- Heya Playa.
Have you ever been texting back and forth with a girl
and started to get the feeling that she
was losing interest in the conversation?
If you have don't worry.
I'm gonna share five definite signs
that she is losing interest and by the end of this video
I'm going to teach you exactly what you can do about it.
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The first sign I really want to look at
that shows a girl is losing interest in a conversation
is that her answers are short and infrequent.
Whenever you send her a message she kind of
responds back with one word answers
or just simple phrases like, "Cool" or "Kay" or "Thanks."
And that can kind of send off signals to you
to make you feel like she's just not
as invested in the conversation.
You're kind of writing out sentences or asking questions
and she isn't really giving you full on responses
which can can make you feel like, hey,
she's just saying something just so that she can respond.
Not really to be engaged but just so that she can keep
the conversation at least at bay enough
so that I don't ask her why she's being weird.
These type of responses can almost feel like pity responses.
Like she doesn't want to be rude by not responding to you
but she's also not invested in the conversation.
Which is why she's giving short answers like that.
They're short, they're non-descriptive,
they don't really engage in the conversation.
They kind of actually just keep it at bay.
So what exactly are you supposed to do
in those type of situations?
Well, I think the best thing to do
is to walk away from the conversation.
To say something to her like,
"Hey, I see that you're not really invested right now
or your kind of busy, talk to me when you're free later on."
And by saying something like that you're kind of
giving her three options.
The first one being to redeem herself.
To say something like,
"Hey, I'm sorry I was busy
but I really do want to talk to you."
The second option being that she
just flat out agrees with you and says, "Okay, cool"
and just lets it be.
And when you get those type of responses
you know that she's just not invested.
You know to stop investing so much into that conversation.
To stop worrying about it so much
and stop trying to make it into something that it isn't.
And the third thing is that you're giving yourself
a sense of self-respect.
You're allowing yourself to walk away
and not be pulled along her chain
just because you really like her
and you want her to talk to you.
You're able to walk away
and you're not tied to it in any means.
The second sign, which I'm sure you're all too familiar with
is that she reads the message or sees it
and just doesn't respond.
You see her little icon appear on the bottom
that shows that she received it and she saw it
but she just doesn't give you a response
to whatever it is that you asked her.
Maybe you asked her a question,
maybe you just commented on something,
maybe you just asked her how she was doing.
Something simple like that
and no, you get nothing from her at all.
And before you freak out and think,
"She didn't respond to my message,
that's it she doesn't care,
she wants nothing to do with me."
Really take into account the simple truth
that she might be busy,
she might have seen your message
and not know what to say to it.
Or she might have seen your message
and is going to respond to it later on.
By her seeing your message and not responding,
it is a sign that she's not as interested
because it's not a priority in her life.
Doesn't mean it should be a priority
but it just means that it isn't.
And that's something you might have to accept.
Especially if you're in the beginning phases
of talking to someone.
You're not going to jump to the top
of her priority list of people to respond to.
She has friends and family and other people
that she might be pursuing too
that are higher on that totem pole.
So you need to work your way up
in terms of being important to her.
In terms of her caring enough to respond to your message
as soon as you send it.
The third sign that she's losing interest
is that she blocks you, she mutes you, or she unfollows you.
Anything where she kind of distances herself
from you online is a sign of disinterest.
Now I know a lot of you might be freaking out and thinking,
"Well, my crush didn't follow me in the first place.
What does that mean?"
Or "She blocked me but then she unblocked me
and then she re-blocked me and then unblocked me.
What is that all about?
Is it just a game because she like me?"
I think if someone goes to the lengths of pushing you away
that's a sign of disinterest.
It just means that they don't want to be around you,
they don't want you to interact with them,
or they may just not want you to see
the things that they're posting.
And that just means that you have
to find alternative methods and ways to talk to them.
I'm always recommending talking to them in person.
I feel like that's the strongest way to build a connection.
And if you're only pursuing them online
or you're only trying to talk to them online
it's gonna be difficult if they blocked you
all over the place, everywhere you're on.
The fourth sign that she's losing interest
is that she starts to call you names like weird or creepy
or even low key things like,
"You're a brother to me" or "You're my best friend"
or "I can share anything with you, we're super close
I hope we never lose our friendship."
Things like that.
The moment she starts to identify you
as someone other than who she wants to date
you know you're on a path to either be friend-zoned
or completely blocked by her
because you're just too weird
and she wants nothing to do with you.
So what do you do in those situations?
If she starts to call you things like,
"You're a great friend to me,"
"You're my best friend, you're a brother to me."
You have to stop her right there in her tracks
and say, "Hey, I don't view you in that way.
I think you're cute, I think you're cool,
and I want to hang out with you sometime
to really get to know you to see if we can work."
I think by establishing what you want right then and there
and not going along with the nicknames
you either get a response from her
that's onboard with what you're saying
or she's gonna say, "But I don't see you like that."
And you can cut it clean right now.
Don't settle for an identity she's chosen for you
that you don't agree with
because all you're gonna end up doing is hurting yourself.
You're gonna play along with it
and then later on reveal your feelings which is gonna make
everything crash and burn a whole lot faster.
And the fifth sign that she's losing interest over text
is that she outright tells you that you text her too much.
She doesn't want to speak to you that often.
So she wants you to kind of limit your messages
and limit the amount of times you reach out to contact her.
And this one is something that
you may have more control over than you think.
Do you send her boring messages like,
"Hey, how's your day," "What's up,"
"How's it going" every single day.
If you do, there's nothing interesting there.
There's no reason for her to be invested
in that conversation
because it's the same drag over and over.
Or do you just send her a lot of messages
in a row where it looks and feels like spam?
It's just, "Hey, hey, hey, how's it goin?
What's up? Where are you?
Where are you? Why aren't you responding?
Why aren't you responding?
What's going on?
Hey."
All those different types of things.
If you're doing that type of thing way to much
of course the girl is gonna feel overwhelmed.
She's not gonna want to respond
because mind blown, it's just too much for her to take in.
Now all of these different signs of her losing interest
point to one thing.
And that is that you need to change
the way that you communicate with her.
You don't want to send her boring messages
or spam her over and over.
You don't want to kind of get angry at her
whenever she doesn't respond.
You need to change the way that you perceive
the conversation between the two of you.
You want to send her messages that
are engaging and fun and flirty.
The kind of messages that whenever she receives them
her heart skips a beat
and she starts to get that tingly feeling inside
and she just can't wait to open it up.
But now I wanna know, what do you think?
Do you feel like your crush is losing interest
in you over text?
That they're not as responsive
or they're just not as engaged as they once were?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
The learning doesn't end here though.
I have a bunch of more videos on texting
that I think would be super helpful for you.
I talk all about what to do when she doesn't respond,
how to send the perfect text, how to flirt over text,
how to use emojis, all those different kinds of things.
So tap on the playlist right here on your screen.
Hit the thumbs up button and go check out those videos.
I'll see you guys over there.
As always, love and peace.