.
What I look at is: "What can I do to change it?"
Yeah, don't do that in relationship though, that would be bad.
What have you created as a point of connection,
that eliminates all the points of creation,
from which you could create a great relationship?
Everything that is times a godzillion, will you destroy and uncreate it all?
Right, wrong, good, bad, POD, POC, all nine, shorts boys and beyonds.
That is even better than I thought it was gonna be.
That's awesome!
What have you created as the points of connection,
that eliminate all the points of creation,
from which you could create a truly relationship?
Everything that is times a god zillion, will you destroy and uncreate it now? i
Right, wrong, good, bad, POD, POC, all nine, shorts boys and beyonds.
I have this feeling, that when somebody is doing the point of connection,
they actually eliminate a ll points of creation.
Have you ever noticed?
Have you ever been in a relationship and you first meet the person,
and you're like: Oh my God, hi, how are you?
And everything is on, and your loins are like:
Hi, I'm alive, how are you? Nice to meet you, So nice to ...
I think that's the point of lust,
which is not the same as the point of connection.
But once you stick it in, now we have a connection.
That's when you know you really love somebody. When it goes in.
Oh my God, it fit! We're in love.
Awesome!
Was that as good for you, as it was for me?
Uhm, are you done? Yes? Okay.
Anyway, here's the thing. What happens is,
because we're looking for this thing that seems like this:
Oh my God I found my other half in the world!
Because we have this idea if we can connect...
It's almost like we're walking around with all this -
I don't know - all these points of connection. Possibility.
They are actually possibilities.
And what we've been told is,
you need to connect them to another person,
in order to actualize those possibilities.
and you need to connect them to the other person,
who's going to be your other half of these possibilities
Then you can perceive, know, be and receive all of you.
Except, what that does is,
it sets up the lie that you're not already all of you.
That you need another person to create points of connection with,
to have all of you.
And you have to cut of parts of you, in order to not be all of you,
so that you can have somebody, who will make you be all of you.
We were in Italy recently.
Here's the thing... You have to talk with your hands, hello!
I think they do it here too, in Amsterdam, because i watched these people
take their microphones and talk circles around the microphones.
And they wonder why we can't hear them.
Keep it still, swallow... Like that? Yeah.
Anyway, so here's the thing.
What you do is then you start cutting off
everything that's not a point of connection with somebody else,
because you believe that point the points of connection,
are actually creation.
And they are not.
Everything that doesn't seem to match in their world,
or they can't perceive or they can't connect with you on,
you decide you can't be.
Yeah, and you diminish you, in order to make that work.
It's one of the reasons why sometimes when you're away
from somebody that you're in relationship with, you're like:
Oh my God, I'm free, I can be everything I really am!
Why do I get so small, when I'm in their presence?
Oh my God, what happend?
Because you're trying to cut off everything
that was not a point of connection with them.
Now the people who have truly great relationships, don't do that.
They do point of creation.
Yeah, and what happens is they do point of creation.
It actually eventually leads to space of creation.
And space of possibility. Which is really cool.
Let's run it one more time and then we're close to done.
Done. Totally done.
Because we don't want to abuse people. Right.
Are you sure? Okay, never mind. I thought that was our point of connection....
So what have you created as the point of connection
that eliminates all the points of creation,
from which you could create a truly great relationship?
Everything that is times a god zillion, will you destroy and uncreate it please?
Right, wrong, good, bad, POD, POC, all nine, shorts, boys and beyonds.
I like this process, this is a good one.
The good news is, that loosens things up.
At least we'll have people who have a point of connection where they're loose.
And we'll have people who are loose.
I worked on a girl today. You know what her name was?
Loose. Marloes
I was like: "Really? Could you say your name again?"
Yeah, awesome! Okay, one more time. Thanks...
I just wanted to know there was somebody
with the name loose in their name in the world.
Thank you. I'm happy. I can go on living.
It was awesome, it was great! Cool.
Thank you everybody, we'll see you next time on...
what's this name? Creative Edge of Consciousness.
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