hey welcome back for day 18 of your 30 day challenge i'm Dr. Trish Leigh if you're new
to this challenge in my channel welcome i'm glad to be able to help you in this no porn november
leave the screen behind and get on purpose in your life i am coming to you from the mountains
which is such a beautiful thing and i've come here so that i can pattern interrupt and break out of
my routine so that i can work on some things in my own life and that's what i want you to talk to
you about today so there are behaviors or coping mechanisms that are adaptive versus those that are
male adaptive and maladaptive just means that they're not good for you even though they might
seem good for you while you're doing them now a classic thing that i do is i am overly
busy and if you've heard me talk before i've created a very busy life for myself coming from
you know the family dysfunction of my childhood i grew up in a family of six kids i have six kids so
i am constantly busy so when something comes at me i don't have the mental energy to actually attend
to it so here i am in the mountains creating quiet and breaking out of that busy routine
so that i can think about the things that i need to so i can move forward in a really positive way
so what does that mean for you what it means for you is that you might have behaviors or
ways ways that you act on a daily basis so that you are avoiding something today's action step is
i want you to think about what is it that you do to escape and to avoid now clearly if you consume
pornography that's one thing and if you are stuck in the habit of masturbating all the time
that's a second thing and those are the big ones but what we're talking about is you know not
approaching and engaging the thing that needs to be worked on and instead escaping into the
screen or other maladaptive behaviors so now when we figure out what those behaviors are on top of
porn and masturbation peel it back to look at the thing that's actually bothering you that you are
escaping from i've identified the things that i need to do and i'm here working on them so
i encourage you to do that too so get some time and space and break the routine that's
why on the first day of this challenge i told you change things change as many things as possible
because the change will help you see what you need to do to succeed in this porn brain rewire okay i
hope that helps you out to tomorrow yeah i lost my days there tomorrow is friday join me for the live
um it's going to be the last live of 2021 i know disappointing because it's super fun for me too
but i'm having i'm offering a program in december through january enjoy the holidays without porn
that is going to be a 33 day program and it's only a dollar a day and if you join me there will
be lives in there and it's going to be a smaller group and they're going to be live meetings that
we can interact and i'm really excited about doing that the goal is to push you through where you are
you know the self-awareness you're creating the new routines the changes take those 30 days and
make it 63 days how amazing is that right we're gonna get you through to new year's
now if you don't want to join me in the program join me on the live because i'm going to share
with you the pieces of that program so it's not the same as this one so that you can keep going
forward yourself if you're not up for the program in december so 12 p.m eastern standard time if
you don't catch it live catch the video replay and until then control your brain or it'll control you