-You came into the quick change area, and you were like,
"Oh, my God. That was a very, very nice job, Skyh."
And one of your castmasts was like, "Is Skyh
the only person you see in here?" And you said,
"I said what I said." And I was like...
"Thank you."
[ Both laugh ]
♪♪
What was the spark that drew you to me?
First, it was your voice. [ Laughs ]
At the airport, we were getting ready to load up for Season 2.
I was recording the experience of going back to Season 2,
and I saw you, and I was like, "We're ready for Season 2,
and I'm with this guy. What's your name?"
-I said, "I'm Skyh." -"I'm Skyh Black."
-Uh-huh. -I said, "Who do you play?"
And you said... -"Jacobi."
-And I said, "Well, what do you do this season?"
-"I come in, and I [bleep] shit up."
[ Both laugh ]
-My heart went, "Doo-doo, doo-doo!"
♪♪
[ Camera shutter clicks ]
-I go to hang out with one of my castmates
while we were in quarantine. -Mm-hmm.
-And you were walking to rehearsal.
-Yeah. -And I was like,
"Hey, how are you? And I say this all the time.
And we had our first actual conversation for real... -Yeah. Yeah.
-...privately, away from everybody else,
and not on camera, -Yeah.
-And we started talking about family.
And you did the girl/woman thing
where you put your head to the side and [Laughs]
And I was like -- And I did the guy thing where I was like,
"Yeah, you know what mean?" -Yes.
That's it. That's what I'm talking about.
That's the thing.
-And then we stayed in that position.
-It was weird 'cause we didn't know what to do. -Yeah, it was like -- Right.
It was like -- -It's like, we know we were,
like, wanting to pursue more. -I was like...
-But at the same time, like, I felt like,
"I got to keep my job. You got keep your job."
-Yeah. I was like, "Oh, there's something there
that we be like this." [Laughs] -Yeah.
-No, but that's -- That was the thing I remember the most.
Like, out of all of our interactions leading up to it,
that's when I was like, "Oh, wait, this is different."
-We didn't start dating until after "Sistas" Season 2.
-Yes. -What was it like
making the transition
from that moment to the romantic special moments?
-I was actually a little shocked
that I was still in your mental orbit.
-I was like, "Yo, if you need any advice,
if you need some help, like, yo, send me your number."
And then I called immediately. It was like...
♪ Dunh-dunh-dunh ♪
I was like... -It [Laughs]
Wouldn't that have been horrible?
-First of all...
And then you corrected it. -I corrected it. You called.
-And then I called you immediately.
-Immediately. And we stayed on the phone for three hours.
We were talking about our -- your --
the passing of your father.
The anniversary was coming up, which allowed me to be open
because I immediately said, "Hey, I know how you feel."
-Yeah. Then we talked about your father passing. -Because -- Yeah,
because my father had passed. -Mm-hmm.
We didn't have a transition
because we both were so intentional.
-Completely. -"I'm ready for something real,
and you're ready for something real.
So let's build something real."
[ Camera shutter clicking ]
-How did you tell other people?
-It was tough for me to tell people
because I had just exclaimed
that I was going to not date anybody for a year.
-I remember you said that. When did you at least tell Mama?
-Immediately. I told her after our first date.
-It was immedi-- This. I don't know this.
-After our first... -After the first date?
-Yeah. -Word?
-It was the best date of my life,
so yes, I called my mom and was like,
"Ma, I'm getting married."
[ Laughs ]
What is the easiest thing to love about me,
and what is the hardest thing to love about me?
-The easiest thing to love about you --
There's an unspoken loyalty that means a lot to me.
And that's the easiest thing to love about you.
The hardest thing, which is a good thing,
is that I have to take accountability
for my shortcomings.
You call them out for my growth.
The -- The thing that makes it hard
is that you have to search yourself and say,
"Yes, I need to work on this. Yes, I need to work on that."
It's hard because you force me to take self-inventory a lot.
-Mm. -So, yeah.
-Oh, baby.
-You gonna cry? -Yes.
-You gonna mess up your makeup.
Aww. Come here, baby. I love you.
-[ Voice breaking ] That was really sweet.
-It's true.
What is the easiest thing and the hardest thing
to love about me?
-The hardest thing is that, like,
you're such a giver.
"Yeah, whatever. I just gave so-and-so, and da-da-da-da-da,"
and, "Nah, man. You know, I felt it in my heart," you know?
