What do you do if you've already lost his respect? In today's video, I'm telling you
how to get a guy's respect back. Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. Stick around.
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Hey, it's Mark here and today, we're talking about how to get a guy's respect back. How
do you get it back once you've lost it? Is it possible to do? That's what I want to tell
you how to do in this video today. Now, the first thing you want to do if you want to
get a guy's respect back, is you have to be honest with yourself. You have to acknowledge
and identify how you lost it. So maybe it was enforcing your standards with words rather
than actions until we lost respect with for you. Maybe it was chasing without reciprocation.
Maybe you let yourself become his booty call when you really wanted a lot more than that.
Maybe you made him a higher priority than what he should have been at the stage of commitment
that he had. Maybe you just gave him all the girlfriend benefits that you know you probably
shouldn't have given. Whatever it is you've gotta be honest with yourself and identify
what that is.
The second step, you've got to identify the opposite. So you've got to say, okay, what
would I be doing in my most authentic state? What would I be doing when I truly respecting,
when I'm truly respecting myself? And how would that look to him? So say you were enforcing
your standards with words rather than actions. I get my clients to actually write down how
would I act in this situation? What would I need to do to show that I respect myself
and therefore get his respect? Maybe it's walking away from the situation, maybe it's
not tolerating lightness or not tolerating his booty calls, whatever it is. If you found
yourself chasing without reciprocation, maybe it's letting him send the next text, letting
him make the next call after you've put in the effort to do so and not continuing to
do the work for him.
Maybe it's making yourself a priority and your friends and your hobbies rather than
the guy you're seeing especially early on and knowing that you need to better handle
that balance early in the dating and relationship phase. Well, maybe it's just not giving over
all that you have to offer all your companionship, support too early before a guy's really earned
it. Really identify what it was, be honest with yourself, and then what you need to do
in your more authentic, most authentic rather state as the opposite of that, to self-respect
and act in ways that is congruent with your authentic self and your highest self respect?
Now, once you've done that and you've been honest with yourself, you know what it is,
you've got to take some time away. And this is the part that most women hate, and this
is the part that you're probably not gonna want to do, but this is the part where you
need to either go no or limited contact to take some time away and work on yourself.
Because if you have lost a guy's respect, you can't just go back to him the next day
and say, Hey, I'm doing things differently now. Or you can't even show him that because
it's just, he's not going to believe it. He's going to think that you're acting and that
it's just another ploy to try and get him back. You've got to take that time away. The
more you feel like you lost his respect, the more you feel like you did that wasn't right
and maybe the bigger damage you think you did to his perception of you, the more time
you want to take. Because if there's been a whole bunch of crazy stuff going on and
you really feel like, wow, this wasn't me, what was I thinking? I've totally lost his
respect. It's not going to be a week or two before you come back and he believes that.
It's going to have to be months, maybe a little longer.
So take the time away. The more, the better. And then number four, use that time. Use that
time to work on yourself, your interactions. Maybe it is your interactions with him and
you're still talking and you're building this new you, but even more so maybe it's your
interactions with new men you meet and new guys where you start with a clean slate and
you're living more to this authentic you that you, that has boundaries and self-respect
and you're treating yourself and him with the balance in the way you know that you should.
The longer you do this for with minimal or no contact to him, the better this is going
to work. The reality is for some guys, if you've lost his respect to that much of an
extent, you're going to have to leave it a long time and yes, that might mean he meets
another girl in the meantime, but do you know what?
If you're away and working on yourself and bettering yourself and changing who you are,
that's a good thing. There's no guarantee that him and her will last and you know what
if they do, maybe that's what he should have attracted because he probably hasn't been
working on himself the way that you were. And if by the end of this amount of time,
he doesn't come back to you and you've been building your self-respect and building yourself
in that time and that's his loss. So step five is re-initiate. Now do you re-initiate
or does he? Well, in an ideal world, he always re-initiates. You want to go off on your own
way working on yourself, getting that respect back for yourself, which is going to resonate.
So the new men you meet along the way. Ideally, he re-initiates and he gets to see that and
he's going to have a whole new vision of you, a whole new picture of you and he's going
to get to see the new you that you've become.
If you think there's been enough time and you think the connection was really worth
fighting for, then you can re-initiate. But remember, don't sell yourself on having to
get a response from him and having to get this guy back. Because if you have gone away
and you've done what I've said and you have changed yourself and worked on yourself, then
you are way better, more attractive version than what you were. And the fact is, you might
no longer be compatible with a guy that doesn't respect you. You don't want to go back to
him if he's still in that state thinking that way. You can go back to him and show him the
new you and see if his treatment and opinion of you changes. But remember, never be with
someone who doesn't respect you, but respect will also come from you demonstrating that
you respect yourself.
That is how to get a guy's respect back. I really hope you enjoyed the video. I thank
you so much for watching. I love this topic of respect. So if you have more questions
on it, things you want to know, leave your comments below, leave them below, let me know
what they are. I'd love to do more questions, videos, et cetera on this topic. Give the
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know your thoughts and I shall see you on the next video. Very soon.