I have a big old list and I set my alarm clock every morning.
I promise myself every day, I'm gonna start doing this work
and every day
I find something else to do. You now and I'm not doing it.
and I'm beating myself up about it.
and I'm, you know, because I'm not doing it
and I've got, and I've got a lot of time on my hands right now
and I'm not doing it and so I'm like,
What is this internal struggle?
and then what hit me earlier was that I'm just so overwhelmed,
and I think I just feel alone.
I've had the loss of a relationship in the last month, or two months and I just,
its all over and I think I just... I think it's just the aloneness.
and I feel like I need help with it, so I went "ok"
Once you ..., once I decided a moment you know, 20 minutes ago,
that I was gonna do a private session with you
finally, it just it came to me what it was.
- You know, I mean it it's like I made a clearing.
RS: Well we should leave that one there, so you show up!
No, I've got three pages. I've got 3 pages.
RS: Job security. Right?
Yeah.
- But, you know, I wanna let this crap go.
I mean, I do. I got three pages of this stuff
and I don't have a bunch of garbage, you know, it's just life.
you know it's just it's just all of it, but I mean, I haven't just, you know,
been kicked around, and beat around, you know I don't have a ....
RS: you don't have to have anybody else to do it. You're doing a good job by yourself.
- I'm great at it, all by myself. - Anyway, okay.
RS: So, let's do that. That one feeling.
That one feeling. I'm all alone. There's no one there for me.
and I know that's a lie but, you know...
RS: it's true inside you.
- It's yeah. RS: Take a deep breath.
Close your eyes and feel I'm all alone. All of you, do the same thing.
Go back, matter of fact. Feel that time that whatever time and moment you are,
and you're all by yourself.
No one's there for you and I want you to be there.
As a matter fact, if you can, drift back into your past.
Go back to that little girl who was also alone.
and she wanted somebody there was nobody there.
and feel it
Alright, everybody follow me.
Tap. Tap between your eyes. I lovingly release and let it go.
I let go of my sadnesses.
My fears.
My angers, my emotional traumas. It is truly amazing
I can feel alone.
in this crowded room.
I'm doing it. To me.
I forgive myself. I can let it go now.
Deep breath.
Say 'peace'. - Peace.
Alright. Go back to that time that you felt all alone.
I'm okay.
RS: Alright. Again. Take a deep breath. Go back to your feeling of being alone.
Be right there. Feel and sense that feeling.
Now I want you to make it stronger.
He just dumped you. Left you for someone else.
They didn't love you. They didn't want you they didn't wanna be around you
Feel it? - Yeah
Alright. You say 'Hell Yeah'! Way to go.
Let it go. Let it go.
It's safe now to let it go. I'm okay as I do
They have their own problems
and my problem is I don't know how feel alone in a crowded room.
I forgive myself. I love and appprove of myself.
Totally and completely. That relationship helped me heal.
It's time to let go of the pain.
I'm ok.
Deep breath.
Peace.
Alright? All alone. Can you feel all alone? Let's do this.
Say: I'm afraid that I won't be alone
Someone will show up.
and ruin my alone feeling.
Ruin my rejection feeling.
My feeling of being abandoned.
I've been so in love with this alone feeling.
I practice often. - I practice daily. Yeah. Often.
I let it go. I forgive myself.
and everyone else involved.
It's safe, now.
Deep breath.
Peace.
Alright, again. I want you to feel alone, if you can
You know if you're gonna do your homework.
You're gonna start healing your heart and your life.
You're gonna start being happier. Your life is gonna improve.
and so there's a part of you says: it's gonna ruin my alone feelings.
my life is gonna start getting better. My job, I'm gonna make more money.
More money to spend. - Which is terryifying.
Start loving me and it's gonna ruin my tradition of being all alone.
Say: Let it go. It's safe to let it go.
At one time that program worked.
It's no longer useful now.
That little girl within me needs me to love her.
and to walk her, hand in hand. I forgive myself
and I forgive her. She did the best she could.
and its okay now.
Let it all go. Deep breath. Peace.
Alright. Let's check it again.
Do your homework and that alone feeling kicked right in.
and said, Huh, you if you do your homework you won't be alone any more.
It's not safe to have people around. You know they're gonna abandon you.
They're gonna reject you. They'll cheat on you. They will die. They will leave you.
Any emotions?
- Just a little bit. Just a little bit. Okay. Let it go.
It's safe to let it go. I'm letting it go now.
It was useful at one time.
It entertained me when I was bored.
Let it go. Deep breath. and peace.
Very good. Alright, think about it again
No?
Alright. Now you have homework you get to do in the morning.
How excited are you?
- I can't do it all. - I'm coming to see you on Thursday.
Well. At least you can do your... parts.. your part.
So what about doing that? - I'm gonna make a big old list.
To get all the junk.
- I got before birth stuff.
Oh, there you go!
Include your dad, your mom, your brothers,
your sisters, your aunts, your uncles, your grandpas!
Throw in George Bush for the extra measure.
- Oh, don't get me started!
There you go. Now guys if George Bush's keeping you up at night, I suggest moving.
and if it's George Bush within you, I suggest healing you.
and your judgements. - It's really Carl (unintelligible) for me.
Who? Carl Rove (?)
I don't even know who that is.
I don't watch TV, so I don't know.
But, anyway, so again do your homework. Any emotional reaction to it now?
- I just don't know how to get started.
I'll tell you how: Grab your pen. Grab your paper. Start!
- Okay. That's how you do it.
- Just tap. Tap. If you feel any resistance doing it, tap it away.
Tap until there is no resistance. When you feel like doing it, do it.
- Okay. It's just going to pop right in.
- Its easy for me to do it.
- You know when it's something immediate.
Well, let's do this. Okay.
It has to be perfect.
It has to be a perfect setting.
It has to be just right.
I'll make an 'F' on it. [= I'll get a bad grade]
Let it go.
If I do it, it's perfect.
If I don't do it, it's still perfect.
Let it go. Let it go. Deep breath.
Peace
Right. How's it feel now?
- Do-able. There you go. Give her a hand.
subtitles: Antoinette Iacobucci