- There have been multiple things
that have happened to me over the last three years
that some people would consider unfair, that were awful.
I got in a lot of YouTube drama.
And the way that I got out of that was changing my language.
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- Hey there, welcome back to Amy TV.
Do you feel like you have some drama in your life
and you're not only having a hard time overcoming it,
but feel like it is so far fetched
for you to live your best life by beating it?
I am so excited to share today's video with you
because I think it's going to be a groundbreaking moment
for you to rise above the negativity.
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You might remember a video last week where I shared
a quick clip of a chat that I had
that is going to be featured in my new podcast.
Well, I'm so pumped to be sharing yet another awesome chat
with you today from none other than Matthew Santoro,
massively successful YouTuber and author,
best known for his amazing fact videos about our world.
- Michael Jackson, Madonna, and Prince
were all born in the Great Lakes region
within two months of each other in the summer of 1958.
- We had such a good talk for the podcast
and one moment in particular,
he talks about something that the internet remembers
as a dramatic moment in his life,
but what he remembers is how he handled it
and how that changed his mindset forever.
Okay, before we get into that, I just wanna make sure
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All right, let's pop back in time
to when I was in Matt Santoro's kitchen in LA
and we were talking about mindset.
As were discussing this, and we were kinda getting into
meditation, we were talking about mindfulness,
something really interesting happened
when I brought up the concept of victim mentality to Matt.
And I'll let you listen to hear what happened from there.
- There are no problems, there are challenges
and opportunities, I don't use the word problem.
There are no problems, problems suggest
that something is wrong that needs to be solved.
That's just a perception, things just are.
So if something goes quote unquote wrong,
okay, what's the opportunity, what can I gain from this?
- I love that you just said that, I was just listening
to a podcast the other day with Robin Sharma
and he was saying, What is the opportunity here?
That is his sort of process.
Anytime somebody might usually think this is a challenge,
this is a problem, and it sounds very much to me
that you've figured out how to
get away from victim mentality.
Because otherwise what are your, you're what, right?
You're a victim of somebody being late to coffee.
(scoffs)
And if you over analyze it, and most of the time
people just don't realize that how late they are
actually may matter to the person they're going to meet.
But then you decide, Okay, well I'm just gonna
be a step above this, I'm not gonna take it personally
and say that Suzy is terrible and she doesn't respect me.
I'm just gonna separate myself from the situation
and say, I'm not a victim of this, I'm just choosing
not to spend my time waiting for her everyday,
or whenever the case may be.
- Yeah, I wanna quickly say something
about the victim mentality.
- [Amy] Yeah.
- I, and I would argue most people,
live in a victim mentality or I used to
live in a victim mentality, I very much don't anymore.
And the way that I got out of that was changing my language.
There have been multiple things that have happened to me
over the last three years that some people
would consider unfair, that were awful,
that some people would say,
I was with a girl that was awful to me.
I got in a lot of YouTube drama that was wicked overblown
and it really hurt me at the time.
But the whole time I was saying,
what these people did to me, what they did to me,
what they did to me, that's a victim mentality.
All that I did was switch to, to for,
what these people did for me.
Because of what they did for me, I'm a stronger person
than I've ever been in my life.
There's not a lot that rattles me anymore.
So it's what they did for me.
Your business partner screws you?
Okay, that's what he did for you,
because he's presented you with an opportunity.
What are you gonna do about it?
- Yeah.
- Not what he did to you.
Saying what he did to you, there's no help there,
there's no solace, you're just screwed.
So it's all about how you tackle things
and how you approach things.
- I love that, I love that you point that out
because it's such a small shift,
but it completely changes your demeanor and you're only
hurting yourself if you go one way or the other.
Wow, if your mind isn't blown, no pun intended, Matt,
from that one tip, just that simple thing
that you could do to potentially not only overcome drama,
but beat it and live your very best life,
I just, I don't know what else there is to say.
Such a beautiful way to consider
the things that happen in our lives.
Thank you so much to Matthew Santoro
for sitting down with me for the podcast.
Not only was it very generous for him
to welcome me into his home, he welcomed you as well.
So I hope that you will go and check out his socials,
which are in the description below.
I'm also going to be on his podcast,
so we're super pumped about that.
Go and support him and get ready
to listen to his podcast episode.
He will be number two on the show when it is released,
so you won't have to wait very long.
Wait, what's the Mary J Blige song?
Play No More Drama by Mary J Blige.
(No More Drama by Mary J Blige)
♪ No more drama ♪
♪ No more drama in my life ♪
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