HELLO I M DARREN MAGEE AND TODAY S QUESTION ASKS IF I D DISCUSS THE DIFFERENCES
BETWEEN PATHOLOGICAL AND COMPULSIVE LYING. NOW IF YOU LIKE THIS VIDEO IF YOU FIND IT HELPFUL PLEASE
CONSIDER SUBSCRIBING TO MY CHANNEL FOR FUTURE UPDATES ON MENTAL HEALTH RELATED TOPICS. BUT JUST
AS A REMINDER, THIS VIDEO IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR SUPPORT FROM A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL,
NOR IS IT A TOOL TO BE USED TO DIAGNOSE SOMEONE. NOW WHEN IT COMES TO LYING WE ALL LIE SOMETIMES,
WE MIGHT EXAGGERATE ON OUR CV, WE MAY, WE MAY TELL A WHITE LIE TO COVER UP SOME EMBARRASSMENT,
OR TO SEEM MORE ATTRACTIVE SOMEHOW. BUT PATHOLOGICAL LYING IS DIFFERENT, IT S SOMETHING
DIFFERRENT. SOMETIMES REFERRED TO AS COMPULSIVE LYING, THE TERMS ARE INTERCHANGEABLE. OTHER TIMES
KNOWN AS MYTHOMANIA OR PSEUDOLOGIA FANTASTICA. BUT I THINK THERE SOME DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THE
PATHOLOGICAL AND THE COMPULSIVE LYING. BUT BEFORE I EXPLAIN WHAT I THINK THE DIFFERENCE ARE TO DATE
IT IS UNCERTAIN IF CHRONIC, HABITUAL, PERSISTANT LYING IS A DISTINCT DISORDER IN AND OF ITSELF,
OR WHETHER OR NOT IT IS PART OF ANOTHER DISORDER, FOR EXAMPLE FACTITIOUS DISORDER.
BUT WHETHER OR NOT IT S A DISTINCT DISORDER, OR PART OF SOMETHING ELSE, I M GOING TO FOCUS ON WHAT
I THINK ARE THE DIFFERENCES ARE BETWEEN COMPULSIVE AND PATHOLOGICAL LYING. SO WHEN IT S PART OF A
PERSONALITY DISORDER, I THINK THAT S WHEN IT S PATHOLOGICAL. THERE IS A PURPOSE, THERE IS A
MOTIVE FOR THE LIES. FOR EXAMPLE WITH NARCISSISM WE SEE LIES ABOUT ACCOMPLISHMENT, PERFECTION,
SEEKING ENVY OR ADMIRATION FROM OTHERS. OR THERE S LIES ABOUT THEIR LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY,
CAUSING OTHERS UNNECCESSARY STRAIN AND SHAME THROUGH GROSSLY EXAGGERATED ILLNESSES AND UPSET.
WHAT WE DON T SEE, WE DON T SEE GUILT OR REGRET FOR LYING. WITH HISTRIONIC PERSONALITY WE SEE LIES
TO SEEK ATTENTION, FUNNY STORIES, DRAMA, TERRIBLE ISSUES. WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY WE MIGHT SEE
LIES TO AVOID ABANDONMENT AND REJECTION. WITH ANTI SOCIAL PERSONALITY WE SEE LIES TO MANIPLUATE AND
SCHEME, BLAME EVERYONE ELSE SOMEHOW TO BEAT THE SYSTEM. WE MIGHT SEE IT PRESENT WITH SOCIOPATHY,
AGAIN THE SCHEMING. AGAIN THOUGH, NO GUILT. WHEN SOMEONE IS ON THAT DARK TRIAD, THAT COMBINATION OF
PSYCHOPATHY, NARCISSISM AND MACHIAVELLIANISM, WE SEE A LOT OF LYING WITH THE MACHIAVELLIANISM, THE
MANIPULATION OF OTHERS. WITH COMPULSIVE LYING I THINK WE SEE SOMETHING DIFFERENT. WE SEE A LONG,
CONSISTANT PATTERN OF LYING, BUT WITH NO APPARENT MOTIVE OR BENEFIT TO BE GAINED. SOMEONE WHO JUST
TELLS LIES OUT OF HABIT. FOR THE SAKE OF TELLING LIES. IT JUST COMES OUT. IN CASES OF COMPULSIVE
LIARS, THE AUDIENCE MAY KNOW THEY ARE BEING LIED TO BUT MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY ARE BEING
LIED TO. THE STRANGE THING IS THE LIAR PROBABLY DOESN T KNOW EITHER. THEY JUST DO IT. SOME PEOPLE
FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE LYING THAN TELLING THE TRUTH. THEY LIE ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT,
BUT ALSO LIE ABOUT THINGS OF NO REAL RELEVANCE. THEY CAN LIE WITH NO ULTERIOR MOTIVE OTHER THAN,
BECAUSE THEY CAN. THE LIES COULD BE AS IRRELEVANT AS I HAD TEA THIS MORNING INSTEAD OF COFFEE.
WHEN THEY HAD COFFEE LIKE THEY NORMALLY DO. THERE WAS NO POINT TO THE LIE. SOMETIMES THE LIES THEY
MAY TELL DAMAGE OTHER PEOPLE S REPUTATIONS. THEY MAY EVEN FACE LEGAL ACTION. THE THING IS THOUGH,
WHEN CHALLENGED OR THE LIE HAS BEEN EXPOSED, THEY STILL HAVE DIFFICULY ADMITTING THE TRUTH,
AND TELL EVEN MORE LIES TO COVER UP THE ORIGINAL LIE EVEN IF THEY FEEL GUILT.
