Heya playa, do you ever feel insecure about the way that you look?
Confidence in your appearance is something that takes time to build so how do you do
it?
Well, in this video I'm going to share a few things that you should start doing and stop
doing to help you start building your confidence.
This is The Josh Speaks.
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Let's be real for a second, it's hard to not get caught up in your looks.
They're the first thing you come across when you look in the mirror in the morning and
they're what everyone see's all the time, so of course you're going to want to always
look like you're in tip top shape.
And as practical as always being in tip top shape sounds, it's not a realistic way to
look at things.
There will be days where your acne is gonna flair up, you'll have a bad hair day or you'll
walk around with something caught in your teeth.
These imperfections don't make us bad, they make us human.
When it comes to building confidence, it's important to remember there is a big distinction
between observations and judgements.
An observation is taking what you see in front of you, becoming aware of it and using it
as the base to make your decisions.
Judgements are the conclusions we make based on those observations, usually reflective
of how other people see us or how we see ourselves.
And while judgement isn't inherently bad, avoiding negative self judgement can be difficult,
but it's not impossible to do when it comes to your looks.
Have you ever felt like the one insecurity that you keep focusing on is the one thing
that's holding you back from accomplishing anything that you want?
That somehow our measure of success is being held back by this one thing and once we fix
that, everything else will fall into place.
Maybe you feel like your acne is preventing you from talking to girls or your stuttering
is stopping you from making friends, but the whole of our confidence is not build on one
single attribute, it's built on all of them.
That's why it's crucial for you to recognize what your positive qualities are in those
moments where you feel like those negative ones truly stand out.
Say for example you lack the confidence to talk to your crush because of your height,
your height isn't something that you can change so you're better off spending your time on
your positive qualities.
Maybe that's making people laugh or making them feel comfortable around you.
Or maybe you have braces and you feel like you look silly when you smile, your time may
be better spent getting other people to open up about themselves so that you can learn
about them.
Feeling insecure is normal, we all feel that way from time to time but confidence can only
come about when you're willing to accept things the way they are, to observe them without
negatively judging them.
When you're able to reach the state of mind where you feel humbled, the fact that your
flaws are a part of you but not all of you, that's where you'll be able to reach the confidence
that you're looking for.
This self healing process is something you can do any time of the day but where it gets
really difficult is where other people are passing their judgments on to you.
Try to really pay attention to the people that pull you out of that state of confidence,
maybe its a friend that makes fun of the way you dress, or a girl you like that makes fun
of the fact that you wear glasses.
Those are the type of people that are going to reverse your confidence so try to keep
your distance from them to the best of your ability.
In fact, I would go as far as to say you should surround yourself with people that aren't
as focused on the nuances of looks but instead have bigger goals.
Think about it like this, if a person is truly confident in how they look, would they ever
need to bash someone else just to feel secure?
Confident people have no need to attack other people's faults.
They found a way for themselves to succeed and they want to help others do it too.
It's people that are insecure with themselves that need to compare because they don't know
where they stand, they're not grounded in confidence.
But along with the mindset of feeling confident, you have to make sure that you're taking care
of your body too.
That means eating healthy, getting a good nights sleep and exercising.
Remember, the better you treat your body, the more your body will respond back with
kindness.
What do you think though, do you have trouble feeling confident about your looks?
Leave a comment below and we'l talk about it.
When it comes to looks, I've dealt with my own battles growing up, from bad haircuts
to pimply faces to stretched out ugly clothing, what I learned over the years was that my
appearance wasn't my best quality.
In fact what my best qualities were were being able to communicate with people, so I doubled
down on that.
If looks are part of your best qualities too, thats awesome, double down on them.
But make sure to recognize that you bring other things to the table, a truly confident
person is one that's well rounded in everything that makes them awesome.
As always guys, love and peace.