about two years ago we were having a conversation and he said you don't even
teach seek the light this peak state versus lousy state or being an energy
rich versus energy poor that a relationship you can love somebody but
if the energy is low my courage drop the energy is high it will he's what he
swapped those words and you swap peak state for a beautiful state I said that
works you know high energy state is a beautiful state any state you're high
energy would be like love or joy or gratitude or Drive or courage or faith
or you know playfulness or fun any of those things are beautiful states so
good I agree and I said and then suffering states would be low energy
State so that would be frustration sadness anger resentment loneliness
boredom whatever he's yeah that's exactly right
I could swap those because if you swap him there's something cool that you
might see or do I said what's a question Katie said well he said I have made a
decision that I'm gonna live my life where I'm gonna live in a beautiful
state every day no matter what even if it doesn't even if it rains on my parade
even if people do things they're unjust he said the reason is because then a
beautiful state just like you teach big stay everything flows I said well it's
pretty much what I've been teaching yo she gots but if you think of the lousy
states of suffering states he said then you can end suffering just by getting
this name but I realize I didn't relate to
suffering like if you told me two years ago trying to do stuff that's okay I got
the greatest life I have the most incredible wife and four kids and I got
31 companies and I'm financially free and I have a mission I love and I'm a
good help and that would all be honest I would have been dishonest about it but
what really helped me out of that conversation I left that I want well
weird do I suffer and I realized frustration is suffering I get
frustrated you know I get concerned I get pissed off again you know worried
sometimes I get these feelings and so what I decided to do was you know just
really create a 90 second rule for myself where I would end suffering as it
rises cuz anybody tells you can end suffering all the crap the reason is
your brain is a to the Leadenhall brain it's not designed to make you happy it's
designed to make you survive but there's no saber-toothed tiger for you to react
to anymore so now we worry about what are people thinking of us do I have
enough money over the last two years but I've done is play this little 90 second
rule and if I feel tension in me I go okay that's suffering where's it come to
what am i stressed about what are you concerned about and what I immediately
do is I realize the stressful thoughts since I seen Christians yeah I kind of
traded one thing but I really do now is I dig in and I noticed that the only
time you have stress or suffer is when you believe a stressful ba coz what are
the chances of everybody doing exactly what you think they should do the right
way every day zero what are the chances the people you love doing what you want
them to do the way you want to do them every day zero when the chances of you
doing even if you're talented discipline zero
so your happiness will never last as long as it's got expectation lining all
I did was I began to realize I made the decision of the most important decision
I believe of your life that I'm not gonna suffer anymore life's too short to
suffer and I'm gonna live in a beautiful state every day and the way I do it is I
catch myself and I start to get that sense of stress I let it go and I see
the I to go by so your thoughts thoughts about this person messing up your
business or not falling through if I was in a room with come down some people I
guarantee you 60 70 percent of business owners have the same thoughts at times
today I asked him all the time tell me your most stressful thought oh I'm
worried about my children this may happen how we be able to have that for
everybody I might not make it finishes well how many times that everybody my
point is it's not your thought it's over mind not your mind when you think it's
your mind you identify with it and it's you can't separate from yourself man but
when you realize these thoughts been around for millions of years and I'm
just thinking the same thought that so many people thought before like how many
people have ever thought I'm gonna kill the son of a bitch you know you didn't
do it can you not believe you're really gonna kill him but you felt it you said
it you were there right so we all have thoughts it's only the stressful
thoughts we believe that mess us up so what I try to show people is if you can
start to realize these thoughts have been around for billions years if I told
you a million you know thousands of years ago that we're gonna go to the
moon and back you called me a lunatic they're crazy if I said 100 years ago
you're gonna have a little box like this I'll fit in your pocket
and you can click on it and you can see what the weather is any place you could
click on it and see a live person on the other side there if them talk to them by
looking this box and the way it works is invisible waves they're traveling around
the earth and it pulls invisible waves in the Box you're going read between the
lines there's no way dumb idiots never happen so I want you to realize the
spots are invisible when you turn on TV it takes invisible waves and depending
on the channel you're gonna see a love story or an adventure or a drama or a
comedy or or a horror leave your body determines which of
those thought waves come through you one moment you're pissed off the next moment
somebody makes you laugh you change your body you change the channel you change
what comes through you so what I've tried to do in this area beautiful state
is simple first identify where you're suffering with your favorite flavor
are you a worrier are you a pissed off first arrest angry what is it you do
second of all decide you're gonna kill that monster while it's little you're
not gonna wait till it's Godzilla taking the city you're gonna break the pattern
you start to feel the stress you see it as thoughts going by and then you focus
on something to appreciate and joy or love appreciation love and joy destroy
suffering you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously it's possible you
can't be worried fearful and grateful simultaneously so I told people
gratitude is one of the emotions to cultivate that will destroy the stuffing
you