Especially in negotiations.
I'm gonna go all through that in this video.
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Alright.
So let's talk about the covert narcissist.
First of all, coverts are the worst.
I think covert narcissist are the worst ones because
honestly, they're the most difficult to spot.
They seemed so nice you know,
and I had a covert narcissist business partner
and these are the ones that everybody else
thinks they're so wonderful and you know,
to the rest of the world
they seem absolutely perfect
and really to you at the beginning they do too
and the way they come across is almost
like a victim sometimes too.
The grandiose narcissists are much easier to spot
because they take over the room
and they everybody how great they are
and they have these big movements and
you know, they're almost holding core
with the covert narcissists are much
more humble a lot of times.
The kinds of tactics that they use are
much more has sub aggressive.
They're much more kind of death by a thousand cuts.
You know, they'll tell you right to their face
that they're gonna do something wonderful
and then they just don't do it.
They'll couch things in terms of care.
They'll go to lying monkeys,
their third parties and they'll be like,
I am so concerned for so and so because of
you know, how much they're drinking
and so they'll couch things like that
and you know, you're doing so well with your weight loss.
I mean, you know, it's too bad that it left those stretch marks.
That's terrible.
That kind of thing.
There's so much more under the radar.
I think so much more insidious than
a grandiose narcissist in a lot of ways
because the pain and suffering that they
cause is so much harder to articulate,
to spot, to get other people to see
to get other people on board to understand.
So the word salad that they use,
it's this tactic that they use to get their
targets to be confused.
To be destabilized.
To get control over them.
To get them to think that their reality is
not the reality that I will have done something
and you literally just cut them red handed
and you're looking at them
having done that and they'll say,
I didn't do that.
I would never do that.
You obviously are having inappropriate
relationship with this person.
‘‘Oh, that's not true, I would never do that.’’
And you obviously did.
‘‘No, I would never.’’
You know, and it's so obvious that they did
but they would just lie right to your face.
“No, I would never do that.’’
It's like obvious gaslighting
but then they'll say things directly to you.
Like, ‘‘what you're saying absolutely would
make makes no sense’’ or ‘‘you misunderstood me’’
and you know that you didn't misunderstand them.
You know, it's a constant gaslighting.
Constant gaslighting,
where they'll take parts of things that you said and say
‘‘oh, we talked about that and you agreed.’’
Well, you didn't agree to that.
You agreed to something similar to that
but not that but then they'll twist it and turn
it into something that's similar.
They turn it into something else
and this is what they do constantly or’
‘‘‘I've done nothing wrong’’ or ‘‘you're so insecure.’’
‘‘I'm the only one that can stand you’’
or ‘‘I always defend you.’’
‘‘I always have your back.’’
‘‘I always support you.’’
Clearly, they haven't been supporting you.
You know, that sort of thing.
‘‘I didn't hurt you, you hurt yourself.’’
That sort of thing.’
‘You're crazy.’’
You know, ‘‘why are you so defensive all the time?’’
and you're so left with feeling
like so confused constantly and you
have this pit in your stomach and you're feeling
you know, like, you have this thing in your chest
and and it literally starts to affect you physically
because you know that's not reality.
You know that's not what's happening
but yet they will do this thing to you
and yet you don't know how to fight
back because it's just constant.
It's constant.
I have a whole video called
Covert narcissism in relationships.
I highly recommend that you check that out.
And it's exhausting you know,
you end up exhausted in these relationships
because you can't just have a regular conversation with them
because you're just twisted all the time.
It's just everything you say is just
constantly twisted, constantly twisted.
So you'll say something and they'll say,
‘‘oh, you you raised your voice.’’
and I didn't raise my voice.
‘‘Well, you did’you raised your voice.’’
‘‘Well, I didn't say that.’’
‘‘No, you did say that.’’
‘‘No, I didn't’’
you know, and it's you're constantly
back and forth with that
and you're exhausted all the
time just constantly exhausted
and I do have a video called
Word salad.
Narcissism 101.
Definitely you can check that out as well
and if you've seen it put
‘‘FOR SURE!’’
in the comments as well.
I would love to know if you seen it.
Just put ‘‘FOR SURE!’’ in the comments.
because I don’t want you to be out there on your own
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covert narcissist definitely the worst one.
As I told you I had to deal with it as well
is no fun whatsoever that’s for sure
and especially when your going to negotiate with them
its like scramble eggs for brains for sure.
You know, I want you to be strong.
I want you to be powerful
and I want you to shift the dynamic and it is possible
and the only win when you give in
and you can shift the dynamic and you can become stronger
and you can do this.
I want you to get in the other side of it
you will be the most strongest more powerful version of yourself.
I promise you
and they are more afraid of you then you are of them.
That’s the absolute truth.
Alright.
Today’s the great day to start negotiating your best life.
I’m Rebecca Zung
and I will see you guys in the next video