- Now I know that half of you sexy single ladies
are completely fed up by today's dating scene
and the other half are thinking is this even dating anymore?
So I wanted to go ahead and create
a little bit of clarity for you
and give you a guide for today's 21st century dating scene.
Now let's just say that I do not endorse these actions,
I'm simply explaining to you this living hell
that we all find ourselves living in, thank you Tinder.
And this the non-date date.
Now many times this is referred to as a hang out
and this usually involves alcohol, flirtation,
causing you to wake up with a massive hangover
in complete confusion as to whether or not
true love even exists anymore.
Ladies don't accept a hang out,
you deserve at a minimum, at an absolute minimum a real date
and if a guy is not willing to take you out on a date,
it's because he has four other women he could hang out with
if you don't hang out with him.
Benching, which is a verb.
This is essentially being inconsistent
of your treatment of a person
when you are unsure about how you feel about said person.
Are you going out with two different guys?
Not sure of who you like more,
put them on the bench, see who wants it more.
Next, the slow fade.
This is where you gradually cut off communication
with someone by easing the let down process
over an extended period of time.
This is kind of like death by a thousand cuts,
except it's more like death by 10 very, very slow texts.
Let me tell you ladies one thing,
you sexy single ladies are equally guilty of this one.
So here's my rule,
if you only go out on one date,
sure you can do the slow fade out, it's only been one date,
but if you go on two dates or more,
I want you to end things like a woman,
just let the guy know that it's not gonna work out,
you are not really interested.
This will give you some really good dating karma, trust me.
Draking, which is a verb.
Now this is made famous by no one other than Drake.
This describes someone who's behaving very emotional,
irrational or completely miserable in a relationship.
Is the guy sending you drunken
late night texts wanting you back?
That dude is draking.
Jelly, which is a verb.
Now if you hear a girlfriend say the word jelly at brunch,
it's likely she doesn't mean for you to pass
the delicious jelly to put on her english muffin, no,
it means that she's jealous of another girl.
Peacocking, which is also a verb.
When men try to be pick up artists and dress flamboyantly
to get you to notice them, is it working?
Now you tell me how bad do you want this.
The swerve, a verb.
Now this is simply avoiding someone who you have
absolutely no romantic interest in.
Is there a guy at work who's always trying
to hit on you at the Keurig machine
whenever you need a freaking cup of coffee?
You swerve him when you go spend
four dollars at Starbucks to avoid being hit on.
And last but not least, cuffing season.
Yes, the time between Thanksgiving and spring,
when people start dating purely
to avoid being lonely during the winter,
but believe it or not I just heard about this the other day,
if you don't want a boyfriend,
but you still want to be cuddled this winter,
there is a solution for you.
There is a service, literally it's the Uber for cuddling.
Get this, there's a woman, Amaku Ukpong
who gets paid $80 an hour to snuggle with random dudes.
I get what you are thinking, and no, nothing sexual
and I'm pretty sure you can sign up to be a snuggler.
So here's my advice to you,
if you don't want a boyfriend yet, you are not sure,
just go cuddle some dudes for $80 an hour,
why not make some money while you are doing it?
So there you have it, that is modern century dating
and if you've found 21st century love and dating
as absolutely laughable as I do,
then it's time that we all change this conversation.
Laugh at this behavior for what it is, actually laughable.
And if a man tries to pull this shit, laugh in his face.
Stand up for your standards,
if a man doesn't meet them then he's fucking gone
and more importantly lead by example,
rise above the bull shit.
If you're finding that men are ghosting on you,
then you better make sure as hell
that you are not ghosting on other guys.
If you don't like when people fade out on you,
then don't fade out on other people.
Be the better person, look love is the most
beautiful emotions that humans can ever experience
and don't allow all of this distraction to make you jaded.
Keep getting out there, keep pushing,
have high standards for yourself and have some fun
while you're getting out there and meeting new people.
And let's all work together,
create a new set of love standards
that we all need to live by, so share if you agree.
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that will help you navigate today's crazy,
hectic, 21st century dating scene.
Thank you so much for watching and I'll speak to you,
you sexy single lady next week, bye-bye.