- Hey, everyone!
Laci here with another special guest,
DaveyWavey - [Davey] Hey, guys!
- We are here to talk about the most important topic,
basically, in the world. - [Davey] Ever.
I've been doing years and years of research for this topic.
- Perfect, we have expert here.
- I've been waiting my whole life for this.
- So I put out a call for questions
about butt stuff.
We wanted to help answer the questions you had about them
so that you can feel comfortable and safe
and have really awesome, slippery, delicious time.
- They say oral say can make your day,
but anal sex can make your whole week.
H O O.
- Oh, shit.
So the first question.
This is actually the one that you were asking the most.
- How can we make anal sex less painful?
I think it's mind over matter.
You have to get yourself, like, in that mental place.
- That's actually a really great point
because if you don't really want the butt sex,
your internal sphincter will just be like,
"You are not coming in."
And I think that can make it kind of painful.
- The communication and relaxation, that's really important
in that if you, like, really relax, let yourself go,
and you start with, like, a finger, two fingers
and kind of work your way up to it.
- Start slow. Walk before you can run.
- Don't just stick it in.
- I think another thing that people can do
is to try it out on themselves first.
You know, know your own body first,
and then it won't be as scary and unknown
when you do it with someone else.
I think lube is actually a huge, hugely important part
of having pleasurable anal sex because it does not
produce its own lube.
A lot of people were asking what kind of lube
and how to use it.
- Okay, my favorite.
So this is the Wet Platinum.
You can use this in the shower.
Like, this stuff, like, you have to use soap and water
to get rid of it.
- Because it's silicon-based.
- It doesn't get sticky.
It's amazing.
Confession, I have a gallon jug of it
by the side of my bed.
- He really does have a gallon by his bed.
- Tada!
- I'm like, "Davey, I love you."
That's like almost finished, by the way.
- So there's like one inch.
It's a little intimidating sometimes, I think, to people.
- I mean, I'm a little intimidated
to be honest - [Davey] Are you?
- Just a little. - [Davey] It's economical.
Like, you buy it in bulk, it's like people who go to Costco.
- So the silicone-based lubes, I think, are the best
because they last the longest.
It used to be really popular to use oil-based lubes,
but those are problem because, one, they degrade
the latex on your condoms.
Not good.
And then they also leave this coating inside your body
that traps bacteria.
There's also another kind of lube that you can use
if you're not really into the silicone kind.
Water-based lube!
So water-based lube is your good go-to
for, basically, any kind of sex
whether you're putting it in butts, vaginas.
Last note about pain, please don't keep going
if it really hurts.
That means there's something wrong.
Have you ever had that experience before?
(crosstalk) pain? - [Davey] Yeah, yeah.
- You stopped right?
- There's other things that you can do.
There's other hole in your body.
You can come back to it later.
Is anal sex actually pleasurable for women?
- I'm assuming when you all sent this question
that you mean people with vulvas.
Really depends on the person,
but it can definitely be pleasurable for everyone.
Everyone has a butt and with those butts
come all of the nerve endings
and pleasurable things in the butt.
- Like, I enjoy giving oral sex.
And I put hot dogs in my mouth
but that doesn't pleasure me,
like, I eat hot dogs, and oral sex does
So I think there's a mental component to it
is where I'm going.
- Yeah, that's absolutely true.
- That psychologically you can be really into it.
- Also, anal sex doesn't have to be in your butt.
It can just be on the outside
cause that's where most the nerve endings are.
- So one of the things that's really great
about anal sex when you're a guy is that, like,
you have a prostate.
And it's a few inches up there,
but when you have something going in,
it hits it and it feels so good.
- Like, guys can orgasm just from, like, having their
prostate hit. - [Lacey] Which is amazing.
Most women cannot orgasm just from anal sex alone, though.
They need some other type of stimulation
because the way that most women orgasm
is with their clitoris.
All right, this is a huge one too.
The poop problem.
- Oh my goodness.
- Everyone's worried about shit.
- After you have Chipotle burritos, bad day to bottom.
You kind of have to watch-- - [Laci] Keeping it real over
here. - [Davey] Yeah.
Hashtag bad day to bottom.
You have to be really aware of, like,
what you put into your body.
You have to be, like, really kind of in tune
with what's going on.
And I think that kind of comes with experience,
and you kind of figure it out.
But there's other things you can do,
like anal douching.
And I know there's kind of a lot of controversy around that.
- Irritate your butt, and it can increase the risk of
HIV transmission and all the STIs.
- I mean, at the end of the day it is anal sex,
and shit happens.
- But for the most part, you're probably gonna be okay
as long as you're not having anal sex, like, right before
you're going to take...
- A poop.
- A potty break.
- No,there's no, like, easy way to put that.
- There's no way around it.
There really isn't.
- If you have to poop--
- Just gotta put it out there.
- Don't get in the ass
- When it comes to rimming and touching,
something you can do is take a shower
that way you'll feel cleaner
and that's a good thing to do.
- You can even kind of do one of these in the shower
and kinda, like, clean it out.
I will say this is that anal sex is, to me, it's not, like,
a spontaneous thing that just, like, happens.
- That's a great point. - [Davey] Unfortunately,
you kind of have to plan for it.
- Takes a little prep work, right?
- I don't think a lot of straight guys realize.
- So a lot of people were concerned about whether or not
anal sex can cause things like incontinence, prolapse,
stretching, permanent stretching so that everything
will fall out.
It sounds really scary. - [Davey] It does.
- Fortunately, that doesn't happen.
- Yeah, I'm not in diapers yet, so...
- There you go.
You got living proof.
Now those things can happen very rarely
if you keep going, for instance,
when it really hurts.
- And, like, big, like, lots of...
- Violent.
The last really common questions was about pegging.
Davey was really excited when I told him this.
He was like, "Yes, we get to talk about pegging."
- This is a whole 'nother video.
- It really is, but we're gonna, like, do a little flavor.
How can people approach their partner
to try anal play or pegging?
Do you have any tips?
- It's all about communication.
- Maybe ask how they feel about it,
if they have any experiences with it,
if they have any fantasies about it, fears about it.
Don't pressure your partners.
- That is one great-- - [Laci] Bad, bad.
- You know, as a gay man, there's a lot of things
that suck about that,
the dicsrimination, the bullying, all that,
but we get to have anal sex a lot more than straight people.
(Laci laughs)
Are rim jarb...
- Rim jarbs, rim jerbs.
(Laci laughs)
- Are rim jobs harmful?
- Only if you don't wash yourself,
and you're basically licking someone's fecal matter.
Is blood normal after?
- No, definitely not.
- Yeah, you ripped something.
- Get that checked out.
- Can involuntary pooping or farting happen?
- Yes, yes, it can.
Shit happens. - [Laci] It's your butt.
Also, when you're, like, shoving a bunch of air in there,
afterward it's normal to maybe have to...
- Do a few butt queefs.
(Laci laughs)
- I can't believe I'm making you giggle.
- Butt queef, though. Really?
- That's what it is.
Butt queefs are a thing.
- They are a thing.
Thanks so much for your expertise, Davey.
- Yeah, my sexpertise. (Laci laughs)
- If you have further questions,
you can leave them down below,
or check out my other video.
Davey also has some great videos on him.
I will put them in the description so check it out.
All right, we love you. See you later.
Bye!
♫ Please be with everyone
♫ Except your mom, oh ♫
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