- Heya playa, are you getting those signs
from your crush that they really don't like
you back but you don't wanna throw in the towel just yet?
When is the right time to give up?
I know the exact answer and I'm gonna share that
with you right after this.
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This is gonna be a tough pill to swallow
because in reality a lot of you don't really
wanna know the answer to this because it means
giving up on your crush, it means no longer
pursuing them, it means moving on
and that's a scary thought.
If you've liked someone for the longest time
the idea of just moving on from them might seem ridiculous.
No, you have to keep focused on them,
you have to keep trying to be with them
because you like them and giving up
those feelings is just not something you're willing to do.
So instead of just telling you to give up on them
how about we look at some of the signs
that you can determine for yourself whether
or not it makes sense for you to stop pursuing them.
The first sign, they don't really respond
to your messages or engage in conversation with you.
Whenever you try to talk to them, they just kind
of brush you off or give you these one-word
answers that just kind of don't really take
the conversation in any direction other than down.
Now, just because they're bad at responding
doesn't mean you should flat-out give up.
Maybe they're busy, maybe they're gonna respond
later, or maybe they don't know what to say
in response to your message.
The point here is that this is just one
of the signs to be looking for.
So if you get multiple signs, I think we can
have a clearer path.
The second sign, every time you try to talk
to them in person they're always bringing other
people into the conversation or they're trying
to keep it short between the two of you
so they can walk away.
Now look, sometimes people are busy
and there are reasons why they would do this
but if you're noticing a consistent pattern
that every time you try to communicate
with your crush they're not really giving you
the time of day, that's something to pay attention to.
The third sign, every single time you ask
your crush to hang out they give you the runaround.
They can't make it or they're busy or they have other plans.
If you're noticing a pattern where your crush
is just kind of avoiding you at all costs
that's something to really pay attention to here.
And the fourth sign should make it way
more obvious but sometimes it doesn't.
Your crush tells you flat-out or one of their
friends tell you that they just don't like you.
Now hearing that sometimes can be a bit jarring.
It can throw you off.
It can make you feel like, "Well, the only reason
"you don't like me is because you don't me
"and once you get to know me, that's gonna change."
But if your crush is telling you flat-out
how they feel, I would listen.
If you've ever gotten one of these signs before
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Now, getting any of these signs should make
it obvious that you should give up, but why
do people still hold on?
Why is it still so hard for you to just give up
and move on?
Well, there's hope and there's feelings
and whenever those things come into play
rationality and reality tend to go out the window
a little bit.
So how do you bring yourself back to the truth?
How do you bring yourself back to the actual
situation that you're in and recognize
that it's time to give up?
Well, I think in that situation what you need
to do is listen to my next words very closely.
You need to be pursuing multiple crushes at a time.
The reason why people get hung up on one person,
why they get one-itis, is because they don't
have multiple options.
So when you're only looking at one person
hoping that it's gonna work with them
you're giving up other opportunities
and chances you can develop with other people.
Let's say there were three people
you were interested in as opposed to just one.
Well, obviously one of them is gonna be your
main crush, the one you really wanna get with,
the one you have strongest feelings for.
But that one might be the person that's actually
blowing you off and not really responding to you
and not giving you the time of day.
So what about the other two crushes?
What should you do about them?
I think if you're in that situation, it's super
important to give your other crushes a chance.
Who knows, that maybe by talking to your second
crush a whole lot more, by learning more
about them, by spending time with them,
you might actually develop a better relationship.
You might actually like them a whole lot more
than your first crush.
So by diversifying your feelings across the board
and not just sticking 'em to one person
you actually make it easier for you
to move on when things aren't going well.
The sooner you can realize that the more
opportunities you have, the better chance
you have of winning, the easier it's gonna be
for you to give up on your crush
when you start to notice those signs
and to not chase them down the rabbit hole.
Now, if you haven't already hit the thumbs-up
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on how to be a more likable person,
how to get the person you like to like you back.
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Go check it out.
On that note, guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.