Oh hey everybody. I'm not at home, I'm actually at work at the HowStuffWorks.com offices.
Can't you tell? Cause it's zany in here. There's just a shark sitting on the conference table.
Get out of here. Your questions after this.
I'm going to kick this off on a positive note with a comment from @Katherine Smith who said,
'Your hair looks so beautiful in this video.' You know what I added that 'so'. She didn't
say 'so beautiful', I just added that. Thank you. She also asks, 'How do you feel about
being a role model?' How I feel about being a role model is wow, thanks for calling me
a role model. That's a bigger compliment than you saying that my hair looks beautiful. I
think that if anyone considers me a role model, that really makes everything that I do really
worth it. To be considered a role model would be a major honor for me so thank you. Maybe
Katherine Smith is the only one who would consider me a role model and that's totally
fine. One is better than none right? @Niktotinethrasher1990 asks, wait, first one thing about that username
Nikotinethrasher, you spelling nikotine with a 'K' but still I think that you are implying
that you are young and smoking cigarettes and if that is the case--let me channel my
mother right now--don't do that! Anyway you had a question though. 'How many times can
a person say they're sorry before it's okay to want something more? I don't know about
everyone else but I know for me "sorry" stops making me feel better after the fifth time.
Or is it immoral to want someone to make up for it?' So this question caught my eye because
the other thing that I'm trying to do in my personal life in addition to saying thank
you more and being brave enough and confident enough to own my skills and talents and abilities
is stop saying I'm sorry so much. I just throw them out. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, you want,
do you want an apology? Here. It's not even a thing of apologizing for something that
I've done--sorry to bother you, I'm sorry this is probably a stupid question--under-cutting
myself over and over and over again so that I am already like taking away my own power
by just putting myself in the position of somehow being in the wrong. So to answer the
question specifically how many times can a person say they're sorry before it's okay
to want something more? I think that it's okay to want something more after they say
I'm sorry once. They see that they've done something wrong then they should change their
behavior. Now in that very moment of saying I'm sorry, they can't give you the world.
They can't take anything back, they can't erase whatever happened to hurt you, the best
that they can give you is a sincere 'I'm sorry' and you might need to learn how to accept
that because I'm sorry should be the starting point of making amends and the next step after
I'm sorry is you accepting that apology and trusting that they will make the changes that
need to be made. And then you go from there. Oh relationships are complicated. So for next
week I'm going to leave you with a question from a number of Ask Cristens ago actually
and it is from @Rchan who said, 'I really, really 'friendzone' because all of the people
that I've seen using it were behaving as if the 'friendzoning' person owed them something
and blaming their own unrequited feelings on the person who would not accept them and
not on themselves for having them in the first place.' So all of that said my question to
you, what do you think about the term 'friendzone'? Also as always ask questions, any questions
you like, they don't have to be related to 'friendzones' or apologies or role models,
anything your little heart desires, I will do my best to answer. Stay terrific.