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Here now on the side of the road in Colombo in Sri Lanka
just getting a fresh juice, bringing some food back and this is an absolutely
wonderful country. If you are from here and you watch these videos please say
hello in the comments below. Approaching a group of girls seems quite
different because instead of approaching one girl or talking one girl,
she's in a group. How do you treat that differently? What are you supposed
to do?
Well the first thing you got to think about in this case I'm gonna actually
teach you right now how to to figure something out on your own or how to
learn. It's like you want to figure out how to approach that group of girls
over there. What you need to think is about the end goal. We want to reverse
engineer anything that we're trying to solve so in this case we're trying to
solve what to do when there's a group of girls so we start with the end in mind.
What is the end in mind? Probably getting the number from the girl that you're
interested in or getting the girl attracted that you're interested in
who's in that group. Now you know what the end goal is so you have to think
what are the steps necessary to go over and talk to the group of girls and then
get the end result? Well you know now the end result is just basically
focusing on that girl that you like so you need to make anything in your power
for that to happen so that means when you go over to the group it's about
eventually singling her out and talking to her and getting her attracted.
I know a lot of guys are like well that's duh Tripp, I know that. That's what I
have to do but what do I do about the friends? Do i distract them? Do I talk to
them? Do I hit on them to make them feel more comfortable and not so bad
that I want their friend? How do I handle that? Now this may seem sort of
counterintuitive but really the best way to do this is to go up to the girl that
you're interested in whether or not she's in a group or not but just going
up to her and starting conversation and using your opening line and then
conversing with her to the point where she's invested and attracted and
then from there you just talk to the group as much as necessary. What I'm
telling you is you don't need to go over and get every single person that you're
talking to interest in you. You can just focus on that one girl and then as
you're in the conversation with her and as necessary, you can spark up
conversation with the people that are next to her and this is gonna take more
of social cues to know when and how to do that. One of my favorite lines to use
when you're talking to the girl and you see that some of her friends are kind of
looking over and they're feeling like a little left out like you should start
talking to them, is saying" So how do you all know each other?" and then that
gets you in there then that starts conversation with the friends. You
can get to know the friends a little bit but then
very important, starting with the end in mind, you always need to go back to the
girl that you want to get attracted and here's the thing; the group is gonna
notice you especially if you're in a bar or social setting. They're gonna notice
what's going on and what you're doing and that's okay. Let them know so then they
will give you the space to talk to her and if they want to intrude
then you talk to them. If they want to come in and talk, don't just ignore them,
talk to them, make conversation with them and then get them to the point where
they like you and then going back to the girl. Again it's about reading
the signs that are going on in the group conversation. Off now to
downtown Colombo to check out one of the main cities here in Sri Lanka.
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So of course you know I'm talking about this concept of cold approaching where
you're approaching a girl who happens to be in a group in any situation, social
situation during the day, at night whatever. But I know that some of you
will end up you know having a friend or a girl that you're in the friend zone
with or someone that you know in class at school through work and she's in a
group there. Well just so you know nothing changes and I hope you know that.
If you are in that latter situation where you know that there is a girl that
you already like, that you're already in communication with, that you're not just
trying and focusing on her to be the one for you because I've said this and I'll
continue to say this that you're wasting your time pining after one girl who's
not interested so it doesn't matter if she's in a group, if she's not in a group,
overall it's just a bad idea. Now I know that one of your concerns of approaching a
girl a group is the potential embarrassment of having to approach in
front of other people. Listen man there is no quick hack or crazy technique I
can tell you to get over this except for actually doing the thing that scares you
here. Just do it! There's nothing I'm gonna say that's
gonna really give you the jump start to go over there and talk to them. Just
remember this is that you shouldn't be caring what people think because
whatever they're thinking is not necessarily judgment on you but it's a
judgment on themselves. Anyone who's judging you for something it's usually
some sort of inner projection that they feel about themselves so if they're
saying like oh my god look at this guy talking with this girl. How you know
why would he ever do that or you know thinking to themselves oh that guy
he never has a shot with her. No one who has full self-esteem and
has respect for themselves would ever be saying or thinking something
like that and if they are that means that they feel crappy about themselves.
So just remember that if you ever go into it to help you not have to care so
much about what other people are thinking. The real way to get over that fear is by
just going over there and giving it a shot and trying it out.
So really quickly, let's just recap here step by step plan. You see a girl, she's
in a group, you're gonna go you're gonna approach her and just focus on her as if
she's all alone and then whether that be in 5 seconds from the approach or
maybe 2 minutes from you going over there and approaching, whatever the
situation is, you look for the sign socially if the people feel like they're
obviously uncomfortable or they're like who is this guy and they're just staring
at you or not chatting with themselves or they interject the conversation to
start to talk to you and start to talk to her. It's only in those times that
you can go in and say okay these people want to start talking. You can interject
and start talking to them and you can say my line which is how do you
guys all know each other and then talk to them just as much as absolutely
necessary to get them to like you a little bit and then understand
that you're really over there to talk to the friend and again this could be you
having to talk to the group for a long time. It could only be for a minute.
There's no exact science because every single social social situation is going
to be different when you're going over and approaching in groups. But I just want
you to know that at the end of the day all it takes is going over and focusing
on the girl thinking with the end in mind you're not trying to get numbers
from all those people. You're not trying to attract all those people. You're just
focused on her. To help you with conversation I have my Chick Crack
program that is free. I put a link in the description below; you can learn about
the topics of conversation that women love to have and you can learn what
those are in the free video. Go ahead and get that and my journey continues in
the wonderful country of Sri Lanka. I'll see you tomorrow.
Peace.