THERE CAN BE OUTRAGEOUS LIES SUCH AS I TOOK ON TEN BIG STRONG GUYS AND I WAS THE LAST ONE STANDING,
VERY RARELY THOUGH WILL YOU HEAR SOMETHING RIDICULOUS LIKE THEY INVENTED THE LEOPARD OR
THEY RE A TIME TRAVELLER. BUT IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO IDENTIFY OR DISCERN THE DIFFERENCE BECAUSE WITH
BOTH PATHOLOGICAL AND COMPULSIVE LIARS, AND THERE CAN BE CROSSOVERS IN THE TYPES OF LIES.
IN SOME CASES THERE HAVE BEEN THOSE WHO HAVE ADMITTED THEY KNOW THEY RE LYING, WHICH DOES
SUGGEST THERE IS SOME CONTROL, SOME AWARENESS OVER WHAT THEY RE DOING. THEY ARE CHOOSING TO LIE.
HOWEVER, MANY FEEL AS IF THEY RE NOT IN CONTROL OF THE LYING. BUT NOT IN CONTROL IN DIFFERENT WAYS.
THE PATHOLOGICAL LIAR MIGHT FEEL A LACK OF CONTROL BECAUSE THEY THINK THEY HAVE TO TELL LIES TO GET
THEM WHAT THEY WANT. THEY CAN STUDY THOSE THEY ARE TRYING TO MANIPULATE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO SAY
CERTAIN THINGS IN PARTICULAR WAYS. WITH COMPULSIVE LIARS IT JUST COMES OUT. BUT REGARDLESS OF WHETHER
OR NOT IT S PATHOLOGICAL OR COMPULSIVE, THERE CAN BE ELEMENTS OF SELF DECEPTION.
WITH NARCISSISM FOR EXAMPLE, SOMEONE BELIEVES THEMSELVES TO BE SPECIAL AND UNIQUE. THEY WANT
OTHERS TO BELIEVE IT TOO. THEY BELIEVE OTHERS TO BE INFERIOR, AND WANT THEM TO BELIEVE IT TOO.
WITH CHRONIC, COMPULSIVE LYING, IT S LIKE, MAYBE THE TRUTH IS JUST TOO MUNDANE,
WHICH IS WHY, EVEN WHEN TELLING THE TRUTH, IT CAN BE GROSSLY EXAGGERATED. MAYBE THERE IS SOME
KIND OF INTERNALISED REWARD. EVEN SOMETHING AS SIMPLE AS LOOK AT WHAT I CAN GET AWAY WITH.
IN BOTH CASES, THEY COULD FORGET WHAT THE TRUTH ACTUALLY IS. SO IT S MORE LIKE A FANTASY. AND
IT CAN BE DIFFICULT TO NAVIGATE REALITY IF INVOLVED WITH A CHRONIC LIAR. WHETHER
PATHOLOGICAL OR COMPULSIVE. IN EITHER CASE, THE LIES MIGHT BE PEPPERED WITH ELEMENTS OF TRUTH,
OR WHAT COULD BE PLAUSIBLY TRUE, IN ORDER TO MAKE THE LIE SEEM MORE CREDIBLE.
AND THAT S WHEN WE CAN GET INTO THE REALM OF WHAT S KNOWN AS GASLIGHTING, A FORM OF PSYCHOLOGICAL
MANIPULATION. IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOU RE BEING GASLIT, THAT S A FORM OF PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE.
IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A COMPULSIVE LIAR, SOMEONE WHO LIES FOR NO REASON WHATSOVER ABOUT THINGS THAT
DON T MATTER AT ALL, THEY CAN BE IRRITATING, THEY, WE CAN EVEN FEEL EMBARRASSED FOR THEM, ESPECIALLY
WHEN WE HEAR THEM LYING IN FRONT OF OTHERS. SOME OF THE RESEARCH INTO COMPULSIVE LYING,
SUGGEST THERE ARE INDICATORS THAT IT IS LINKED TO LOW SELF ESTEEM. THEY LIE, EVEN IF FOR NO REASON,
TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSLEVES. THERE HAS MAYBE BEEN CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THERE, FOR EXAMPLE AS A
CHILD THEY MAY HAVE HAD TO LIE CONTINUALLY TO AVOID THE PARENTS WRATH. SO IT HAS BECOME A
MALADAPTIVE COPING STRATEGY THAT IS NO LONGER REQUIRED. THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS BECOME
STRAINED, THEY STRUGGLE WITH REMEMBERING THE LIES THEY TOLD SO CAN T MAINTAIN THEM.
EVEN LIE THEY NEVER SAID THAT, OR MEANT SOMETHING ELSE ENTIRELY. THEY GET A REPUTATION
FOR BEING A LIAR, NO ONE BELIEVES A WORD THEY SAY. UNFORTUNATELY IN MANY CASES THEY
TRY TELLING MORE LIES TO TRY TO EITHER WIN FAVOUR OR GAIN SYMPATHY FOR BEING CALLED OUT
AS A LIAR. NOW I M MINDFUL OF A QUOTE BY MARK TWAIN, HE SAID ONE TIME, ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH.
THAT WAY YOU DON T HAVE TO REMEMBER ANYTHING. SO THEY RE MY THOUGHTS ON THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
PATHOLOGICAL AND COMPULSIVE LYING. NOW IF THERE ARE ANY COMMENTS, ANYTHING YOU D LIKE TO ADD,
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