Hello! Today, we are discussing jealousy but in casual relationships. So the guy
says he wants something casual and then he goes and acts all jealous.
What the hell? We're going to talk about that topic today and exactly what you
need to do. Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. Stay tuned.
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Welcome to today's video! We are talking the little green monster- jealousy.
How do you handle it when the relationship is only casual but now he's acting jealous?
So he was the one that said he wanted things to be casual in the first place,
and then suddenly, you know other guys flirt with you or you spend a night having
fun without him, and he starts giving you grief. What do you do in this situation?
Look, before we get into how to handle this, let's first define casual because
I think that's important for this video. For the purposes of this, we're defining casual
as either you guys haven't talked about what you are, or you have talked
and he's told you he wants to, you know, take things slow or that he's just not ready
for a relationship, which is fine by the way. Totally cool. Just because he doesn't
want a relationship doesn't make him a bad dude, but that's what makes it casual.
Okay, here's how to handle jealousy when things are still casual.
You don't.
You don't have to handle it. You don't have to accept it.
He has no right to it, and you should never ever feel bad for causing it. It is not your
problem. There's a double standard that seems to happen where some men think
that they can keep you at an arms' length by refusing commitment and then on their
own time, have their own fun and still have the right to be angry at you for hanging out
with other guys or pissed at you for doing your own thing in your own life.
They do not. He does not. He forfeited his rights to that the moment he said he wanted
to keep things casual with you. As long as that's still how he feels, and look, if that's
bothering him, you can bring it up again, but as long as that's still how he feels,
he has literally zero control or influence in your life. Why? Simple, because he's not
willing to give you any in his.
If you want to be seen as a high quality woman and attract a high quality man,
don't ever accept anything that's good for him, but isn't also good for you.
So he gets to have fun. You get to have fun. He gets to keep things casual.
You get to keep things casual. You have to wonder what he's doing on weekends
and who he's spending time with. He can wonder what you're doing on
weekends and who you are spending time with. And if he doesn't like the
heat, he can either commit, or he can get the hell out of the kitchen. I'm telling
you right now, if you want to be seen as a self-respecting high value woman, this is
the way you have to see things.
Don't ever put how much you feel for him above your own self-respect.
If the guy doesn't want to commit to you, that's okay, that's fine.
That's his choice. It may be his loss, but it's still his choice. But in doing so,
that guy forfeits all rights to control, influence, jealousy in your life.
That means he does not get to be your top priority. He does not get to know
if you're still seeing other guys. He does not get to know who you're with
and where you are all the time. He does not have any right to tell you
who you can or can't see, and he definitely, definitely does not get
to call you certain words beginning with S, if he finds out you've been
out there playing the field too, just like him. And look, if he tries to do
any of these, tell him to commit or dump his ass. Is that simple.
If he wants explanations for where you've been or who you've been seeing
when things are casual, these are the explanations you owe him.
You were with a friend, you were out and you had things to do. He's not your
boyfriend. That's all the explanations he gets. That's all the explanations
he's earned. If he wants more, he can invest more, simple as that.
So look, bottom line, if you're in a casual relationship, and a guy starts to get
jealous about you spending time with other men or doing things without you,
don't change a thing. You've done nothing wrong. You can offer him
another chance to commit. If he says yes, he now has more of a right to
information. But until he does, you do not have to accept double standards.
You are costing yourself self-respect if you do. And we'll look, that's it.
Thanks for watching. If you want to know how to handle difficult dating
situations, my report on the 10 Male Dating Personalities That Lead to
Heartbreak is available for free in the description, so check that out.
We've got a link also on how to handle jealousy in relationships in the
description as well. So if you're more in a relationship situation, that link is
down there too. Thanks for watching! Don't forget to subscribe on the left.
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