Matt: Hey man have you ever been on a date with a girl that just went horribly
wrong? Or worse - it went really well but then she never called you again or she
told you there was no connection? That flat-out sucks! And chances are you made
one of the seven mistakes that I'm about to talk about, and when you stop making
these mistakes not only will you have a lot more successful dates but you'll
also feel a deeper connection with her.. she'll be more attracted to you and
you'll be more likely to get a second or third date and turn things romantic and
intimate a whole lot faster.
A lot of guys set up dates that are just way too formal, they take them to really
expensive restaurants trying to impress them but the reality is that it actually
has the opposite effect because think about it anybody can take her to a fancy
restaurant but can anybody be as cool and badarse as you? I don't think so. So
impress her with your personality and by who you are as a man not by the place
that you take her.. plus taking her to dinner is just flat-out boring and
average. Be a little bit more creative than that instead take her to places
that you enjoy, places that are fun for you,
because if it's memorable! Then she'll want to go on another date with you so
in that note, movies are out instead take her to a fun bar or do an activity
together whether it's ice skating, or rollerblading, or laser tag.
That would actually be a pretty fun date
and that's gonna be a lot more memorable but if you're an older guy and that
sounds a little childish but think think of some other things that you could do
with her even just going to a cool lounge and getting to know each other
over drinks is totally fine and try to find bars and lounges that have a more
romantic or even seductive vibe the lighting and the music is a little lower
versus like a rowdy frat club next is dressing sloppy my dad actually got
remarried two years ago and I've never seen him happier in his entire life but
when he showed up to that first date with the woman who's now his wife he was
wearing Krux sweat shorts and a t-shirt that was
about two sizes too big and she was immediately turned off but luckily she's
very open-minded and she gave him a chance but some women will not be so
open-minded you don't want to miss out on the relationship of your dreams just
because you don't know how to dress yourself
first impressions do matter because we make a lot of assumptions about the
person just by what they're wearing because we don't know anything else
about them at the time so make sure you start the date on the right foot because
you probably put in some effort to get her on a date with you you don't want to
sabotage yourself just because you picked out the wrong outfit and we have
a lot of videos to help you with your fashion and style I'll put a link to our
fashion playlist down in the description make sure to check that out
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next mistake is asking her where she wants to go no no no you are the man you
take the lead don't put all that pressure on her that she has to pick the
venue women want a man with a plan so have a plan not just for where you start
the date but also where you go throughout the date and where you end up
because that's gonna show that you're a leader and that's highly attractive when
you are taking the lead from the very beginning so when you're setting up the
date don't text or hey want to hang out sometime tell her where to meet you what
time and I like to even tell her what to wear actually I always tell women to
wear either a dress or a skirt and heels because then she's gonna feel more sexy
and sexual and that just starts the date off on the right foot
and quite frankly I want her to feel that way now I know some of you
feminized men out there thinking what are you talking about women are equal
nowadays they should be asking me out not gonna happen bro a feminine woman
those are the kind of women you're probably attracted to want a masculine
man that means a man that knows how to take the lead take control not be
controlling but can lead the interaction because if you don't do that then she's
gonna have to step into her masculine energy and take the lead and that's
gonna make her lose all attraction towards you because then she's gonna see
you as a feminine man so speaking of taking the lead throughout the date that
means going to more than one venue because one venue equals one memory with
you imagine you're hanging out with her for two hours in one coffee shop and
you're talking about all these great things but she really has just one
memory of you at that coffee shop but instead what if within those two hours
you kept moving around every 30 minutes or so that would be five different
venues that's five experiences and five memories it's more like an adventure and
of course it's gonna be a lot more memorable and she's gonna feel like she
knows you better she's gonna have a deeper connection with you because you
had multiple experiences together in fact it'll actually feel like five dates
like she's on a fifth date with you by the end of that date logically she knows
it's the first date but it'll feel like she knows you so well that you've been
on five dates together which of course can really speed up the relationship and
speed up the intimacy if that's what you want so be the man with a plan and know
exactly where you're gonna go pick three to five different locations that you can
take her throughout the date and even if you're in a new city and you don't know
where to go for example when I first moved to San Diego I went on a date with
this girl I really liked her and it was raining outside I pick her up and I'm
thinking oh it's raining she'll probably say hey let's just stay in my place and
watch a movie I'd like this stupid fantasy in my mind
and of course that didn't happen she hops into the car she says okay where
are we going and I didn't even know the city so I just said well you know what I
didn't really have any time to do the research I'm new here so let's just
drive and we'll figure it out as we go it'll be an adventure and she goes oh I
like that so why we were driving she actually gave some input she said well
there's a Dave & Buster's if we go this way and then there's downtown all these
bars if we go that way and I said well hey let's go to Dave & Buster's I like
