Hey Dan here and in today's video. I'm answering a question from an ambitious young ENFP named Jim.
He says my question is what are some
important things that an ambitious young person should consider when entering the real world. Are there things that less
experienced people might brush over or miss? Well Jim. Yes, there are and I'm gonna share six pieces of advice today
The first is that learning pays
exponential result what I mean by that is something you learn when you are 20 that maybe
Changes your behavior helps you be a better version of yourself
and even if that gives you a
1% boost every year compared to how you would have been if you didn't learn that
1% over the next 80 years of your life is a really big deal when I was in my 20s
I spent a lot of time learning going to personal development
Events and all this sort of thing and my result at the time in terms of how I felt and things like that were great
Terms of my bank account not exactly amazing
It was a slower start perhaps to life then it could have been if I had have just jumped into a job as a management
Consultant or something, but all that time
I invested in learning and developing myself keeps paying dividends even today and I'm sure it will 10 20 30 years from now
So don't feel bad about investing a lot of time in learning when you're younger not necessarily academic learning
Don't go get a third master's degree or anything like that
But I mean learning about being a better version of yourself
Now on that note when I say learning
I do not just mean from books or audiobooks or YouTube people really matter as well
And this is my next piece of advice the people in your life will have a greater impact on who you are
Who you become and what you do than anything else in your life?
so pay attention to who you spend time with pay attention to the
attitudes and the beliefs and the way the people around you make you feel because ultimately that's going to determine
Who you become and the life you lead. This can be a really amazing thing
If you surround yourself with great people it becomes pretty easy to have a great life
But if you do the opposite the results are not so good. The other thing about real people is how do I say this?
Real people make things real right. I know deep profound statement, but it's true at my event here in Prague a few weeks ago
I had a couple friends come who are professional youtubers between them
they have something like 6 million subscribers and one of the reasons I love having them at the event aside from
sharing some of their insights on YouTube and all this is they take a
Profession which people assume isn't really possible like becoming of youtuber earning all your money
Just making videos and doing what you like to do people assume that's impossible
And even though they know what is possible because they see other
Youtubers or people online doing it
It's not until you meet someone in person where it becomes real and you're like wait a minute
You're you're a normal person and you're doing that thing that I want to do and oh, ok, this makes sense
so aside from encouragement and support and
Insights and ideas all the things you can get from the people around you one of the best things you get by being around people
Doing the thing you want to do is it becomes real and once something is real to you?
It becomes a lot easier to pursue and I suppose on that same note
If you surround yourself with people who all have the kind of job
You don't want to have and who all believe the kind of job or business you do want to have is impossible
Well, that's going to make the thing
You really want to do
Not possible not real and the odds of you actually
Pursuing it and doing it when you're in that environment when you're with those people is going to be a lot lower now
I already talked about the benefits of learning and how that will impact you throughout your whole life
when you are young and this is especially true of enfps getting a lot of experience is
Critical because it helps you build your intuition as you get older one of your biggest superpowers
if not
Your best superpower across the board is your sense of intuition
And being able to trust your gut and make decisions that way and this is something you hear not just for enfps
But across the board when you see really successful people interviewed
They often do talk about trusting their
Intuition and trusting their gut the way you get an intuition you can trust is by taking risk screwing up making mistakes getting a ton
Of input unfortunately
I see a lot of young people jump right into a career at age like 21 or 22 and in America or Canada?
Maybe it's like 26 or 27
Europe without really knowing what they want to do it all and the problem with that is when you come out at like
40 and you're like, oh I do not like this job
I want to make a career change and I've been in contact with people like that who call me about coaching and they they want
to work with me because they've
Became a doctor or an accountant or something and they want to make a change
But if you've been doing that your whole life, you don't have that many input
So I would really encourage you to screw up to travel to try new things in your 20s
I'll tell you right now you'll face pressure from other people about the fact that you need to be buying a house by your 30
If you're in Canada or America, that's the pressure that's out there now, right?
You need to be saving you need to work up the career track all that sort of thing. Great
But I'm guessing if you're watching my videos in my channel
That's not really something that really resonates with you
And the worst thing you can do is buckle down in your 20s work a job
You don't really like because you gave in to that pressure and then when you're like 35 decide forget that pressure
I'm gonna go travel the world and find myself. That's still good
I do it at 35 instead of never but in terms of career disruption or
Business drop ssin or anything else building a life. If you do want to do that when you're older and buy build a life
I mean, you know family kids buy a house that sort of thing
It's a lot better to do the crazy stuff when you're in your 20s figure out who you are a bit more figure out what?
You really?
want in life and then have a little more focus in your 30s and 40s and Beyond not a ton of focus you can still
Have a lot of fun. Trust me on that one, but definitely use your 20s to experiment and see who you really are
So there's two more tips. I want to share and the last one is especially important for any idealist
That is an NF
Personality type number five my advice for young people is to think about and learn about the day-to-day
for any kind of career
Job or business you want to start?
there are so many people I meet who are optimists and who
Imagine the best and say become a lawyer because they watch the practice. I almost did this. I watched the practice
It was a TV show when I was growing up about
Lawyers who came up with these crazy creative plans and always got their clients off the hook
and that's what I thought being a lawyer would be and then had a mock trial in my
High school law class and that's apparently not how things really work the reality of being a lawyer in
Most law firms in most places now is you're reading paperwork. You're basically a glorified secretary in a lot of cases, right?
So that's okay. That's what you're looking for because the job still appeals to you
But if you think you're gonna be in the courtroom getting justice
Defending people that no one else will defend and then you go get like a corporate law gig
Probably not going to add up with reality, right?
I hear the same thing about architecture a lot that the reality of the job is not creative. It is not fun
It's not about making things
it's usually about getting permits and doing paperwork for the people above you so before committing to a job and even worse before committing to
A degree that in the u.s
Might get you a hundred two hundred thousand dollars in debt go see what the real job is like
Interview five people with that job go to the office pretend you're janitor heck get a job as a janitor and walk around the office
and see what people do see how happy they are do that before you commit to the
Education for heaven's sake, please. Please do that if you do anything from this video and last but definitely not least is
Emotions matter you're an optimist
It can become easy to assume that you'll be able to
Tough it out and get the best results from a job and maybe there's a career you want to do or some where you want
To live that is it really great. You're not that excited about it, but you convinced yourself
You'll be able to do it
You know, this is like me with a counting is whenever I eventually need to do it. I do it and I tell myself
Yeah, it's not that bad
I'll just do it next time but it's never really enjoyable and it never gets better and it always gets done late, right?
So keep this in mind
Ultimately, your emotions are gonna have a huge impact on your performance at any kind of job or business
You start don't be overly optimistic
When you're picking what you want to do be optimistic, in other areas of your life being an optimist can be very good
But don't get into a career that from the beginning
You have your doubts about but you tell yourself you'll be able to tough it out or be
Disciplined or any of this emotions matter and if you don't feel connected with what you're doing
If you're not really enjoying it and aligned with the mission over the long run you're going to bail out of it
And it's a lot better to just not start it then fail at it because you're not emotionally connected and then bail out Wow
so if you are a young person and you are still watching you have the top zero zero zero point one percent of
attention spans of your generation so
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Which of these six pieces of advice was your favorite and which are you going to put into action immediately?
Thank you for watching. Catch you in the next video soon.