So you’ve been dating your man for some time now and you can’t help but think about
your future together.
Maybe that means worldly travels, or perhaps even children.
Before these things happen though, you’re really hoping to tie the knot and get married.
So then, how do you make your boyfriend get down on one knee and commit to marrying you?
Hey YouTube, Amy North here.
For those of you who don’t know me I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC and
author of The Devotion System, a program I’ve designed to help women find and lock down
their dream men.
Today what I want to share with you are the steps, or milestones rather, that you’ll
need to meet if you’re looking to get your boyfriend to become your husband.
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Now, let’s begin.
So, first things first.
If you’re going to get your man to marry you it’s important that you love yourself.
Now you may be thinking this sounds odd, I mean, you already got the guy, so why should
you focus on yourself?
Well believe it or not so many men stick around in relationships even if they know that they’re
not going to marry that person.
Maybe it’s for convenience or perhaps they just don’t have the heart to call it quits
with their girlfriend.
Despite how unfair this may seem or their reasons for doing so, it’s true that there
needs to be a certain amount of admiration there if they’re going to marry you.
And when I say admiration I mean it in two ways.
First, he needs to admire you, obviously, and second, he needs to know that you admire
yourself.
After all, if you don’t love you, then why should he?
So, how do you show your guy that you love yourself?
Well the easiest way to do so is to have standards for yourself, a ceaseless sense of confidence
and most of all, a source of happiness that isn’t him.
As much as you may think that your man loves being your knight in shining armour, he’s
not there to fix you or fill a void.
Sure he’ll support and protect you, but he needs to know that you are your own person.
Now this doesn’t mean you need to hide all your flaws, because let’s face it, if you’ve
been dating for sometime then he’s going to know your vulnerabilities.
Rather it means not depending on him to be your sole source of happiness and having your
own life outside of the relationship.
That’s step one in any healthy partnership.
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The next step to getting your boyfriend to marry you is to share an emotional connection
with him.
Now I say emotional connection here because as you’ve probably guessed, it’s about
more than sex or being physically attracted to one another.
Not to be mistaken for depending on one another for approval and support, an emotional connection
happens when you and your man have mutual feelings towards the same things.
For example, this could mean having shared goals or realizing the beauty in simply holding
hands as you stroll together.
It’s about sharing similar morals and beliefs.
About seeing eye-to-eye and behaving in a way that you know one another would be proud
of, even when you’re not together.
It can be hard to pinpoint an exact moment or experience that will create this connection,
but believe me, you’ll know it when you feel it because when you do share an emotional
connection, you’ll feel an unspeakable sense of belonging and acceptance between you and
your boyfriend.
Once the two of you build this connection he will be more inclined to want to marry
you, which brings me to my next point.
If you want to get your boyfriend to commit to being your husband then it’s important
that he feels you add value to his life.. and I’m not talking the monetary type.
What I mean here is bringing happiness to his life and being the best part of his day.
When you can be the reason your boyfriend laughs or smiles, or be the person he goes
to for support or a comforting shoulder, then he’s going to want to keep you around.
To make him realize that you bring value to his life there are a few key things you can
do.
For starters, appreciate him.
Men love to feel appreciated by their woman, so make a point to not only verbally thank
him for all of the things he does for you, but also show him that you appreciate him
by taking the time to do thoughtful things for him.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to bend over backwards or break the bank to let him
know that you think he’s swell, but rather something as simple as surprising him with
a nice home-cooked meal after a long day of work, or a back rub before bed, those are
the acts that will really mean something to him.
On the other hand challenging him in a way that makes him want to be a better person,
and showing a genuine interest in his day, those will also get you far.
Simply put, by being your boyfriend’s best friend he’ll realize that the idea of life
without you is unbearable, which in the long run will do wonders for getting him to marry
you.
After all, if he doesn’t, someone else could!
Moving on, if you want to get your boyfriend to make the leap and marry you then it’s
important that you have an unwavering commitment to one another.
This means trusting each other fully and completely.
It shouldn’t bother you when your man goes for a night out on the town with his pals
because you know that he’s with you and only you.
This works both ways too, he should trust you to be your own person and faithful to
him, even when he’s not around.
So many couples overlook this one and instead keep one another on a short lead.
What I mean by this is that even though they say they trust one another, they still let
their jealousy or worrying get in the way of their partner being their own person.
So instead of you both being able to go and experience your hearts desires, you don’t
because you’re too worried about upsetting one another, or possibly even being yelled
at — which by the way has no place in a relationship that’s going to result in a
healthy, happy marriage.
Of course trust comes with time, but if you’re considering marrying your man then now is
a good time to take a step back and evaluate the relationship.
Unless you have this kind of endless trust for one another, you should be focusing on
this before jumping into marriage.
My last tip for you is to be open with one another.
Talking about the possibility of marriage in a causal, subtle way can do wonders for
your relationship.
Now again, I said subtly, so you don’t want to throw the “Would you marry me?”
question at him — that puts him on the spot which isn’t fair, and it won’t necessarily
give you a honest answer.
Instead find a way to bring marriage into the conversation and lightly ask if marriage
is something he wants to experience in his lifetime.
His reaction should give you a pretty good idea, and chances are he’ll ask you too.
Opening up communication between the two of you will take you far.
After all, maybe he was too scared or shy to find out if marriage is even something
you wanted, or perhaps he assumed that you weren’t into that kind of thing.
Who knows!
The only way to make it known that you’d like to get married is to talk about it, so
get chatting!
Well that does it for this video, as always thanks so much for watching.
If you have any questions about what I’ve covered here then feel free to post those
in the comments section below and I’ll do my very best to get back to you as soon as
possible.
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