when you are dealing with narcissist or toxic people
especially when you are negotiating with them.
I'm going to tell you that in this video.
So make sure you stay tuned.
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Okay. So listen,
it is so hard to stay strong and fierce when they are trying to trigger you.
They are constantly trying to trigger you
and why do they do that?
They want to do that because they get narcissistic supply from that.
So what happens is, you're in this situation with a narcissist and believe me
I've been there. I've been there not just
when I've been dealing with them in my practice
and I've seen it in negotiations over and over again,
but I've also had to deal with it in my personal life as well,
which is why I'm on this mission, which is why I'm on this crusade to help you guys.
I have this massive passion why I spent literally all my time now
making these videos and giving away this free content
and helping you guys to have this resource so you can get past this
but what happens is with narcissist,
you're either for them or against them and once that relationship breaks down
and once you are now in the situation where there's a business
relationship or a personal relationship and you’re now
negotiating with them.
Now you've become public enemy number one
and now they want to go after you
and now they need to make you look bad before
you can make them look bad
and so now since you're no longer giving them that supply
through adulation or complements or doing things for them or whatever
way you were providing supply before,
they're going to get supply from you in a different way
and so how they're going to do that is through making your life a
living hell and so they're going to try to trigger you.
They're going to try to get you and that's why as much as you're going to try to say,
Oh, you know we're going to make this good
and we're going to try to have a great relationship
and we're going to try to go our separate ways
and I don't want this to be bad and I'm going to try to collaborative
process or whatever it is that you think you're going to have,
they’re not gonna go that way because they enjoy the process of making you miserable.
They enjoy watching you squirming, they enjoy triggering you and so how do you stay
strong and fierce throughout that entire process.
How do you do that?
What's the one thing that you can do?
I mean, yeah you can put boundaries in place and
you can you know, keep everything as brief as possible
you can do all of those things that you have to do
of course, but you know the one thing that you can really do.
Is really shift your mindset.
Really really just decide how this is gonna go that deciding factor.
How you are going to handle yourself is more important than anything.
Pretty much anything.
You’re mindset is more important
than any of all of this you and you alone are going to decide your value.
You and you alone are going to show them how this is going to be from now on
because what happens is they were conditioning
you from the beginning.
They were looking to see if you were going to be a good form of supply
and they've been having you retreat in a certain way and you are now
going to shift the dynamic and start pushing back on them
and they're not going to like it
at first, I'm telling you right now.
They're going to scream and cry and have a big freaking tantrum and that's okay.
You can stay strong and fierce throughout that whole thing.
So just know that that's how it's going to be and just take care of yourself.
You know, I have a whole video on self-care
when you are dealing with narcissist
and you can check that out and just know that that it's all going to work out.
I've helped literally thousands of people in my Slay Program
and help them shift the dynamic and show them the way.
Show them the way out and there is a way to slay and I'm going to
show you too
you know, walk toward the light.
You can win and I want you to put that
in the comments right now.
I will win
put that in there right now because you can,
you're fierce and don't let them win.
Don't let them, you know, think that you can't
because anybody ever says that narcissists
always win and that you can never win against them.
That's just your conditioning, that's what they want you to believe,
that's what they want you to think.
So you know, the one thing that you can definitely do to remain strong
and fierce is just decide that you can because you can.
Don't ever let them believe that you can't just know that
that's the conditioning that you've had from them.
Believe in yourself, know that you can stay positive,
know that you can stay optimistic, know that it's possible
because it is.
Surround yourself with people who will support your goals,
know that the top five people that you surround yourself
make a huge difference.
Defend your light with your life by having a high bar
as to who gets to be in the closest space around you
makes a huge difference.
Know that the input really makes
a difference on what your thoughts are.
I always say, I never leave my thoughts unsupervised.
So you know, be a be really aware of what goes in.
Make sure to grab my free
crush my negotiation prep work sheet.
If you are getting ready to negotiate,
make sure you grab that
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I know that you can. I got your back.
I'm Rebecca Zung and remember that
today's a great day to start negotiating your best life
and I will definitely see you in the next video.