- [Narrator] Do you have a secret crush
and you can't seem to muster up the courage
to talk to them in person just yet?
So, you decide do you wanna talk to them online first?
A few texts here, social media comments there,
and you're good, right?
Well, you may need some tips to get you started.
Here's some help on how to get your crush
to like you online.
Number one, see if you have mutual friends.
Do you have mutual friends with your crush?
The great thing about social media platforms
is being able to see who follows who
and who's on who's friend list.
So if you give your crush a friendly follow
or add them with a note saying you go to the same school
or are in the same club,
then after you're on their friends list,
see who else is.
Odds are the social media site will let you know
what followers or friends you have in common.
If you know this mutual friend well enough,
you can reach out and ask them about your crush.
If you trust them, go ahead
and ask if they'll be your wingman,
or maybe if they can invite your crush out
to their next outing, which you'll be invited to as well.
Then, you can have an easier time getting to know your crush
because your mutual friend can introduce you to them.
If you're not quite comfortable
with admitting who your crush is to your mutual friend,
you can always message your crush
asking how they know your mutual friend.
It starts a conversation and it shows you know them too.
So, they may just trust you more
and feel comfortable messaging you.
Number two, get to know them and show you care about them.
Have you shown any of your passions and hobbies
through social media posts?
Well, now that they know a bit about you through your posts,
find out what they like to do as well.
Get to know them.
If they posted about a movie they really liked,
discuss it with them.
If they shared a photo of themselves
that reveals a hobby of theirs, ask them about it.
Get to know your crush a bit by asking about them,
their hobbies, interests, and passions.
If you have something in common,
run with it and keep the conversation going.
Grow it towards more than a shared interest,
but a discussion about why you both love
what it is that you're passionate about.
What about it to you makes it your one and only passion?
They'll likely share what drew them
to their passions initially too,
or why they got into their career,
or what's going on lately in their life.
The point is to not only get to know them
but to show them you care by listening,
asking follow up questions,
and expressing your genuine interest when possible,
Number three, find something interesting
you both have in common.
Similar to point two,
do you have something in common with your crush?
Try to find something interesting
that you both have in common.
If you find something more unique that you have in common,
even better.
This will bring you closer
and give you something personal to talk about.
You may even develop a private joke or two,
which can bring you closer together.
Once you have something in common
that's unique or interesting,
it could set you apart from their other friends,
which means they may bond with you even more.
Number four, post about something
that you have in common with them.
Okay, so now you've gotten to know them better
and you've found out
that you have a few things in common with them.
To catch their attention more,
post about your shared interest.
So let's say you both enjoy skiing.
Post a photo of your latest skiing outing.
If they comment on it,
you can then casually invite them out
to your next ski outing.
Or maybe you don't get much snow where you live.
How about posting an update on a book
by the author you both love.
If they comment on it, this is a good sign.
Then, you have an easy way of starting up
a conversation again with them
on the topic you posted about.
Number five, text some open-ended questions.
While texting,
it's a good idea to keep the conversation going
with some open-ended questions.
Avoid simply yes or no questions.
Or look out for how they reply.
If you notice they don't ever ask questions back to you,
it's a likely sign that they're not that interested.
If they only text back brief yes or no responses,
they might not be into keeping the conversation going.
It shouldn't just be you who's asking the questions
in your discussions, but generally don't turn away
from asking some friendly questions when they arise.
Who knows, the more you both get to know each other,
the more you may start to like each other
whether that be as romantic partners or friends.
And number six, be genuine and be yourself.
Are you your genuine self when you text your crush?
It's important not to pretend you are someone
besides your true self.
The impression you're trying to give off
should be authentic to who you are.
Once the conversation starts flowing,
don't overthink things and just run with it.
Ask some questions, respond truthfully,
and don't worry about seeming perfect.
If you make a silly mistake,
you may just come across as relatable.
You'll wanna partner who is compatible with you
and perhaps one day, likes you for being you.
It's best not to be anyone else besides yourself.
So, how will you start a conversation
with your crush online?
Or will you approach them in person first?
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