We all feel misunderstood at times, especially when it comes to our different personality
types. If you're an INFP personality type, however, you've undoubtedly experienced a
lot of this. Most of what INFPs think is hidden, at least until they get to know someone well.
INFPs are introverts who can find it difficult to express themselves. Because their thinking
differs significantly from that of many other types, they are frequently misunderstood.
INFPs are sometimes aware of what is going on but have no idea how to change it. They
are frequently caught off guard when they discover how others perceive them.
INFPs are frequently misunderstood, and they may make an intentional attempt to bridge
the gap between what they have on the inside and how others see them.
Today I’m talking about the top 7 reasons no one understands an INFP. Let's get into
it.
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Starting things off for us today and number 7 is INFPs can appear to be too focused on
structure and control
INFPs are typically seen as free-spirited people who see rules as suggestions. Because
they get lost in their fantasies, INFPs are renowned for forgetting crucial principles.
This isn't always the case, though, and is one of the reasons INFP can feel so misunderstood.
An INFP that feels misunderstood may compensate for their internal chaos by becoming too rigid.
They will focus on everything they can control in their life, such as the cleanliness of
the environment, the food they eat, and their daily routine. Maintaining control becomes
their number one priority. Most INFPs can improve their plans and lives by adding more
structure and organization, but a misunderstood INFP can take this way too far. An overly
rigid INFP loses their connection to their best attributes: individuality, intuition,
and creativity. This back and forth for an INFP can be confusing
to others who percieve them as always easy-going and free-spirited, not knowing what is going
on in their inner world.
If an INFP gets too obsessed with order and control, they need to try to spend some time
doing things that are purely enjoyable, even if they serve no logical function.
The number 6 reason why no one understands INFPs is They seem to suppress emotions
One of the most challenging aspects of having an INFP personality is the predominant function
of their introverted feeling (Fi). Simply put, they may feel great, but they tend to
internalize it all. Emotion suppression is a common coping mechanism for INFPs. They
are prone to hiding and dimming their feelings, which can be very confusing for others around
them.
INFPs need to try to be in tune with their emotions in order to develop their intuition
and creativity. They must be able to feel their way through life's ups and downs. If
they love or respect someone, it's the same. They may believe that this is self-evident,
especially when merely giving up valuable alone time to be with someone demonstrates
how much INFPs value them. But this is not necessarily clear to others.
They might just have to say it a little more directly from time to time. It does take time
to get used to it, and an INFP doesn't have to be "obvious" to everyone. When they try
to express something other than their persona and sentiments, though, it can help others
perceive them and understand that INFPs actually do appreciate them helping to alleviate the
confusion that often comes with dealing with an INFP.
Next up and number 5 on today's list is They seem inflexible and arrogant
The shining quality of an INFP is their imagination. The issue is that their reality is impacted
when they live in a fantasy world. An INFP develops sophisticated thoughts about their
ideal existence, but these desires are oftentimes never realized.
A lot of INFPs despise everything that gets in the way of their desire to be young and
free. Most of their decisions are based on avoiding the boring obligations of adulthood.
This could result in a thrilling adventure, for sure. The imagined fantasy, on the other
hand, inhibits an INFP from realizing its full potential.
INFPs fantasize and spend their time contemplating various scenarios, which might make them appear
disorganized and often misunderstood by others. Because an INFP is inherently a dreamer who
enjoys envisioning various things, they can get caught up in concepts and beliefs that
others think are unusual or far-fetched. They are very sensitive people, and their emotions
bring them to a life crossroads whose depth is not fully understood by most people. Some
people believe an INFPs emotions are "too intense" even when they are simply surface
level, and give off the impression that an INFP is both inflexible and arrogant.
Number 4 is an INFP seems unworried and carefree
INFPs usually have very deep emotions, but these emotions can be so deep that they are
buried within and do not come to the surface, and are not reflected in their facial expressions,
their words, or tone of voice.