playing video games so she gave me some input but it was ultimately me who made
the final decision and it ended up being an amazing first date the next mistake
that a lot of guys make is they don't make the move and I get it man I've been
there everything's going great and you don't want to risk anything you don't
want her to like freak out or think you're I don't know weird or creepy or
too forward so you end up just sitting there I'm not kissing her even though
you want to and here's the deal man most feminine women are not gonna make the
first move they expect you to do it and if things are going great and you know
the mood is kind of set meaning you've taken her to some venues that they have
you know a little bit more intimate vibe or maybe you're just walking through the
park or whatever and you don't go for the kiss she's likely to be disappointed
and she's gonna feel like you're a weak man like you just didn't have the balls
to go for it who's she gonna go on a second date with the guy who had the
balls to make the move or the guy who was too afraid to make the move so you
think you're playing it safe by not kissing her but really you're sabotaging
yourself so as long as things are going well and you guys obviously like each
other then I recommend somewhere in the middle or towards the end of the date
make your move go for the kiss even if it's not the
perfect moment try to create the moment in fact one time I was on a date with
this girl in Saigon Vietnam and the moment just never created itself I don't
know it was just a little awkward she was very shy but she came back to my
place and she was sitting on the couch but she sat really far away from me she
even put like a pillow between us so I'm like well what do I do it's gonna
be awkward if I try to make a move on her but I figured hey it's better to be
awkward and make the move to not make the move at all so I made the move it
was awkward she didn't reciprocate right away but
now it kind of set the frame that okay I want to kiss her so she just started
kind of relaxing after a little while and I tried again and then she was
totally into it so it's important to remember to even if you make the move
and she doesn't reciprocate and kiss you back as long as you remain calm you
don't act all affected and say hey what's wrong why didn't you kiss me I
thought you liked me yeah as long as you don't do that then she's actually gonna
like you more because she sees you as a man who goes for what she wants and she
feels desired by you and a man's desire is highly intoxicating for a woman so
she doesn't kiss you back be cool remain calm and try again a little bit later
but to get to that first kiss there needs to be some touching along the way
throughout the date so the next mistake that most guys make is they don't touch
right away I'm not saying be they will really touch a guy and have your hands
all over her and you know hold hands with her right away that's a little too
soon but break the touch barrier as soon as you can which is usually when you
first meet her with a hug and a kiss on the cheek and then I usually say all
right let's go and we start walking arm-in-arm that way we're walking to the
first venue the way a couple would walk together but it's not too intimate too
soon it's not like holding hands that would be a little too much I usually
grab her hand when we're going from the first to the second venue or a second to
the third venue especially when we're crossing the street I just grab her hand
we start walking and then I noticed if she keep holding my hand once we get to
the other side and that's a really good sign if she's
holding hands with you especially if she turns like this that's almost always a
good indicator that she wants you to kiss her but the point is don't be
afraid to touch her a little bit throughout the date and I created a
whole video on the best ways to touch a woman that actually can turn her on and
we'll never see him weird or creepy as long as you do it the right way that I
teach you in this video so I'll put a link to that video down in the
description and at the end of this video make sure to watch it next probably one
of the biggest mistakes that guys make on a date is talking about themselves
too much I hear women complaining about this all the time for a few reasons
number one if you keep talking about yourself she knows everything about you
you're no longer a mystery and if you're not the exact category of the type of
man that she wants then she's probably not gonna go on a second date with you
because there's nothing else to figure out and second it's just kind of boring
to listen to somebody that you don't really know that well talk about
themselves forever because honestly on a first date you don't care about the
other person all that much but guess who you do care about yourself which is why
you're talking about yourself so much so get her to open up get her to talk about
herself I know that's kind of contradictory cuz
I just said you don't care about other people as much as you care about
yourself but try to really listen don't think about what you're gonna say
because that puts you all up in your head and she can feel that you're not
really connecting there with her instead be present
feel your body and listen to every word she says if you can do that even if
she's talking and talking and talking she's gonna feel a connection with you
and she's gonna feel like you really listen and care about her and that's why
you should also play laser tag or do fun things on the date that way you don't
always have to be talking the entire time remember the point of a date number
one is to get to know each other to see if there's a compatibility or not and
number two is to have fun so that means the conversation should be fun it
shouldn't be too serious it should definitely not be like an interview that
will bore her to death so to help you out I created an entire cheat sheet
called the conversation cheat sheet that will help you not only know what to say
on a date and fun things to keep the conversation flirty fun and help you
lead to the more intimate and sensual level but
also how to talk to women in normal everyday situations if you see a woman
walking down the street or at a coffee shop so you know exactly how to approach
her and you know exactly what to say so that you can get a phone over and get a
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