So it doesn't matter who I work with,
Whatever’s manifesting physiologically in their health,
relationally, in their relationships, financially, in their careers,
it's all a byproduct of these deeper causative factors
which are then cascading into these symptomatic factors.
So, one of my stories working with an NBA basketball player who
had the worst free throw shooting average in the whole league.
Like the average is 75%. He had 37%. So it's less than half of the average.
So, he was looking for sort of help from everybody.
Coaches, his like throwing coach, his sports psychologist,
friends, teammates, blah, blah, blah. All of that behavioral adaptation is a reaction
to the belief that he has got a problem. But his problem is all based in history.
So now what he was doing was perpetuating the idea that there was something wrong.
So for me, I went in there and helped him understand that,
no, what you're fighting is your history, which is actually totally unreconcilable.
It is what it is. So once he found peace with that, he now started to have freedom.
So that was the dissolution of what was in the way of him actually performing.
He doubled his averages that night and for that whole week.
Because there was the absence of something. And so, that's where for me, my work is,
as I said, about the dissolution of it, so intuition, to come back to your question
is ever present, as far as I'm concerned. What hides that or masks that
is the fact that we accumulate trauma, upset failures, disappointments, judgments
because we're human and you're going to go through shit
that then hides that which is your gift, which is being a sensitive,
open, available human being. But once you get hurt,
what are you going to do? Protect yourself.
Protection is now a barrier to true intimacy. Which is why most relationships don't work,
because people have had heartbreak in relationships,
so now you go into a new relationship from a place of greater protection,
which itself seems logical but is the barrier to connecting with the person
you are now in a relationship with. Our physiology is informed by our psychology.
And the psychology and that sort of emotional body are very intertwined,
so depending on what program we have psychologically, most of which is subconscious,
which got formed in the formative years of our childhood,
which is informing our conscious thoughts, the things we ruminate on every night,
like when we're in the shower, in the car, and it's like, "what about this..."
All of the concerns, they're all housed in the sort of deeper constraints of the subconscious.
So as we're trying to rectify and reconcile the things we think about,
we're creating this sort of sympathetic response, fight or flight, dumping cortisol into our system.
That's now depleting our tissues. We're not sleeping well.
And so we've got this vicious cycle, all because at the deepest level,
our subconscious is based in these
survival mechanisms. So it doesn't matter who I work with,
Whatever’s manifesting physiologically in their health,
relationally, in their relationships, financially, in their careers,
it's all a byproduct of these deeper causative factors
which are then cascading into these symptomatic factors.
So I am always just reverse engineering whatever someone is dealing with as a human in life
to how you're programmed. People often ask me, do you do
meditation? Do you have affirmations? I occasionally meditate,
but I feel my state is meditative. So I think presence, the essence of presence,
being intimately connected with myself, being here with you now,
not in psychological time, is meditation.
So I would much rather get somebody to a place where they're inherently in a place of freedom
that they are not in conflict with or creating any resistance to life.
Because all of the behavioral adaptations and the compensations that we have as human beings
are invariably a reaction to the absence of freedom.
If you want something, wanting is based in time. So what you're actually
reinforcing is I don't have. So if you get out of time, Eckhart Tolle,
he talked about the now I think it's in a very sometimes confusing, misleading,
unattainable way, ironically, but if you do really understand presence
and you get out of psychological time, past or future,
psychological time. Clock time, the sun is going to
come up and go down, which is also an illusion, is actually not going anywhere. We're moving.
But linear time is happening. Yeah, but psychological time in terms
of like memory, past or projection future, if you're no longer in that realm,
as an athlete would call it the zone, in LA They call it flow state or
some people might call it that or in meditation its presence.
So if you're in that state, then to me there is no suffering
because all suffering can only exist in psychological time.
And that's going back to what I said, I have an intimate relationship with reality.
I'm where I'm at. I'm moving at the speed of life, as I tell people.
Meaning I'm in harmony with the way that things are unfolding.
There's no resistance. Resistance to what is
the precursor or the bedfellow of suffering. You are going to suffer if you don't want things
to be the way they are. It's physics.