Sometimes INFPs are just shy and cautious. However, oftentimes they get lost in their
thoughts, ideas, and feelings and do not pay much attention to what is going on around
them. But most of them do care and do want to express themselves, but they don’t know
how, or even don’t know that they don’t know-how.
INFPs are underestimated more often than they realize, therefore trying to be more open
may seem extreme to them. INFPs need to express themselves if something is meaningful or fascinating
to them. They often assume that others know what they are interested in or skilled at,
so they don’t always express it openly - which often leads to a lot of misunderstandings.
INFPs can be excellent candidates for a project or opportunity, but they may never become
aware of it since other people are unaware that they would be interested or successful.
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Next up and the number 3 reason no one understands an INFP is People may not take them seriously
for their childlike demeanor.
INFPs have often been called "childish" and "cute", perhaps because their idealism makes
them appear naive. However, they are rarely any of these things. They are idealistic in
the sense that they feel everything can and should be different or better, and they strive
to see the best in others and recognize their potential, but they are very aware that things
are not always like that, and they are more serious than people assume. And, with the
exception of household tasks, INFPs can work as grownups and do approach things in their
own way.
INFPs aren't known for taking themselves too seriously, especially when they're among individuals
they can trust. They have strong inner morals, which can make them appear overly serious
at times, particularly when they want to communicate something essential to them. This paradox
of being carefree yet, overly serious is one of the main reasons INFPs can be so misunderstood.
In the runner up spot and number 2 on today's list is INFPs seem like individuals without
boundaries
INFPs appear to have very few boundaries at times. They will tolerate a large number of
people because they want to be courteous and kind, especially if they care about or need
them. That isn't to say they want it taken advantage of, which can be confusing for others.
Some people don't always respect the boundaries an INFP sets for themselves. Boundaries are
extremely important to INFPs. They do require alone time to recharge because they are sensitive
introverts. Some people have the misunderstanding that an INFPs boundaries are unimportant since
they seem so carefree and therefore they don’t need to respect them.
What INFPs can do is hold firm in their beliefs. They can and must clearly explain their boundaries
and show that they expect them to be treated seriously INFPs must also express their expectation
of being appreciated for who they are. When they so actually reveal their inner selves,
it is clear that they are not as naive as they appear.
Topping our list and the number 1 reason no one understands an INFP is They do not seem
to be very interesting.
After spending time with multiple people, INFPs prefer to spend their leisure time doing
things for themselves. When they are alone, they may read, write in a journal, watch a
movie, or create art. That's why they do prefer an introverts' sanctuary: a calm, dimly lit
space that makes them feel at ease as opposed to spending their free time socializing.
An INFP frequently hears the word calm used to describe themselves. It's usually meant
to be a compliment. They're known for being a calm, quiet presence in the office and elsewhere,
and their tranquil demeanor and readiness to patiently listen have been said to have
a calming impact on others.
That demonstrates that their self-development efforts are worthwhile because as a Highly
Sensitive Person with tense nerves, calm is something an INFP must continually strive
for. However, being viewed differently than how they feel is usually a good thing in this
situation. By attempting to maintain a peaceful demeanor on the outside, they are typically
able to acquire some level of serenity on the inside as well.
An INFP, on the other hand, is so much more than calm. They rarely make an attempt to
bring their powerful feelings, deeply held interests, and well-thought-out ideas to the
surface and express them in words or exhibit them on their faces outside of their inner
group of friends. An INFP may believe that who they are and what they're thinking or
feeling is obvious. However, there are situations when it is too subtle to be interpreted correctly,
resulting in a lot of misunderstandings.
There are several advantages to being an INFP, such as how they appreciate harmony, empathy,
and inventiveness. They are regarded as mediators because they are inherently optimistic and
aid and support people who are distressed.
The bottom line in all of these areas of misunderstanding is that they sometimes need to go out of their
way to give people a glimpse into their complicated selves that they usually keep concealed beneath
the surface without noticing it.
While this does distinguish them, it can also make them feel isolated or misunderstood.
Are you an INFP who typically feels misunderstood? Leave a comment and let me know.
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