So this is kind of a tough one,
it's about reconciliation after divorce.
My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation
and I always try to be positive with
everybody.
I always look for a way to make a
marriage
work to take even the smallest
threads and try weaving the fabric of
the marriage back together
and we've been very successful with that.
If you go to our website
themarriagefoundation.org, if you
subscribe to this channel you'll see
it's very positive.
But reconciliation
after divorce, this is generally
a question that is posed by someone
who is hanging on. They didn't want the
divorce.
They don't understand why there was a
divorce.
They don't get it. They're thinking all
we had to do was work on this
and in spite of everything, in spite of
all the lawyers, in spite of the
other spouse even being with someone
else
they're still holding on.
I'm here to tell you
that with as much love and compassion
as I can muster.
it's time for you
to take stock of your life as it stands
now
unmarried not with
the person who you were with. I don't
care how long you were with them.
You're not with them now. Take stock.
See what you have.
Get a new baseline for your life
and plan a future without them.
If somehow there is a reconciliation
then so be it but instead of
putting your energy into dwelling on
what
happened, what could have happened, what
should have happened,
we are evolutionary beings, human beings.
Instead of living in the past or
in imaginative scenarios,
take a self-help course.
Learn something that will help you
move forward. You
have all of your life in front of you
and it's going to be wonderful. It's
going to be
beautiful but not if there's an
anchor holding you back
and these thoughts are that anchor
move forward. They say,
"Let the past go." I say
focus on the future. Don't bother letting
the past go
but put so much energy into the future
that there is no past. Still love your
ex-spouse,
love them, forgive them
but don't think about them. Think about
your future and what you can do
as an individual to improve yourself
and you will be so much happier.
Learn to love. Learn to be generous.
Learn to give of your heart
but don't dwell in the past. Thank you
for spending time with me!
God bless you! Subscribe to this channel.
I'm Paul Friedman.
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