And it's just like, "Baby, but you needed that."
You're like, "No, it's fine. I'll get another one."
Like, it's just like --
It's just, this giving spirit that you have...
sometimes it hurts you.
Heavy is the head that wears the crown,
and sometimes your head gets heavy.
Sometimes that's hard...
-Yeah. ...you know, to watch.
So many easy things. Your honesty.
You just are, like, the most persistent,
consistent, loving person I have ever met in my life.
-That makes me feel good.
-You should. -That makes feel me good.
I mean, my dad was like that. So my dad's my hero.
-I know. -So...
thank you, baby.
-Whew. -There's onions up in here,
ain't there? -There's some -- Yeah,
has someone been cutting onions? -Onions? Yeah.
[ Both laugh ]
-For the engagement, before you proposed to me,
what were you feeling? -Mm-hmm?
-What were your feelings?
-I was talking to my grandmother and my family
about, "How do I do this? How do I make it special?"
Cut to we get to Miami. -Mm-hmm.
-And we have all our family.
We have both of our families together.
-Mm-hmm. -And it's this special event.
I got nervous the moment I started speaking.
I've always felt the fire of -- of my dreams going for me.
And now I have the fire of building
something for a person I'm so beyond in love with.
Like, I started thinking about my dad.
And my dad wasn't there. -Mm-hmm.
-And I just thought, and I was like --
You know, I was just like,
I didn't realize how deep my love is for you.
Like, I know I'm completely 100 times 1,000% in love,
but it's just like, I understood the definition
of soul mate and soul tie.
And then I started to get nervous.
I was shaking. Like, I remember it, and I was like...
-You were shaking. And I was like,
"What's happening?" -Yeah, and I was like...
-I've never seen you like that before.
-It was the first time --
one of the first times in my life where I felt like
it was life or death for me.
-Mm. Mm.
I am like, "I know my baby, and I know that
something's wrong." But I was just trying
to gauge it before making an announcement,
like, "We have to go to the E.R. right now.
We have to go to the E.R." -Right.
What did you feel in that moment?
-I just remember being worried about you,
and so I was like, "He's stressed out
because all he's doing is this."
-[ Laughs ]
-Before I knew it, that ring was out,
and I was like, "Give it to me."
[ Both laugh ]
I just felt warm and fuzzy. Rapid-fire emotions.
It was just love everywhere. I was, like, surrounded by love.
So how do you envision our wedding day,
and how do you envision five years from our wedding day?
-It's going to exceed our expectations.
Life is different when you do it with a life partner.
-That's right. -Five years from now?
That's the empire at the rate we going.
-100%.
-How do you envision your wedding day? How do you --
-Can I get my notepad? -[ Laughs ]
How do you envision us five years from now?
-Scroll, swipe, swipe.
It's gonna be either two things.
It's gonna be the most grand thing
that I can conjure up, or because of our schedules,
it may end up being very intimate...
-Mm-hmm. -...and very small,
but it's certainly gonna be full of love.
It's gonna be -- You know, my --
my motto is stay lit and stay woke,
so, you know, five years from now,
I feel like we'll be in a nice little groove.
-Yeah. -We'll definitely have,
you know -- Ideally we will start a --
have started a family. -Oh, yeah, definitely.
I'm excited to be a father. -Yeah, yeah.
-Yeah, definitely. -And I'm excited to be a mom.
And still loving each other,
still spending quality time. -Oh, that's -- that's...
-And still have a fire and passion for each other.
-That's not even a question.
-I think that's what's important.
Like, you know, life happens, but it's still this.
-And our empire's gonna be there.
-How does it feel to love a black woman?
-Incredible.
I was raised by a black woman.
You make me feel seen in this career choice,
in this day and age.
That is something that I never thought I would have.
Transparency. You know, my mom wasn't in my life.
I didn't think I would have anybody after my grandmother.
It's -- It's the best thing in the world.
You're the best thing in the world.
-It feels in-fucking-credible.
You are way beyond more than enough.
-You ruined my makeup.
-Mission accomplished.
[ Both laugh ]
Thank you for watching "Unbothered."
Where are we going?
-Food. -Food. Food first?
-Immediately, yes. -Immediately, yes?
-Yes. -Cool.
And then gym.
Oh, you worked -- You worked out.
-I did. [ Chuckles ]
That's why I get up at 5:00.