This video is about "Why You Do Not End Your Relationship!" I will reveal possible reasons
why you are choosing NOT to end your relationship! To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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Are you currently flogging a dead horse? Is your bedroom fun completely non-existent?
Do you feel drained and miserable? Is your relationship more of a chore than a pleasure? Well
if that's the case it might be possible you're a bad ender! A bad ender is a person who ends
up in a long-term relationship or even marrying a person who they should not have even gone out with
for more than one or two dates! This is how the story pans out for men and for women = You meet
up on a first date things are fine...they may be very attractive or perhaps there's good chemistry...
but there's that one particular red flag which you decide to ignore... maybe they're very entitled
perhaps they come across rude or have some toxic vices... whatever the red flag is you ignore
it and think to yourself "i'm sure they'll get better" or you even say "it's not that big a deal!"
Then suddenly you're married to the world's biggest narcissist or dating somebody who has
made your life a living nightmare... you could have walked away... you could have said "no" you could have
saved yourself... instead you've plodded along hoping by some miracle and in some way things would have
improved for the better... now you're watching this video. I've been there, i've done that and i've
got the t-shirt! There are several reasons why you do not end your relationship in my opinion
some are obvious and some may surprise you... either way discovering this video is a sign something
needs to change for you for the better, because you know the familiar has not served you well thus far...
You know that staying in the relationship, trying everything, exhausting all your options....
has led you to this point! Let's explore this interesting subject a little bit deeper...
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my videos! This is how things normally pan out = you meet someone... ignore the red flags
or perhaps they mask them for you for months or even years... then that mask officially slips and
you know the truth now and it stares you in the face! You see this person for what they truly are
what they truly believe and how they truly want to act and so on. It may come as a shock to you
or perhaps you saw it coming from a mile away and still for some god forsaken reason you ignored it!
Now what? Well what typically happens especially with a toxic person is you get stuck in a cycle
you have a disagreement... things escalate out of control... you shout and scream
you try to leave... they try to hoover you back in... you kiss and make up... nothing gets resolved ever
you have another disagreement and then the cycle begins from the beginning all over again!
Every single time you think you're out you're hoovered straight back in for more of the same...
BS! There is no closure... nothing ever gets better they continue to get worse and worse and you lay
there and metaphorically take it, praying for something to change or even a miracle...
and worst of all you genuinely start to believe that you are the problem in all of this!
Well technically you are a big problem because you're with somebody you should never have seen
more than once or twice, when in fact you probably should have left after the first drink! You need
to stop the cycle, cut the cord, walk away! This cycle is so damaging to your self-esteem and
overall well-being, you will feel like you're like bashing yourself against a brick wall in
the process and getting nowhere at all! You'll feel like you're talking to a brick wall! Stop the cycle!
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This particular point can have an entire video dedicated to it
bad enders can become without realizing it addicted to drama! What do i mean by this?
All people engage in some attention seeking behaviors time to time
but this is about recognizing a pattern. If you regularly gossip, exaggerate, stir up problems
get into stupid arguments... this suggests you're addicted to drama! I dated a narcissist for years
it was a toxic relationship, i shouldn't have gone out with this woman for more than one date
but she was attractive... i was a bad ender the rest is history! She was toxic in the following ways
she created regular drama, her family created drama, she always had issues and problems, there
were always arguments and extreme incidents! One time she got into a real big argument
with an ice cream vendor on a hot summer's day because she didn't get any sprinkles! What the hell?!
My nature's the opposite = i consider myself a kind, chilled out, compassionate man... i don't like or want
confrontation... i can't stand drama at all! Yet when i was dating the narcissist i adopted these traits
i gossiped more... i argued more... i shouted and raised my voice more... i swore more... i felt angrier overall
everyone was the enemy! I started playing the victim which was toxic! Jim Rohn said
"You become who you surround yourself with!!" You are a bad ender most likely
and if you associate with a drama queen (male or female) do not be surprised to become
addicted to their drama...start to manifest more drama, and create more drama for your life overall...
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Scarcity thinking and operating out of lack may be a reason why you don't end your relationship!
This can be understandable, perhaps you have really low self-esteem... you're lacking
confidence... maybe you've attracted the wrong people... or you're too much of a people pleaser!
Here are some typical scarcity thoughts that may have plagued you to a relationship
longer than you should have had = "I won't find anyone better... i'm too old to date... i'm too
old to get married... i'm not cool or popular enough... i'm scared to date again... it's been too long
online dating scares me... you need to be wealthy to get a partner... you need to know the right people
i have no contacts... you need to be taller... you need to be slim or in good shape... you need to be really
attractive..." Another reason why i stayed so long in my toxic relationship with the narcissist
is because i had scarcity thinking too! She was attractive so i said "i won't find anyone as good
looking as her!" I'd got comfortable and lazy... i said "i can't be bothered to go on dating apps!"
I'd gotten a bit older too "well i'm way too old to be single again!"
The reality was i was pretty much digging my own grave, toxic relationships never change
for the better or become healthy in any capacity no matter what you do! When i realized that there
are good healthy genuine women out there and i was wasting my life and time i got the hell out!
Without realizing it scarcity thinking it may be programmed in you from your parents your teachers
whatever, and it's ruining your life! Hence why you stay... your mind... these negative thoughts are
forcing you to stay! The last reason why you do not end your relationship and stay miserable and
unsatisfied is because you look for excuses! If you are actively looking for excuses you can and will
find them and of course worst case scenario you'll make them up! This could be any of the following =
"It's against my religion to get divorced... my parents will be devastated if i get single...
my children don't want single parents... they have already given up so much to be with me
i cannot offend my in-laws... i had a beautiful wedding i've got to see this out... my neighbors
will judge me look down on me... my work's too busy i can't afford to be single right now...
life is stressful as it is i must stick it out...." As well as having scarcity thinking
and a lack of confidence, I made countless excuses to stay in my toxic relationship! One was "i have a
lot of work going on, i can't afford to worry about being single too!" How stupid and foolish was that?!
My toxic relationship only added more to the stress to the point i almost had a complete
mental breakdown had i not walked away! Excuses are for the weak... life is too short for excuses...
when there are people out there living wholesome happy and healthy lives with the right person!
Because truthfully you'll never be good enough for the wrong person!